Hi Arp, congratulations on getting so far. As far as AA is concerned, "take what you need and leave the rest" is what a lot of people say and that seems good to me.
I do that, but also try to make at least a small contribution in return. So now I only attend sporadically, and I don't do things by the book (or by The Book) but I do a small service job at one group.
That's a fair deal in terms of what I get out of the movement, I think. Whether its a good idea in terms of my own sobriety is for me to figure out. At the moment, I think it is.
peace, nl.