((Lisa))
He does not define you... you define you. His opinion is none of your business (ever hear that saying, ... opinions are like armpits, we all have a couple?)... think of his opinion of you that way. Unimportant.
Ann's idea of a women's shelter is a good one. You need help, and I hope you reach out for it.
One day at a time. Just do the next right thing... and don't look too far down the road. That's how I get through tough times.
((hugs))
Oh yeah, and I pray like crazy... because it works.