To LST-
I feel so badly for you!!! your frustration and anger is really comes through. I was like that a few years ago, when my kids were younger and more "high maintenance" Tey're older and easier to take care of, a lot of my resentment has faded. I do still feel hurt when he doesn't come home and seems to prefer his drinking buddies to us.
See my post on your weekend one- get out sunday!!! See a movie!! Let him clean up!!!
Right now, I just got home from a prty we all went to. At 11,this kids and I were ready to go- he wasn't. So we came home and he went back.