well I had the talk with my husband and he flat out said he wont give up drinking, it's the only thing he enjoys. So I dropped the axe! I told him that we would have an open relationship and he could continue to stay on with us until all our debts were cleared up and then he was on his own. I told him I would not be left responsible paying off bills we made together. So tonight you can guess he is at the bar testing the open relationship waters. Trying to find out if I am serious or not. I breathed a sigh of relief after I said what I had to say and he went out the door.