Damaged Hi, and welcome to SR
Look up Alanon meetings in your area. Alanon is for families and friends of alcoholics, there you will find people who are going through the same as you, who are recovering from the affects of someones elses drinking problem, You will find unconditional love, friendship, strength and hope, and your anonymity will be protected in alanon.
You wont be short of anyone to grab for coffee, with a listening ear and a nonjudemental attitude, and who will understand exactly where you are coming from.
Keep coming back to SR reading and posting
Love and Huge Hugs
Jewel