You are right, Smoke. I have not read far into these forums. My wife came here to vent her anger with me getting drunk all the time, bitching about what I do and don't do. I read those, and became insensed.
It is very easy to point fingers at other, even your own spouses, and "accuse" one thing or another. In this case, it is drinking. But you purport one side of the arguement. That is my point.
Oh how easy it is to say "drunk" or "alchoholic" withoput getting the big picture. The full understanding.
Makes it very difficult for you all to defend not drinking, while your husbands are accliamed within their professional world.