Originally Posted by
sisterray 
in his mind he was going to prove to me that I needed him. He expected me to do the chasing, and held out for weeks.
Plus if he was using, huge blocks of time that I spent worrying, he was spending in oblivion.
he figured I would get hold of him eventually
he will be glad to come and act like nothing ever happened too.
Ugh-- see this is why I wanted to ask this question here. Yep, all of the above sound like him.
And the 3rd one the most! I could see him seeing that either way-- in time I'll get a hold of him or he'll get a hold of me. Whenever. Tha's how the relationship was, in so many ways I had all this urgency and he was always so 'whatever' about everything I considered worthy of getting worked up over. I used to find that so infuriating.
Thanks, sisterray. No I'm not contacting him, I'm just trying to get to the heart of this whole relationship, now that these days I have just a bit of distance from it.