morning cali wife
our wedding vows also said....to honor and to cherish.
we are not being honored or cherished when we are being abused by the alcoholic.
i tried in vain, to find answers to my husbands problems.....that search led me to near mental, physical, and spiritual breakdown. i was nearly dead spiritually....the light had gone out of my eyes.
i'm so sorry that your life has been ravaged by the effect of alcoholism. it is pain to love them. it is up to us to make the choice to stay in that pain, or to move forward.
one way you can move forward, is to get yourself involved in a support group such as al-anon.
love to you cali wife.....i understand how difficult it is.
jeri