Hello C Wife.
Yes many like you; in fact I was like you. My wife was drinking and still is. We are no longer together, 3 yrs now. In fact in October she had 3 more DUI’s. You no it really does not matter how to shift the cause, genes, choice or otherwise. The fact is that is happening. Like you my Mother is an alcoholic also.
This is great place to contact and talk to people. I really advice you to find an Alanon meeting, and start going to them.
I do understand better or worse and that kept me in the last 4 years of our marriage.
But it also kept me in a kind of hell. It’s a twisted tail I was wagging there and if you look back at some of my past threads you would see what I mean.
Bottom line is that you yourself can do nothing for him. You really need to think about you, I know that sounds selfish but it’s true.
It’s early now and I’m off to work. I’m sure you will get more people writing through out the day.
C