Hey Salamander,
Thanks for your post.
We all know that we are the only ones who can determine if we are alcoholic. I knew for myself because I could never stop after the first sip. I would wake up in the morning with fear, guilt and remorse and swear to never drink again. By noon I would have started again. Hopeless.
I may have handled my husband inappropriately. I pretty much ignored him. I think it had become a habit by then anyway. He was very angry when I said "no booze in the house". I only heard about it second hand though since he is very non confrontational.
My sponsor tells me that other people's opinions about me are none of my business. Boy, that was hard for me to swallow.
Hang in there, girlfriend.