The advice on the money issue is valid from everyone. In the end, you are the one that has to live and accept the results. You may never see the money again, whether or not you pursue the issue, outside of court, with your daughter. So where does that leave you?? Decide what is important TO YOU ... and what it is you want to show to your daughter, and can you do it all?? possibly ... threatening isn't going to work, she won't learn a lesson about money or responsibility, she will only learn to get angry at you, the same with demanding the money from her, or taking her to court, lesson learned for her at this point, is going to be how mad she is at you ... that is what she will remember ... however, first show her empathy, yes empathy, whether or not she deserves it .. she's your daughter and you love her and I am sure there is some situation that is frustrating for her ... let her know, give her a chance to talk, then ask her if you can talk to her about how you feel ... then give her choices, give her some control ... how do you want to pay me?? make payments over time or all at once?? this is called love and logic parenting ... MOST of the time it works ...lol ...good luck prayers are with you ....