Chrissy...
Please think long and hard before helping your A detox. I have tried this with my A once or twice and it was not pleasant. My A has severe mood swings and detoxing at home was pretty rough. After those times I believe it is better to go through a detox program. I know recovery programs are expensive and I know here we have a detox program called Pathways. The cost is based on income and it is a wonderful place. I'm sure your area should have something like that.
Just take one day at a time and the answers will come to you as they are meant to. Best of life to you as you well deserve it.