Morning Blizzard. For some reason he knows that you will give him a reason 'not to commit suicide' - the kids. So he will thrive on that to make you feel bad that he's not happy and wants to end it all.... he knows you'll think of how the kids would feel. Chances are, he wouldn't do such a thing. He's threatening because you are getting stronger and he's not.
My ah is always accusing me of sleeping around. At the moment he's sure that it's someone at my job. That way when I don't answer every time he calls... I'm sleeping w/someone. He will accuse you of that, so that you will reassure him. I don't even go there with mine anymore...I don't respond at all.
I am not very far along w/my recovery. I am not strong enough to let go and let god either. But I am learning things a little at a time ... for when I am ready. Each step is going to make you stronger and more resistant to his threats.
Take care of yourself. That's all we can do...