Whew, he certainly knows how to hit the buttons and dump the guilt-trip on you, doesn't he? You remained calm in the face of his trying to escalate things into a world war. Do NOT feel guilty. If he hates his job, that's his job and his problem. He doesn't hate his children, but by saying he doesn't care about them because he feels nobody cares about him is just him sitting on the pitty pot, along with a lot of quacking. Hang tough and remember that you don't have to let him manipulate you into feeling guilty.