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thank you both for your reply. The answer to your question e1979 is I plan on helping him just by being there for him. supporting him is all I can do. I know hes got to help himself. As far as detoxing is concerned it's done. He went through bad dt's yesterday, and now is his normal self. We are both planning on going to an AA meeting tonight, and he said he is going to get a sponser. Thank god. As for me yes I've been to al-anon before. It has been quite sometime. When I went i wasn't ready to accept it, but I am now.At the time I was so bitter all I wanted to do was scream about what he did to make me feel so bad. I was not concerned about me getting better, now I know I have to care about me. So with the grace of god I am going to focus on me. However i will be there for my husband because i love him, and because I know he does not want to live the way he has before. His words, not mine.All I can do is trust in god and get out of the way while he works.