Hey ladies...need your help!

[amymarie]

Ok I am editing this...
I need help dealing with anger I have at someone. I dont know what to do with it and am really unsure if I am entirely ready to just hand it over...

[51anna]

I felt so much anger when I first stopped drinking. I was angry at the world and mostly myself. The thing to do is to direct your anger into something like exercise or some kind of physical work. Tire yourself out and try to get a different perspective on the situation.

[laurie6781]

Amymarie I would bet that your anger is at someone who DIDN'T DO WHAT YOU WANTED THEM TO DO, WHEN YOU WANTED THEM TO DO IT, TO MAKE YOU MORE COMFORTABLE.

Just remember that when we point a finger at someone else, we have 3 pointing back at our selves.

Maybe, just maybe, Amymarie it's time to start writing with pen and paper about the anger, see what ends up on the paper.

Most of our anger comes from OUR EXPECTATIONS either of others or ourselves,

When you are totally done writing about it, then pray for the other person, every day for 14 days straight and if you miss a day, you start over. Pray for that person to get everything that your HP thinks they need or might need. Remember, if you miss a day, you have to start over.

This does work.

Hope the above helps and gives you some peace.

JMHO

Love and (((((to all))))),

[Connie]

amymarie

In early recovery I bought a punching bag, and used it a lot. I was shocked at the anger I had inside of me. One night in a meeting, I shared the fact that I was using my punching bag on a daily basis. Afterwards, a woman came up to me and said, "Just pray, Connie, pray." I could have slapped her. I was praying, every day, but the physical outlet was necessary at that time.

Anyway, I'm happy to say that little by little, my need to punch the bag has decreased.

It's okay to feel angry. Hang in there, and most importantly, find a safe way to express it.

[amymarie]

Thanks you guys!
The anger is at myself more than anything- fear fear fear!
I have since called 6 women in recovery, stayed in constant contact with my sponsor and prayed for the person who triggered this in me...
I am taking suggestions seriously today.
I don't like the energy I spew when these feelings arise.

As far as the writing, I do...I write alot. When I made this post something had JUST happened and I reacted selfishly (surprise!)
I love you.....alll!

[dollhouse]

Hey there,Hang in there.I find if we talk about our anger it helps us out.Members with alot of clean time give very good advice...I would just like to share a experince I had with my anger...One day I was at H.A.S.C. and I felt that I was not heard.So I started to leave very very angery.[Imagine that an addict angery]As I lefted the building hopping mad and crying,I heard someone call my name.I looked back and it was a person I would never thought would come after me...She has alot of years of clean time and I respect her very much...This lady saided to me I can't let u leave like this.... She talked to me for a while,then said to me "take your shoe off"Iam like right.Took it off,She said now throw your shoe agasint the wall...So I did.And again,again,again,and again.I keeped throwing harder and harder till my anger got better that day.Try it it really works....To this day I will never foget what a gift that lady gave me that day.A differant way to handle anger.

[GettingFree]

I have a bias about anger. I think a lot of the anger (and pain and grief) we feel towards people in the present has roots in the past.

In other words someone today does something that makes us angry -- angry because we feel we've been treated thoughtlessly, insensitively, we don't matter, aren't important enough, feel we're let down, taken advantage of, etc.

Chances are we've felt those those things before, and my bias is that those things started early on in our original families.

I think it's important to get anger out and honor it. Exercise, punching bags, throwing shoes, writing it out, whatever it takes. And as important for me, is to direct the anger back to the right source. And then for me to get angry at the right people.

For example, I'm only recently starting to get really angry at my father. I used to only feel pain and sadness. Now I'm getting mad -- and I know I have to let it out in healthy way, to get more healthy.

[Arura]

Ive found that scince im on the net more the journels dont get written.?
In a way i miss them so that is defo a great idea, it does release soe stress. Go jogging aswell, getting tiyerd is the best thing you are directing it at energy not anything thats gona get hurt.Swimming.

I do hope these feelings settle down for you amymarie,and you feel more at peace with yourself.


Take Care Honi, it will pass.

Well my bf hopes so too...x

Hugs n Stuff.