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hartsellelady · 05-03-2006, 06:13 AM

hey ladies! i was so proud of myself yesterday. i was at my brothers house with my friend. she picked me up and she likes my brothers friend that lives with him so she asked me to come over there with her to see him so i said ok sure. WELL... when i got there soon as i walked in the door everyone starting snorting coke.. well as u guys know im pregnant and for them to sit there and do that right in front of me was HELL! I almost caved.. I almost used... and it was so scarey and Im so glad I didn't use. Im realising I can't be around these people even if it is my brother. Maybe some day It wont be so hard but yesterday was awful. If they hadn't said no your pregnant I would have relapsed so in a way they did me a favor but maybe I should not be proud of myself because I would have used had they gave me some. How am i going to shake this

i guess a starting point would be stay away from where drugs are. i didnt want any until they had done it about 3 times already in front of me..then it got hard real hard. help me

***Anna*** · 05-03-2006, 06:32 AM

Well, I remember going to a neighbor's party when I was very early in sobriety. I didn't want to go, but went anyways, because I thought I should just deal with it. It was awful. I became so frustrated and angry, it took me days to settle down. The lesson was, don't do that. So I stopped accepting those kind of invitations for a long time. It just made life so much easier. There are a lot of hard choices to make when you become sober and places you go and people you see is one of them. You need to take care of yourself.

VWGirl · 05-03-2006, 06:51 AM

I was told in order to stay clean and sober I had to change one thing and that was EVERYTHING! Also, they say you don't go into a Barbershop without eventually getting a haircut. So goes it where people are using and drinking, avoid those situations, most likely you knew prior to going there that that type of activity might be going on. Do not jeopardize your unborn child by going into precarious situations. In the BB of AA it says we do get catapulted back into the mainstream of life in recovery, however we don't go to places of drinking (etc) unless it is necessary (I'm just paraphasing)...are you attending meetings?

Vela D. · 05-03-2006, 12:40 PM

Hurry for you that God's grace showed up.
I was taught that my recovery is my responsibility. So where ever I go if anyone is doing something that puts my recovery at risk I leave. It does not matter who it is. It is better to be safe then dead.

So try not to beat yourself up to much. Just learn the lesson and be grateful.
Call your sponser and go to a meeting and share. Remember to pray and ask God for strength to continue to be honest.

Love you girl, Vela D.

hartsellelady · 05-03-2006, 03:41 PM

i dont knwo.. i have been there when they was smoking pot which isnthard to turn down at all but i really didnt go there thinking they would be snorting coke right there at the kitchen table..where i was sitting! But I know now.. not to put myself in that situation again. Speaking of which, that same friend came over to pick me up today and i made up some lame excuse why I couldn't go with her. I wish I could just tell her im sorry your using drugs and I can't be around it, its like I don't want to hurt her feelings but I didn't go.

VWGirl · 05-03-2006, 08:27 PM

Honesty is the best policy...tell them all...you are in recovery for yourself and your unborn child and you no longer advocate that type of living! Now "real" friends wouldn't want you to abuse your baby and you already know that. The lower companions I chose to hang with while active in my disease, didn't want to see me get clean and sober...they wanted to keep me right there with them. Now, when I see those folks around town...they barely recognize me! I've changed so much...there is so much sadness in their eyes.

sissie · 05-18-2006, 03:42 PM

You did good!!! Thank GOD!!!! I am so scare of going around drugs. I have 33 days of being clean and sober and still weak. GOOD GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!

indigo · 05-23-2006, 10:31 AM

Yes I agree GOOD FOR YOU.

indigo

05-03-2006, 06:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
hartsellelady Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Hueytown, AL Posts: 22	just wanted to tell someone hey ladies! i was so proud of myself yesterday. i was at my brothers house with my friend. she picked me up and she likes my brothers friend that lives with him so she asked me to come over there with her to see him so i said ok sure. WELL... when i got there soon as i walked in the door everyone starting snorting coke.. well as u guys know im pregnant and for them to sit there and do that right in front of me was HELL! I almost caved.. I almost used... and it was so scarey and Im so glad I didn't use. Im realising I can't be around these people even if it is my brother. Maybe some day It wont be so hard but yesterday was awful. If they hadn't said no your pregnant I would have relapsed so in a way they did me a favor but maybe I should not be proud of myself because I would have used had they gave me some. How am i going to shake this i guess a starting point would be stay away from where drugs are. i didnt want any until they had done it about 3 times already in front of me..then it got hard real hard. help me __________________ Taking it ONE DAY AT A TIME..

05-03-2006, 06:32 AM	#2 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 28,163	Well, I remember going to a neighbor's party when I was very early in sobriety. I didn't want to go, but went anyways, because I thought I should just deal with it. It was awful. I became so frustrated and angry, it took me days to settle down. The lesson was, don't do that. So I stopped accepting those kind of invitations for a long time. It just made life so much easier. There are a lot of hard choices to make when you become sober and places you go and people you see is one of them. You need to take care of yourself. __________________ Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Marianne Willianson

05-03-2006, 12:40 PM	#4 (permalink)
Vela D. One day at a time ! Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 29	Hurry for you that God's grace showed up. I was taught that my recovery is my responsibility. So where ever I go if anyone is doing something that puts my recovery at risk I leave. It does not matter who it is. It is better to be safe then dead. So try not to beat yourself up to much. Just learn the lesson and be grateful. Call your sponser and go to a meeting and share. Remember to pray and ask God for strength to continue to be honest. Love you girl, Vela D. __________________ Easy does it !

05-03-2006, 03:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
hartsellelady Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Hueytown, AL Posts: 22	i dont knwo.. i have been there when they was smoking pot which isnthard to turn down at all but i really didnt go there thinking they would be snorting coke right there at the kitchen table..where i was sitting! But I know now.. not to put myself in that situation again. Speaking of which, that same friend came over to pick me up today and i made up some lame excuse why I couldn't go with her. I wish I could just tell her im sorry your using drugs and I can't be around it, its like I don't want to hurt her feelings but I didn't go. __________________ Taking it ONE DAY AT A TIME..

05-23-2006, 10:31 AM	#8 (permalink)
indigo Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,928	Yes I agree GOOD FOR YOU. indigo __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

05-03-2006, 06:51 AM	#3 (permalink)
VWGirl Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 20	I was told in order to stay clean and sober I had to change one thing and that was EVERYTHING! Also, they say you don't go into a Barbershop without eventually getting a haircut. So goes it where people are using and drinking, avoid those situations, most likely you knew prior to going there that that type of activity might be going on. Do not jeopardize your unborn child by going into precarious situations. In the BB of AA it says we do get catapulted back into the mainstream of life in recovery, however we don't go to places of drinking (etc) unless it is necessary (I'm just paraphasing)...are you attending meetings?

05-03-2006, 08:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
VWGirl Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 20	Honesty is the best policy...tell them all...you are in recovery for yourself and your unborn child and you no longer advocate that type of living! Now "real" friends wouldn't want you to abuse your baby and you already know that. The lower companions I chose to hang with while active in my disease, didn't want to see me get clean and sober...they wanted to keep me right there with them. Now, when I see those folks around town...they barely recognize me! I've changed so much...there is so much sadness in their eyes.

05-18-2006, 03:42 PM	#7 (permalink)
sissie Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: lubbock texas Posts: 15	You did good!!! Thank GOD!!!! I am so scare of going around drugs. I have 33 days of being clean and sober and still weak. GOOD GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!

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