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Hope · 04-25-2006, 12:33 AM

I'm struggling to build confidence. I know I need to build a solid foundation but I don't know where to get started. Baby steps?

Phinneas · 04-25-2006, 12:57 AM

Hope - I can tell you from my own personal experience that doing the work of the 12 steps is a big confidence builder for me. What step are you working on now? Do you go to women's meetings? Also, therapy is a great idea if you can do that as well.

Like most things, I think, it comes down to loving yourself. That journey has definitly been one of many baby steps. It's about building a relationsip with yourself first and foremost - treating yourself with respect and love, honoring your values and sticking up for yourself.

You can read every self help book on the market, but a lot of this actually comes down to just time and experience.

***Anna*** · 04-25-2006, 05:40 AM

Building confidence is definitely done in baby steps.

I had absolutely no self-confidence whatsoever, didn't even know what I liked or didn't like anymore. I felt like, when I stopped drinking, everything had been stripped away. All that was left was my soul. So, I began to listen and be guided and it was hard, because I was used to telling my little 'soul voice' to bug off. But the more I listened, the louder it got.

You can build on where you are now Hope!

indigo · 04-25-2006, 06:20 PM

Like you said baby steps and you appear to,have already started to walk.

indigo step by step..

goffredo · 04-26-2006, 03:44 AM

Definitely baby steps

My baby step this morning was to look at myself in the mirror, smile and say: "you're gorgeous!"

Love Jo

04-25-2006, 12:33 AM	#1 (permalink)
Hope Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 3,300	Building Confidence I'm struggling to build confidence. I know I need to build a solid foundation but I don't know where to get started. Baby steps?

04-25-2006, 12:57 AM	#2 (permalink)
Phinneas Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: fumbling towards ecstasy Posts: 2,614	Hope - I can tell you from my own personal experience that doing the work of the 12 steps is a big confidence builder for me. What step are you working on now? Do you go to women's meetings? Also, therapy is a great idea if you can do that as well. Like most things, I think, it comes down to loving yourself. That journey has definitly been one of many baby steps. It's about building a relationsip with yourself first and foremost - treating yourself with respect and love, honoring your values and sticking up for yourself. You can read every self help book on the market, but a lot of this actually comes down to just time and experience. __________________ If ten people tell you that you have a tail... you might want to turn around and look.

04-25-2006, 05:40 AM	#3 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 22,845	Building confidence is definitely done in baby steps. I had absolutely no self-confidence whatsoever, didn't even know what I liked or didn't like anymore. I felt like, when I stopped drinking, everything had been stripped away. All that was left was my soul. So, I began to listen and be guided and it was hard, because I was used to telling my little 'soul voice' to bug off. But the more I listened, the louder it got. You can build on where you are now Hope! __________________ And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. John Denver

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indigo Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,928	Like you said baby steps and you appear to,have already started to walk. indigo step by step.. __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

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04-26-2006, 03:44 AM	#5 (permalink)
goffredo Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: London, UK Posts: 114	Definitely baby steps My baby step this morning was to look at myself in the mirror, smile and say: "you're gorgeous!" Love Jo

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