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GettingFree · 04-19-2006, 05:56 PM

Hi all,

My son just got wonderful news and I'm bursting with joy for him and had to share.

He's now 24, just finished his BA in history/politcial science this month, but his dream since he was a little boy was to have something to do with sports and baseball, which he is absolutely passionate about. This is a kid who lived to play baseball and when he wasn't outdoors playing, he was inside playing sports with his figures, or cutting out sports figures from magazines. Since his late teen years, he figured out he wanted to go into sports management eventually, but thought he'd have to start with junior level teams and leave home to some remote place to get his foot in the door.

Well -- we live in Toronto -- and he just got selected for an internship with the Toronto Blue Jays!

I am thrilled for him. His dream is coming true. So many of my dreams got killed along the way, and so I am so happy for him, to see this coming to life. And for a mom who thought she had messed up in so many ways, fumbling her way through parenthood and 2 marriages etc, and a raft of problems and missteps, I feel a lot of satisfaction.

Thanks for letting me share! Whoohoo!!!!!

gf

2stop · 04-19-2006, 06:06 PM

{{{{{{{{{gettingfree}}}}}}}}}}

Big Happy Hugs!!!! Thank YOU for sharing!!!!! I get the guilty's over my life and how it has affetced my children........to hear this.and the joy in your 'voice'......awww.......you should be proud.......and beaming...........good job Mom!!!!!!!!!!

namommy · 04-19-2006, 06:37 PM

That's awesome. One of the gifts of recovery is being able to share in the joy of our families. You go right on being proud and beaming!!!

**51anna** · 04-19-2006, 07:05 PM

GF you've obviously done a great job and I am so happy for your son!

Justme57 · 04-19-2006, 07:20 PM

Oh! GF that is indeed awesome !

Doesn't it make a mothers heart sing, to see their kids realise their dreams!

You must have had some very poitive input in his life

HUGX
Lee

Erin · 04-19-2006, 09:09 PM

Congrats!!!
BTW... My mom is an alcoholic (sober for 18 years) and just because she is doesn't mean that she didn't raise great kids! I can't blame her for my problem now (and she's been a great resource while I'm dealing with it as she is speaking from experience and has been extremely helpful (one is pregnant with her second, doing consulting and working on another degree and is quite happily married). All of my sisters (I have 6) are university educated and doing well.
So... give yourself some credit!!!

GettingFree · 04-20-2006, 05:20 AM

Tammie, Anna, Laurie, Lee, Erin -- thank you all for your support and sharing with me! I know that all of you here understand more than others what it's like to have such joyful news.

Like Tammie, at times I have felt so much guilt regarding the challenges my children have faced because of my own wounding and the indirect path to where I am today. I wanted perfect for them, I wanted 'normal' for them, I wanted one continuing intact, loving, nurturing family for them, free from drama and chaos, and I couldn't give it. (Meaning I wanted to give them what I didn't have!)

At the same time, I know I have loved them fiercely and given a whole lot of myself to them. And the truth is, despite my many failings and mistakes, I know I have been a much better parent than the parenting I received, and given a quality of love, nurturing and support I never got.

And hey, in time, with all the things I've learned in the last several years, I could make an awesome grandmother in time!!!

(But I hope I'll get my own career change under way before that happens!)

Thanks again friends!

Debra

goffredo · 04-20-2006, 06:40 AM

congratrulations to your son!!!!

You must be proud!

Love Jo

GettingFree · 04-20-2006, 06:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GettingFree

Tammie, Anna, Laurie, Lee, Erin -- thank you all for your support and sharing with me! I know that all of you here understand more than others what it's like to have such joyful news.

Yikes, I just re-read my post and realized this may be misconstrued. I wasn't singling anyone out here -- I meant that all the women here at SR would have an understanding different from those who have not walked the same path.

Just wanted to be clear all!

goffredo: Yes I am incredibly proud of him. He worked hard for this and he's a great person.

gf

ndgrace · 04-20-2006, 07:05 AM

I can so relate, Congrats, I know each generation in my family seems to catch on faster to "I am an alcoholic", and even though we have caused hurts, we have also loved. So far my kids, 18, and 19 are choosing not to drink, and get college degrees, hopefully the next generation does better then this one! I just keep praying for them to make good decisions. Sounds like your son did!!!!!

GettingFree · 04-20-2006, 07:12 PM

ndgrace

I'm happy for you and your blossoming babes too. Yes, there does seem to be this emotional growth with each generation. I suppose it's a kind of emotional evolution we all here can feel we're making important contributions to!

gf

Grasshopper · 04-20-2006, 07:59 PM

great great news!!!!Thanks for sharring,,,
Ok,
ok,
Blue Jays,
Blue Jays,
Lets-play-ball.

**CarolD** · 04-20-2006, 11:01 PM

How exciting!.....

A feand slam for sure!!

GettingFree · 04-21-2006, 06:46 AM

Grasshopper -- I laughed when I saw the Blue Jays song! Are you local?
btw...he gets 4 tickets to any game he wants to attend -- and I am SO not a jock!

Thanks Carol! Yup, we're all excited for him.

04-19-2006, 05:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
GettingFree Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 690	Beaming Mama Hi all, My son just got wonderful news and I'm bursting with joy for him and had to share. He's now 24, just finished his BA in history/politcial science this month, but his dream since he was a little boy was to have something to do with sports and baseball, which he is absolutely passionate about. This is a kid who lived to play baseball and when he wasn't outdoors playing, he was inside playing sports with his figures, or cutting out sports figures from magazines. Since his late teen years, he figured out he wanted to go into sports management eventually, but thought he'd have to start with junior level teams and leave home to some remote place to get his foot in the door. Well -- we live in Toronto -- and he just got selected for an internship with the Toronto Blue Jays! I am thrilled for him. His dream is coming true. So many of my dreams got killed along the way, and so I am so happy for him, to see this coming to life. And for a mom who thought she had messed up in so many ways, fumbling her way through parenthood and 2 marriages etc, and a raft of problems and missteps, I feel a lot of satisfaction. Thanks for letting me share! Whoohoo!!!!! gf

04-19-2006, 06:06 PM	#2 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	{{{{{{{{{gettingfree}}}}}}}}}} Big Happy Hugs!!!! Thank YOU for sharing!!!!! I get the guilty's over my life and how it has affetced my children........to hear this.and the joy in your 'voice'......awww.......you should be proud.......and beaming...........good job Mom!!!!!!!!!! __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-19-2006, 06:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
namommy Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Never, Never land Posts: 2,711	That's awesome. One of the gifts of recovery is being able to share in the joy of our families. You go right on being proud and beaming!!! __________________ I came into this program to save my a** and found out it was attached to my soul. --Anonymous

04-19-2006, 07:05 PM	#4 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,160	GF you've obviously done a great job and I am so happy for your son! __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

04-19-2006, 07:20 PM	#5 (permalink)
Justme57 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne victoria Posts: 1,980 Blog Entries: 7	Oh! GF that is indeed awesome ! Doesn't it make a mothers heart sing, to see their kids realise their dreams! You must have had some very poitive input in his life HUGX Lee __________________

04-19-2006, 09:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
Erin Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 161	Congrats!!! BTW... My mom is an alcoholic (sober for 18 years) and just because she is doesn't mean that she didn't raise great kids! I can't blame her for my problem now (and she's been a great resource while I'm dealing with it as she is speaking from experience and has been extremely helpful (one is pregnant with her second, doing consulting and working on another degree and is quite happily married). All of my sisters (I have 6) are university educated and doing well. So... give yourself some credit!!!

04-20-2006, 05:20 AM	#7 (permalink)
GettingFree Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 690	Tammie, Anna, Laurie, Lee, Erin -- thank you all for your support and sharing with me! I know that all of you here understand more than others what it's like to have such joyful news. Like Tammie, at times I have felt so much guilt regarding the challenges my children have faced because of my own wounding and the indirect path to where I am today. I wanted perfect for them, I wanted 'normal' for them, I wanted one continuing intact, loving, nurturing family for them, free from drama and chaos, and I couldn't give it. (Meaning I wanted to give them what I didn't have!) At the same time, I know I have loved them fiercely and given a whole lot of myself to them. And the truth is, despite my many failings and mistakes, I know I have been a much better parent than the parenting I received, and given a quality of love, nurturing and support I never got. And hey, in time, with all the things I've learned in the last several years, I could make an awesome grandmother in time!!! (But I hope I'll get my own career change under way before that happens!) Thanks again friends! Debra

04-20-2006, 06:40 AM	#8 (permalink)
goffredo Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: London, UK Posts: 115	congratrulations to your son!!!! You must be proud! Love Jo

04-20-2006, 07:05 AM	#10 (permalink)
ndgrace ndgrace Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: VA Posts: 72	I can so relate, Congrats, I know each generation in my family seems to catch on faster to "I am an alcoholic", and even though we have caused hurts, we have also loved. So far my kids, 18, and 19 are choosing not to drink, and get college degrees, hopefully the next generation does better then this one! I just keep praying for them to make good decisions. Sounds like your son did!!!!!

04-20-2006, 07:12 PM	#11 (permalink)
GettingFree Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 690	ndgrace I'm happy for you and your blossoming babes too. Yes, there does seem to be this emotional growth with each generation. I suppose it's a kind of emotional evolution we all here can feel we're making important contributions to! gf

04-20-2006, 07:59 PM	#12 (permalink)
Grasshopper Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Green,green grass of home Posts: 602	great great news!!!!Thanks for sharring,,, Ok, ok, Blue Jays, Blue Jays, Lets-play-ball.

04-20-2006, 11:01 PM	#13 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 15,398	How exciting!..... A feand slam for sure!! __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

04-21-2006, 06:46 AM	#14 (permalink)
GettingFree Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 690	Grasshopper -- I laughed when I saw the Blue Jays song! Are you local? btw...he gets 4 tickets to any game he wants to attend -- and I am SO not a jock! Thanks Carol! Yup, we're all excited for him.

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