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2stop · 04-11-2006, 05:37 AM

I knew something was wrong this weekend. My brother had gone missing....well...he's been found. Another weekend drinking binge and suicidal. His boss checked him into the mental health unit at our local hospital. He has talked and charmed his way out of there before. His boss is sending his gf back to Texas.,....my brother will go apesh*t when he gets out and she is gone.they always fight...she drinks and smokes pot.then tells everyone it is ALL him..HE is the one drinking/doping.
He paged me over a two way Nextel a few months ago...my poor daughter had to hear him..he went on and on about dead bodies, about how he was going to put a tire around him, pour gasoline on it and burn himself to death....he described how he would scream and that he wanted to 'to go out BIG'........since then I left my phone on vibrate in case my kids have to hear that..........I am extremely worried about him..........I have felt in my heart for quite some time he will take his life. He was stopped drinking and driving the other night.the dammed cops let him drive home.he is on probation for DUI!
anyways....prayers appreciated.I am debating whether or not to visit him today. Maybe he needs more time to dry out a bit.I don't know.....I am just very very sad right now.
Thanks guys.

***indigo*** · 04-11-2006, 05:42 AM

Oh Tammie my heart is reaching out to yours. My prayers are going out to you and your brother and family.

hugs dear sister
Annie

2stop · 04-11-2006, 05:45 AM

Thank you Annie......I know what is going to happen...he will lose his place.....they're 20 some yr old roommate has been told to get out........his gf is leaving..........he won't be able to haul water.....he will want to stay with me..........I always feel sorry for him...and let him...but I don't think I can this time..........I just can't do it.I love him dearly....oh!! I am going to go pull some hair out now..........

{{{{{annie}}}}} thank you for always being here for me...

**51anna** · 04-11-2006, 05:45 AM

Tammie, this such a sad situation for you and your family. I am sending lots of hugs and prayers your way!

KCBoop · 04-11-2006, 06:04 AM

Many prayers sent your way!

splendra · 04-11-2006, 06:57 AM

((((Tammie))))

I am so sorry for your brother and I will pray for him and you.

I have three siblings who are all strung out on drugs and alcohol all of them in and out of jail and prison too. It has been so hard for me to let go of the choices they make. I especially had to let go of trying to make a recovery plan for them. Unfortunatly they are as bad as they ever were. The good news is that I am better.

Once I started staying out of their business and just kept the focus on my life and choices I was able to move forward. The only one I could change was me and thank God I finally got that. Now if I can just let go of what my H does I will be in good shape!!

Justme57 · 04-11-2006, 07:03 AM

Oh! Tammie , you know you have my love and prayers , now you take cae of YOU, you hear me ?

HUGX
Lee

Cap3 · 04-11-2006, 07:31 AM

my prayers are with you all.
God Bless

cwohio · 04-11-2006, 07:38 AM

((tammie)) - i am so sorry that you are having to feel the pain of a loved one's addiction. i have a brother that is an addict, haven't spoken to him in probably 11 years and i dread that i will get "the" call someday. take care of YOU - bailing him out, as you know, will only prolong his hitting bottom, whatever that may be.

prayers to you and your family!

clancy · 04-11-2006, 08:24 AM

Oh, Tammie,

My heart goes out to you and your brother.He sounds such a troubled soul.Does he like, have any religion? Its sounds like a case for spirituality to fill up a giant life-hole.Im sure thats what I need too. Always searching, and I hope and pray that your poor dear brother finds some peace too. This life is so hard. Huge love to you and I will burn some incense for your brother and send love.Love is good at finding who its meant for apparently,even though the people dont know each other. big hugs, clanc xx

2stop · 04-11-2006, 09:35 AM

thanks guys....I appreciate you all so much.....I have been through so much with my brother.I know I have to let go....I know. It's just very hard as you all know. His gf is doing a real number on him.....but he was warned about that.he wouldn't listen.........hopefully he will go to rehab......but all he wanted to do this morning was get out and find his gf......I imagine he'll chase after her and go to TX too......his boss/old family friend is turning on him.believing every lie his gf tells.....she is just as alcoholic and addicted as him but hides it better..she is so mean it isn't even believable sometimes. Gotta let it go...........I get pretty twisted out of shape when people lie though....

Going to try an detach today........hugs ya all........

**Rowan** · 04-11-2006, 11:39 AM

Hi Tammie,

Just wanted to send prayers and (((hugs))) your way. Prayers for your dear, troubled brother too. Hang in there.

Rowan

wakowife · 04-13-2006, 04:15 PM

Oh Tammie i feel your pain, i know how hard it is to watch a sibling desroy themself. my prayers are with yu, and yur brother.

stay strong, dont make it so easy for h im to stay with you, i know that its hard, but i have been ther, my brother used to pull that with me all the time, when ever he would lose an apartment he would wind up by me or my mom, and finally i had to put my foot down and say "NO". i can tell you it was killing me inside to know that he had no where to go, but i had to s top being an enabler.

keep your head up high, and kow that your higher power will not put anything on your shoulders that you are not ready to handle

Good Luck

Bernadette

MamaGoose · 04-13-2006, 04:40 PM

Prayers for your brother and your family.

clancy · 04-13-2006, 04:49 PM

Adding my prayers for you and you family and your brother....remember Pandora shut her box before hope escaped....xxx

04-11-2006, 05:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	prayers for brother please...... I knew something was wrong this weekend. My brother had gone missing....well...he's been found. Another weekend drinking binge and suicidal. His boss checked him into the mental health unit at our local hospital. He has talked and charmed his way out of there before. His boss is sending his gf back to Texas.,....my brother will go apesh*t when he gets out and she is gone.they always fight...she drinks and smokes pot.then tells everyone it is ALL him..HE is the one drinking/doping. He paged me over a two way Nextel a few months ago...my poor daughter had to hear him..he went on and on about dead bodies, about how he was going to put a tire around him, pour gasoline on it and burn himself to death....he described how he would scream and that he wanted to 'to go out BIG'........since then I left my phone on vibrate in case my kids have to hear that..........I am extremely worried about him..........I have felt in my heart for quite some time he will take his life. He was stopped drinking and driving the other night.the dammed cops let him drive home.he is on probation for DUI! anyways....prayers appreciated.I am debating whether or not to visit him today. Maybe he needs more time to dry out a bit.I don't know.....I am just very very sad right now. Thanks guys. __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-11-2006, 05:42 AM	#2 (permalink)
*indigo* Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,146	Oh Tammie my heart is reaching out to yours. My prayers are going out to you and your brother and family. hugs dear sister Annie __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

04-11-2006, 05:45 AM	#3 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	Thank you Annie......I know what is going to happen...he will lose his place.....they're 20 some yr old roommate has been told to get out........his gf is leaving..........he won't be able to haul water.....he will want to stay with me..........I always feel sorry for him...and let him...but I don't think I can this time..........I just can't do it.I love him dearly....oh!! I am going to go pull some hair out now.......... {{{{{annie}}}}} thank you for always being here for me... __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-11-2006, 05:45 AM	#4 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,160	Tammie, this such a sad situation for you and your family. I am sending lots of hugs and prayers your way! __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

04-11-2006, 06:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
splendra the girl can't help it Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: splendraville Posts: 4,816 Blog Entries: 3	((((Tammie)))) I am so sorry for your brother and I will pray for him and you. I have three siblings who are all strung out on drugs and alcohol all of them in and out of jail and prison too. It has been so hard for me to let go of the choices they make. I especially had to let go of trying to make a recovery plan for them. Unfortunatly they are as bad as they ever were. The good news is that I am better. Once I started staying out of their business and just kept the focus on my life and choices I was able to move forward. The only one I could change was me and thank God I finally got that. Now if I can just let go of what my H does I will be in good shape!! __________________ nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

04-11-2006, 06:04 AM	#5 (permalink)
KCBoop Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Kansas City Mo Posts: 4	Many prayers sent your way!

04-11-2006, 07:03 AM	#7 (permalink)
Justme57 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne victoria Posts: 1,980 Blog Entries: 7	Oh! Tammie , you know you have my love and prayers , now you take cae of YOU, you hear me ? HUGX Lee __________________

04-11-2006, 07:31 AM	#8 (permalink)
Cap3 Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 732	my prayers are with you all. God Bless

04-11-2006, 07:38 AM	#9 (permalink)
cwohio Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Litterbox City Posts: 6,141	((tammie)) - i am so sorry that you are having to feel the pain of a loved one's addiction. i have a brother that is an addict, haven't spoken to him in probably 11 years and i dread that i will get "the" call someday. take care of YOU - bailing him out, as you know, will only prolong his hitting bottom, whatever that may be. prayers to you and your family! __________________ *Learn to write your hurts in sand. Learn to carve your blessings in stone! - Unknown*

04-11-2006, 08:24 AM	#10 (permalink)
clancy Im Ok - youre OK Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: UK Posts: 251	Oh, Tammie, My heart goes out to you and your brother.He sounds such a troubled soul.Does he like, have any religion? Its sounds like a case for spirituality to fill up a giant life-hole.Im sure thats what I need too. Always searching, and I hope and pray that your poor dear brother finds some peace too. This life is so hard. Huge love to you and I will burn some incense for your brother and send love.Love is good at finding who its meant for apparently,even though the people dont know each other. big hugs, clanc xx __________________ 'It riles them to believe that you perceive the web they weave'

04-11-2006, 09:35 AM	#11 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	thanks guys....I appreciate you all so much.....I have been through so much with my brother.I know I have to let go....I know. It's just very hard as you all know. His gf is doing a real number on him.....but he was warned about that.he wouldn't listen.........hopefully he will go to rehab......but all he wanted to do this morning was get out and find his gf......I imagine he'll chase after her and go to TX too......his boss/old family friend is turning on him.believing every lie his gf tells.....she is just as alcoholic and addicted as him but hides it better..she is so mean it isn't even believable sometimes. Gotta let it go...........I get pretty twisted out of shape when people lie though.... Going to try an detach today........hugs ya all........ __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-11-2006, 11:39 AM	#12 (permalink)
Rowan Lucky Cracka Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 9,021 Blog Entries: 1	Hi Tammie, Just wanted to send prayers and (((hugs))) your way. Prayers for your dear, troubled brother too. Hang in there. Rowan __________________ *Christmas is cancelled.*

04-13-2006, 04:15 PM	#13 (permalink)
wakowife Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ozone Park, New York Posts: 281	Oh Tammie i feel your pain, i know how hard it is to watch a sibling desroy themself. my prayers are with yu, and yur brother. stay strong, dont make it so easy for h im to stay with you, i know that its hard, but i have been ther, my brother used to pull that with me all the time, when ever he would lose an apartment he would wind up by me or my mom, and finally i had to put my foot down and say "NO". i can tell you it was killing me inside to know that he had no where to go, but i had to s top being an enabler. keep your head up high, and kow that your higher power will not put anything on your shoulders that you are not ready to handle Good Luck Bernadette

04-13-2006, 04:40 PM	#14 (permalink)
MamaGoose Honk if you're a codie! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: State of Codependency Posts: 115	Prayers for your brother and your family. __________________ MamaGoose "Our recovery is tough. We don't have to give up a drink or a substance. We have to give up our very nature. We are caregivers. It's what we do." - historyteach -

04-13-2006, 04:49 PM	#15 (permalink)
clancy Im Ok - youre OK Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: UK Posts: 251	Adding my prayers for you and you family and your brother....remember Pandora shut her box before hope escaped....xxx __________________ 'It riles them to believe that you perceive the web they weave'

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