He left me when I quit drinking

[magnolia068]

We were going to get sober together but I guess it is a priority of his to have a woman he can drink with---great criteria.
I am hurt tremendously by this. He knew it was TIME[size=4]for me to get off the ride and sober my sloppy self up. I have a son !
I gues that when I get further into sobriety I will realize that he isn't worth his promises and that I am the one doing the right thing.
I was sober for 8 years when I first had my son; now he is 12. He needs a reliable mom who has time to spend more and more time with him. He deserves a sober me.

Hugs to all

Magnolia:shades:

[myles1]

Good for you Magnolia. As you progress in sobriety you'll KNOW from the bottom of your heart you did the right thing. Think of your son and you can't go wrong.

As for him, well he's still sick.

Ngaire

[magnolia068]

Thanks Myles,
Can you believe it, I just saw that jerk and he was off to the bar! I can't believe I wasted so much time on this man. I saw what was happening from way off.
I was there for him when he needed me and more. I am furious at him and at myself. I could use some ideas on how to rid myself of this toxic anger...it can't be good. I seldom feel hate but I think this is it. I feel used and duped.:dead: This is very uncomfortable!

Mag

[liveweyerd]

My mad motto is "Living well is the best revenge"

Sorry I haven't had time to get acquainted yet.....

live

[magnolia068]

That's what my grandmother:shades: used to say.
I guess my living sober is a few shades better than his sleazy, dank life in those bars. I am still very angry and I think it will take a few more "24s" to make it go away.

Thanks for your support

mag

[Peacefulpie]

Mag....


Welcome to the forum...

Aw friend I know you are hurt and angry. Perhaps if you look at this as he is a sick man, with a deadly disease. It is unfortunate that he has not gained enough experience to be in the same place as you are today. However by his leaveing may have been the best thing. Because he is not ready, your own sobriety could have been in jeopardy, one night or day he could be watching your son drunk pass out... or driveing w/both of you drunk. you have been saved from hours of sensless quaking, dread of the phone call to bail him out yet again...Oh the list goes on.... Perhaps this is meant to be a time for you to focus on you aand your son so that you may heal the hurt and mend the past. without negitive feedback.


As a single mother in recovery it is those little moments that have meant the most to my children. Night time snuggles and stories, instead of paceing the floor worried he's ok. I would look at this as a new beginning. One in recovery thats just about you.

[magnolia068]

Dear Peacefulpie,

I thank you for your posting I suspect my feelings are so raw right now because all of this nonsense just happened. I can feel the tug of common sense THANK GOD as I think of how dangerous and lonely it really is out there.
He can have his life, and when I start feeling independant again I will be in much better shape than he is. And I keep reminding myself of that "top of the world" feeling that sobriety can bring us.

Thanks again and hugs to you:shades:

Magnolia

[myles1]

Magnolia,

If you can stick it out one day at a time for awhile and not see him you'll feel better. It's hard when the feelings are so new.

Ngaire

[magnolia068]

Myles, thanks for the post,
You are exactly right. I am only bothered by him if I see him. It upsets me way too much The emotions just wing all over the place and it is very uncomfortable. A good situation to avoid!

Thanks again and hugs to you

Magnolia

[myles1]

Well something I'll tell you, it's the 38th day since I've seen my j#$k and the reason for that is I've been leaving for work 15 mins later in the morning and I just don't go around town when I figure I may run into him and so far it's worked.

It's easier to do that then have to deal with the emotions from seeing him for the rest of the day.

Ngaire