Oh No The Big 40 - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

luluabel · 11-01-2005, 09:34 AM

Hi ladies in a couple of months I'm going to be 40 , to be honest I really didnt think it was a problem ................
However lol I'm thinking now its getting closer maybe it is .....having made a appointment to get my hair coloured , now Im going to get my teeth sorted hairdressers and dentists I hate going to both ..............actually Im terrified of both .........!!!!!
Plus when people ask what I,d like I keep saying Botox instead of perfume lol....
Seriously though I feel very strange about turning 40 ,doing alot of thinking !!!!!about past , present and the future ..........
Would to hear any storys you have about your own experiences ........love Kim xxxxxx

**51anna** · 11-01-2005, 09:48 AM

Thinking is very good! I had not yet started drinking when I turned 40, but I was in total denial of most of my feelings at that time. Now with each birthday that comes along, I celebrate being alive.

I hate dentists and hairdressers too!

laurie6781 · 11-01-2005, 01:40 PM

When I was in my late twenties the Doctors told my parents and my husband that if I did not change my ways I would be dead by 30.

I didn't get sober until 3 weeks shy of my 36th birthday.

So when my 40th rolled around I greeted it with a GREAT BIG GRIN and a big non alcoholic party with all my friends in sobriety. Here I was, 4 years sober and I had proved the doctors wrong, and I actually had a life that I was starting to enjoy living.

Hey 40 is a wonderful age to be!!!!!!!! that was 20 years ago now and I have loved every minute since.

I Hope you have a very wonderful, carefree, FUN birthday!!!!

Love and (((((to all))))),

luluabel · 11-02-2005, 07:04 AM

Hi Anna and Laurie thank you so much for your replies ..............
I think its come as such a surprise to start thinking about my personnal self so maybe its apart of recovery as much as being 40 ...........
Maybe because I'm starting to feel different on the inside I want to improve the outside........
Love to you both Kim xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Paulie · 11-02-2005, 10:46 AM

Hmmm yep the big 40. I really thought I was gonna freak out, but I didnt, it was just another birthday. I am 41 now. When I was using getting old was a huge deal, I would get all depressed and oh poor me life is horrible...and it was. but after getting sober I look at them differently. Dont get me wrong, I was not looking forward to 40 and then when I turned 41 and realized now I am in my 40's

, that didnt make me to happy either. But as long as I am sober, life is good!

Oh and I did the hair thing when I was 39 LOLOLOLOL I new 40 was coming!

luluabel · 11-02-2005, 12:11 PM

Phewwwwwww Paulie lol thought maybe it was just me with the hair thing .............had little streaks put in today and was,nt that scarey atall lol and I kinda like it ! do I look younger noooooooooo lol just me with red tints ..
The 40 thing well I felt 40 twenty years ago so I really thought I be fine ,I became a granny at 38 so figured I'd sail through what is really just another birthday hummmm still if i do all this freaky bit now I probley fine by my birthday !!! love Kim xxxxxxxx

Paulie · 11-02-2005, 12:30 PM

Red streaks.... I did blonde

and I have dark brown hair. I love it. I went back to brown last year at this time, hated it.....put the blonde streaks in again last summer and still have it today. I went to visit a friend last month that I had not seen since March, she picked me up at the airport and the first thing she said was "YOU ARE BLONDE". I love it!!! and YES it makes me feel younger.

You will see 40 will be great. Heck a gramma at 38, I bet you are one hot lookin young gramma!!!

Evanna · 11-02-2005, 12:42 PM

Mad hats. I hit 40 and started buying crazy hats. I have hat boxes everywhere.

This is my latest buy;

I dont like being 40 much. I thought that i would feel all dignified and grown up by 40. But i dont i feel like a big kid wandering around in a body that has gone generally south. Hard to be dignified wearing that hat i guess.

There are some good things about being 40 though. I am definitely not so full of angst and far better at entertaining myself than i used to be.

(the whole going south, fat and forty thing has me in a bit of a tizwaz. Cant do anything about being 40 (besides grow out of it). But i am working on the other).

Paulie · 11-02-2005, 12:47 PM

Well, you can wear a variety of colors with it

Evanna · 11-02-2005, 12:51 PM

***indigo*** · 11-02-2005, 04:47 PM

As you get older it can get better, clean still alive and getting things fixed. I am so old now I make Methusulah sp look young lol, wouldn't go back though I am finally becoming my true self...it hurts and it makes me strong......it also means I can say keep on kiddo.

hugs indigo

luluabel · 11-02-2005, 11:19 PM

Paulie blonde streaks sound great my hairdresser did try toget me to go bolder but the hysterics and high pitch voice got me the little tiny red tints lol .........this was brave enough for now lol..........
Evanna I just love your hat .........its cool !!!
I sure know what you mean about everything going south god how i love my wonderbras.......
Indigo I think your so right about getting things fixed , clean and better its something Ive done alot of work on this year, self esteem is an all important part of my healing and im determined to get some , my journey is far from over and at least now seems to be tinged with hope .....
Thanks for sharing with me it means alot love Kim xxxxxxxxxx

Evanna · 11-03-2005, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by luluabel

Evanna I just love your hat .........its cool !!!
I sure know what you mean about everything going south god how i love my wonderbras.......

Weird. I hadnt thought about wonderbras for years and then i bought a couple of wonderbras off ebay last week. I love ebay.

splendra · 11-03-2005, 09:44 AM

Oh (((Lulubell))))you are still just a kid....

luluabel · 11-04-2005, 03:18 PM

Evanna I love ebay too .......... I didnt think I had a competetive bone in my body! get me on ebay though ..lol
(((Splendra )))lol if only if only ..............
Thanks girls love to you all Kim xxxxxxxxxxx

11-01-2005, 09:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
luluabel Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: england,united kingdom Posts: 220	Oh No The Big 40 Hi ladies in a couple of months I'm going to be 40 , to be honest I really didnt think it was a problem ................ However lol I'm thinking now its getting closer maybe it is .....having made a appointment to get my hair coloured , now Im going to get my teeth sorted hairdressers and dentists I hate going to both ..............actually Im terrified of both .........!!!!! Plus when people ask what I,d like I keep saying Botox instead of perfume lol.... Seriously though I feel very strange about turning 40 ,doing alot of thinking !!!!!about past , present and the future .......... Would to hear any storys you have about your own experiences ........love Kim xxxxxx __________________

11-01-2005, 09:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,160	Thinking is very good! I had not yet started drinking when I turned 40, but I was in total denial of most of my feelings at that time. Now with each birthday that comes along, I celebrate being alive. I hate dentists and hairdressers too! __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

11-01-2005, 01:40 PM	#3 (permalink)
laurie6781 Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: New Mexico Posts: 1,820	When I was in my late twenties the Doctors told my parents and my husband that if I did not change my ways I would be dead by 30. I didn't get sober until 3 weeks shy of my 36th birthday. So when my 40th rolled around I greeted it with a GREAT BIG GRIN and a big non alcoholic party with all my friends in sobriety. Here I was, 4 years sober and I had proved the doctors wrong, and I actually had a life that I was starting to enjoy living. Hey 40 is a wonderful age to be!!!!!!!! that was 20 years ago now and I have loved every minute since. I Hope you have a very wonderful, carefree, FUN birthday!!!! Love and (((((to all))))), __________________ God Bless You All As You Trudge The Road Of Happy Destiny (especially when you trudgin thru alligators up to your butt)

11-02-2005, 07:04 AM	#4 (permalink)
luluabel Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: england,united kingdom Posts: 220	Hi Anna and Laurie thank you so much for your replies .............. I think its come as such a surprise to start thinking about my personnal self so maybe its apart of recovery as much as being 40 ........... Maybe because I'm starting to feel different on the inside I want to improve the outside........ Love to you both Kim xxxxxxxxxxxxxx __________________

11-02-2005, 10:46 AM	#5 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,525	Hmmm yep the big 40. I really thought I was gonna freak out, but I didnt, it was just another birthday. I am 41 now. When I was using getting old was a huge deal, I would get all depressed and oh poor me life is horrible...and it was. but after getting sober I look at them differently. Dont get me wrong, I was not looking forward to 40 and then when I turned 41 and realized now I am in my 40's , that didnt make me to happy either. But as long as I am sober, life is good! Oh and I did the hair thing when I was 39 LOLOLOLOL I new 40 was coming! __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

11-02-2005, 12:11 PM	#6 (permalink)
luluabel Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: england,united kingdom Posts: 220	Phewwwwwww Paulie lol thought maybe it was just me with the hair thing .............had little streaks put in today and was,nt that scarey atall lol and I kinda like it ! do I look younger noooooooooo lol just me with red tints .. The 40 thing well I felt 40 twenty years ago so I really thought I be fine ,I became a granny at 38 so figured I'd sail through what is really just another birthday hummmm still if i do all this freaky bit now I probley fine by my birthday !!! love Kim xxxxxxxx __________________

11-02-2005, 12:30 PM	#7 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,525	Red streaks.... I did blonde and I have dark brown hair. I love it. I went back to brown last year at this time, hated it.....put the blonde streaks in again last summer and still have it today. I went to visit a friend last month that I had not seen since March, she picked me up at the airport and the first thing she said was "YOU ARE BLONDE". I love it!!! and YES it makes me feel younger. You will see 40 will be great. Heck a gramma at 38, I bet you are one hot lookin young gramma!!! __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

11-02-2005, 12:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
Evanna Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Our house. Posts: 711	Mad hats. I hit 40 and started buying crazy hats. I have hat boxes everywhere. This is my latest buy; I dont like being 40 much. I thought that i would feel all dignified and grown up by 40. But i dont i feel like a big kid wandering around in a body that has gone generally south. Hard to be dignified wearing that hat i guess. There are some good things about being 40 though. I am definitely not so full of angst and far better at entertaining myself than i used to be. (the whole going south, fat and forty thing has me in a bit of a tizwaz. Cant do anything about being 40 (besides grow out of it). But i am working on the other). __________________ I used to have a handle on life....but it broke off!

11-02-2005, 12:47 PM	#9 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,525	Well, you can wear a variety of colors with it __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

11-02-2005, 12:51 PM	#10 (permalink)
Evanna Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Our house. Posts: 711	__________________ I used to have a handle on life....but it broke off!

11-02-2005, 04:47 PM	#11 (permalink)
*indigo* Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,146	As you get older it can get better, clean still alive and getting things fixed. I am so old now I make Methusulah sp look young lol, wouldn't go back though I am finally becoming my true self...it hurts and it makes me strong......it also means I can say keep on kiddo. hugs indigo __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

11-02-2005, 11:19 PM	#12 (permalink)
luluabel Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: england,united kingdom Posts: 220	Paulie blonde streaks sound great my hairdresser did try toget me to go bolder but the hysterics and high pitch voice got me the little tiny red tints lol .........this was brave enough for now lol.......... Evanna I just love your hat .........its cool !!! I sure know what you mean about everything going south god how i love my wonderbras....... Indigo I think your so right about getting things fixed , clean and better its something Ive done alot of work on this year, self esteem is an all important part of my healing and im determined to get some , my journey is far from over and at least now seems to be tinged with hope ..... Thanks for sharing with me it means alot love Kim xxxxxxxxxx __________________

11-03-2005, 09:44 AM	#14 (permalink)
splendra the girl can't help it Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: splendraville Posts: 4,816 Blog Entries: 3	Oh (((Lulubell))))you are still just a kid.... __________________ nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

11-04-2005, 03:18 PM	#15 (permalink)
luluabel Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: england,united kingdom Posts: 220	Evanna I love ebay too .......... I didnt think I had a competetive bone in my body! get me on ebay though ..lol (((Splendra )))lol if only if only .............. Thanks girls love to you all Kim xxxxxxxxxxx __________________

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