Horrible memories.

[namommy]

The last year of my active addiction, I was with a guy who was by far, my most abusive relationship. My biggest fear is having him pop up into my life again.

Well, tonite my parents got a call from a parole officer asking for their help. Apparently he has been using my father's name and phone number as his "Emergency contact". She's trying to locate him (we think). She really didn't get into detail, and my mom didn't push the issue. (I would have).

Just the fact that here we are, 9 years later, thinking that part of my life is long gone. (I thought he was either dead, in prison for life, or in Texas with his family). And his name comes up from out of the blue. He's obviously still in this area. He's very dangerous, and I really don't want to run into him, or have any dealings with him at all.

The last time we really had any relationship, he tried to kill me by setting the bed on fire while I was sleeping in it. When I finally got myself together, I was so pissed I broke his jaw. I just don't want to face this one again.

It's really got me freaked out, and I just needed to vent and get it out.
Thanks

[liveweyerd]

Document it Nanomommy.

I understand what you are feeling, I had to move to FL from IN and it was weeks before I was walking down the street one day and the realization hit me that I was free for the first time in years. No one knew me! Wow! That felt so great because it meant I was safe.

I suggest you document things in case you need to take action to stop things.

Hugs and understanding,
live

[Paulie]

Vent away my friend.

Yeah that is pretty scary. Could you call the parole officer and get details of where he is just so you know? I mean at least knowing if he is in your town or not might help you one way or the other.

Also remember where you are 9 years later, yes you have fear and rightly so, but you are in a different place able to deal with your fear and face it.

[4health]

I can understand that fear as well. I'll say a prayer for your safety. Can you find out about him? and WOW! You broke his Jaw? How'd you manage that? LOL Maybe he'd think twice about messing with you now...

[namommy]

Thanks Ladies.
I did have the thought of calling the parole officer today and finding out what I can. I hope she is willing to talk to me.

4health. lol. I got so mad I punched him in the mouth.

The "revenge" thing seems to be a pattern. My first husband was abusive, and before I left him, I hit him in an ankle he just had surgery on (with his own crutches) and re-broke it.

I'm finding myself looking around, to see if I see him walking down the street, in a store, I even got nervous in work today. I don't know how I will act if he shows up at a meeting. He used to go to meetings in this area but he kept relapsing. He knows this is where I got clean.

Oh, I just have to find a way to let it go.

[Paulie]

Well keep talking and pray I think you might just be more willing to let it go then you think you are.

[indigo]

Yes Namommy I've been there too, don't let him fool you and look after yourself.
You're a specail person you deserve to be respected.

Hugs indie

[namommy]

I tried calling the number that showed up on the caller ID, and it was not able to get through.

I'll find a way to let it go. I know I will. I always do.

Thanks again for the support.

[liveweyerd]

hugs!

None of us deserves to live in fear.

more hugs,
live

[wolflet]

keep yourself safe.......(((((((((hugs))))))))

you are a powerful & intellegent woman, remember that

(& don't let me **** ya off!.....not that i would, i'ld be the first to defend, but dang grrrrrrrrl!)

maybe go buy some pepper spray, even if it's just to help you feel safe (i'm a big a dvocate of how we feel is how we are)

[Paulie]

(i'm a big a dvocate of how we feel is how we are)

I like that statement!!!

[pumpkinangel]

namommy
I am so glad I came across this. I have been in an abusive relationship with a guy who I should be scared of because he is a felon, has been violent with me and done things that he should be in jail for again. I have just tried to see the good in him and it has continued to bite me in the butt. I am playing with fire and I should care about myself more! You have helped me see that I do not need this in my life. He does not love me or he would not do the things he has done to me. I am gonna walk away this time for good.
I will pray for you that it all works out. He will get what is coming to him sooner or later.

[namommy]

Pumpkin,
Welcome to SR. I am really glad that I was able to help you see this.

I have just one word for you: 'RUN'.
Run as far as you can away from that relationship. We all deserve to be treated well.