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splendra · 10-23-2005, 09:54 AM

h my G

d I refused to listen to my H's ex-wife.....

bikewench · 10-23-2005, 05:15 PM

Good for you Splendra...

and I'm done waiting for someone to remember that I'm alive...

So.. we did good eh.. ;o)

**51anna** · 10-23-2005, 05:50 PM

That's great Splendra and Bikewench!

We know what we need to do to take care of ourselves, we just need to do it. That's empowering and satisfying.

hopealwayz · 10-23-2005, 10:14 PM

That is great! Taking care of ourselves is what we gotta do.

splendra · 10-24-2005, 02:59 AM

I think what I wrote has been misread....I said Oh my God I refused to listen to my husbands ex-wife....oh and let me add...I wish I had

**historyteach** · 10-24-2005, 03:05 AM

ooooppppssss!
Whatever happened, you'll be ok.
And we're here with you all the way.
Shalom!

minnie · 10-24-2005, 09:39 AM

I gotcha, S. I did too and look what happened to me......

pmaslan · 10-24-2005, 10:52 AM

I wish I had, had the chance to speak with the ex's ex-wife, had I listened to her...probably not......

MamaGoose · 10-24-2005, 07:20 PM

I refused to listen to my own intuition.
Ex # 2 MICD (mentally ill chemicaly dependent) PTSD VietNam vet had lived with his parents, then wife # 1, then wife # 2 who then divorced him for bigamy because he forgot to divorce wife # 1. Then an exotic dancer who used rattlesnakes for her prop. Then back to his parents when I met him. Oh my I really blew it. But I forgive myself now and can laugh about it. Never say never but I don't think I can ever get involved romantically again.
MamaGoose

Paulie · 10-25-2005, 12:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by splendra

I think what I wrote has been misread....I said Oh my God I refused to listen to my husbands ex-wife....oh and let me add...I wish I had

why?

MamaGoose · 10-25-2005, 02:08 PM

Could we have avoided all the heart ache? Or did our HP decide we needed to go through it?
MamaGoose

splendra · 10-25-2005, 02:25 PM

I don't think my HP put my H's addiction in my life:nono:

I don't think I am stronger or a better person.. I think my heart is breaking and I hate dealing with addiction....

liveweyerd · 10-26-2005, 08:21 PM

I didn't listen to the subtle warnings either, I was busy being loyal.
When I tried to tell a later one, she didn't want to couldn't hear me either.
I am sure he has told her I am chasing him. And also tried to make her jealous.
It is a weird phenomenon, and whether we listen or not depends greatly on what they tell us of their exs, pre-shaping our response.
??????

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10-23-2005, 05:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,160	That's great Splendra and Bikewench! We know what we need to do to take care of ourselves, we just need to do it. That's empowering and satisfying. __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

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hopealwayz Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 3,514	That is great! Taking care of ourselves is what we gotta do. __________________

10-24-2005, 02:59 AM	#5 (permalink)
splendra the girl can't help it Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: splendraville Posts: 4,816 Blog Entries: 3	I think what I wrote has been misread....I said Oh my God I refused to listen to my husbands ex-wife....oh and let me add...I wish I had __________________ nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

10-24-2005, 03:05 AM	#6 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: centered again Posts: 8,071	ooooppppssss! Whatever happened, you'll be ok. And we're here with you all the way. Shalom! __________________

10-23-2005, 05:15 PM	#2 (permalink)
bikewench Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: western canada Posts: 1,440	Good for you Splendra... and I'm done waiting for someone to remember that I'm alive... So.. we did good eh.. ;o)

10-24-2005, 09:39 AM	#7 (permalink)
minnie Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: England Posts: 3,417	I gotcha, S. I did too and look what happened to me......

10-24-2005, 10:52 AM	#8 (permalink)
pmaslan Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 2,332	I wish I had, had the chance to speak with the ex's ex-wife, had I listened to her...probably not...... __________________ Patty you either make dust...or eat dust. H. Jackson Brown Jr.

10-24-2005, 07:20 PM	#9 (permalink)
MamaGoose Honk if you're a codie! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: State of Codependency Posts: 115	I refused to listen to my own intuition. Ex # 2 MICD (mentally ill chemicaly dependent) PTSD VietNam vet had lived with his parents, then wife # 1, then wife # 2 who then divorced him for bigamy because he forgot to divorce wife # 1. Then an exotic dancer who used rattlesnakes for her prop. Then back to his parents when I met him. Oh my I really blew it. But I forgive myself now and can laugh about it. Never say never but I don't think I can ever get involved romantically again. MamaGoose __________________ MamaGoose "Our recovery is tough. We don't have to give up a drink or a substance. We have to give up our very nature. We are caregivers. It's what we do." - historyteach -

10-25-2005, 02:08 PM	#11 (permalink)
MamaGoose Honk if you're a codie! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: State of Codependency Posts: 115	Could we have avoided all the heart ache? Or did our HP decide we needed to go through it? MamaGoose __________________ MamaGoose "Our recovery is tough. We don't have to give up a drink or a substance. We have to give up our very nature. We are caregivers. It's what we do." - historyteach -

10-25-2005, 02:25 PM	#12 (permalink)
splendra the girl can't help it Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: splendraville Posts: 4,816 Blog Entries: 3	I don't think my HP put my H's addiction in my life:nono: I don't think I am stronger or a better person.. I think my heart is breaking and I hate dealing with addiction.... __________________ nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

10-26-2005, 08:21 PM	#13 (permalink)
liveweyerd Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: central Florida Posts: 7,289 Blog Entries: 5	I didn't listen to the subtle warnings either, I was busy being loyal. When I tried to tell a later one, she didn't want to couldn't hear me either. I am sure he has told her I am chasing him. And also tried to make her jealous. It is a weird phenomenon, and whether we listen or not depends greatly on what they tell us of their exs, pre-shaping our response. ?????? __________________ Each small candle lights a corner of the dark....Roger Waters

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