Mofia Mothers

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I call the women in the PTA (most of them) Mafia Mothers. I use to be so involved in thePTA because the more you are invovled the better chaces that your kids have at winning any contest a plus they get picked for everything. It's all poitical! I have to say tonight I just did not really care that much about THEM! It's all because of you guys and feeling Like i have someone on my side and friends. Both of my daughters did not place in the cultural arts contest, but they had a good time. My one almost cried because she did not get a trophy this year, but I showed her that you don't always have to win. Ofcourse I was pissed in side because my girls I swear did the best and followed the rules, but it's not what you do around here, it's who you know and the richer the better or the more pathedic your story is the better as long a your part of the Mafia Mothers. My one little girl was just happy to be a part of the whole thing! I use to be that way with the PTA, but it got ugly and so did I! had to swallow some lumps of anger tonight, but me and my girls were ladies all the way! (except when my 7 year old went to fix her tights and pulled her dress up to her ears in front of a few hundred people. I'm sure glad she is into wearing underwear now. Just last year she use to take them off to go potty and forget to put them back on)!!!!!!!! I use to call her my little Norma Jean. Thanks all for letting me be real and thank you for your friendship!

[Paulie]

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Sounds like a wonderful evening!!!

Sometimes I feel like pulling my dress up over my head too LOL!!!!

[JT]

Being comfortable in my own skin was one of the best bonus's about this program. To heck with the PTA...(in my case it was all the softball yuppie mom's). I am "less than" NO ONE!!

Can't say I ever pulled my dress over my head tho

Jt

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Hey JT, gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, I'm still pissed. It was this program last year that I do so much for and got not much credit. It's not even that, it was being insulted over and over again by the woman who was incharge. GG, I wanted to slap her everytime I saw her! She is one of those sly ones who act like butter would not melt in her mouth and she is sweet and wonderful, but inside she is a horrible mean person. The kind that kick you when no one is look or maybe they are, but she will make it out like it was all an accident and I would look like the one who kicked myself! I could just feel her laughing inside when my 5 year old was the only one in her grade group who did not win. She just smiled at me! Ugh, both of her children won first place last year and the one that is still at school won this year too. It's not evenm that, it's the fact that she uses something that is made for children to get her kicks. Well, I'm sure you know all about it being part of a soft ball yuppy croud. Last year I was acting the same way as far as pushing my kids to win no matter what. I did't like myself much, but i hated that woman more. this school system here sucks big time and the kids are forced to be super kids and if you are a least bit different, the school system uses all it's power to break the family or make them move. Iv seen it so many times. there are 10,000 children in the school system and this is a small suburb that is turning into a city fast. All in all I just want to move I am missarable and my kids never want to go to school. Sorry I can go on and on, but I feel so stuck.
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How to exsplain. I look the part here where I live, I try to act the part of a middle class yuppy, but God knows I'm not! I gave up last year around this time. My spirit was broken from all the insults to my kids and myself. My one girl could not get into Brownies because "they did not want her kind in there, she needed too much help because she had fine moter skill problems" My middle school girl was caught in a battle between the school and a gifted program she attended. They wanted my gifted daughter to fail just to prove that even gifted kids fail and the gifted program should be thrown out. The gossip around the nieghborhood made my one son look like a criminal. he lived with me just a few months and went from strait As to all Fs because he just did not understand the school system here. They wanted me to put a PINs on him, but I knew it would make him worse, so I had him move back with his Dad because he was a part of that town and they had tollerance of him. My preschooler was not invited to parties at her nursery school (the only girl not chosen to go to play dates either). It was not her because she was just a sweet wonderful kid, it was the parents. She would ask "mommy why can't I go to the party or Mommy how come I can't go to play dates too". it was because we were shunned. I'd scoop my daughter up and we would go to lunch or I'd buy her toy to take away her pain. I moved them out of the school here and put them in a private school. Unfortunatly we cannot afford private, so it's back to the old school. My spirit was broken until i found you guys. You can hurt me, but when you hurt my kids you break me.
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Today i went out and got my 2 littlest ones hair cut. (They look cute I might add) Anyway this guy was getting his 2 daughter's hair cut and we got to talking. After about 30 seconds I could tell he was gay. well we chit chatted and my daughter played with his and we talked hair, clothes... he I know was like "covering up" because he thought I did't have a clue that he was gay. Finally I was suggesting some hair product to make his daughters hair not be frizzy and he said "my wife might have some of that stuff". " OK I said to myself how can I break the ice and reach out) then I started talking about myself a little and basacally said I know your different and have a differnt family, and it's OK! I asked him has he been involved in any PTA stuff yet and he said him and his partner did go to open house. I could tell how much he loved his daughters and I can tell how much they loved him. i could tell the bond because I have the same bond with my kids. He was dancing with his girls and just talking about everything. O'ya I guess I got him to talk about himself too when I asked if he was the "stay at home parent" . I just wanted him to know he was not alone and not discriminated against and that he did not have to hide. I have skirrted around so many questions regaurding my sons. Your a marked person if you kids do not live with you and you are a woman. anyway, it just got me thinking that maybe someday i will get a orginization together around here for blended families. Ha, i always joke that "I did all the blending" It was wonderful to reach out and maybe find a perpose after all. I hate gooddoers that think they understand, but have no clue because they want to change people. Iv seen familys run out of town here and I could cry because (O and I did) I don't want to be the only "goonie" around here.
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Bla, bla bla.... What a pitty party I was having with myself today. I'm so embarrassed:o At least I did get that beer I was thinking about!
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Opps, I mean I DID NOT GET THE BEER, I SWEAR!!!!!!! ha, ha, I'm so dumb sometimes I crack myself up!
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