Stressing Re: Christmas & $$$

[NoSnowHo]

Hi All,

I'm a mom of one. I live with my boyfriend (not my son's dad). We've been together on & off for 5 years now. He's addicted to pot & binges on coke approx. once a week. Right now he's out fishing. He didn't leave any money for the rent because he's broke. So I have to cover it until he gets some funds together. I'm just worried about Christmas. It's the kind of stress that I would escape from by smoking a joint or having a beer. Since I'm going to be sober and clean for all of December, instead of using I'm posting. I'd also use when I'd have to do something I didn't want to, like all the housework again. So this is my first day absolutely sober and no pot. I told my best friend, whom I used to smoke pot with, that I'm going to do a clean month.

I'm looking for some contacts to help me through the tough spots this month. I've been using coke about once a month for the last two years. I don't want to use coke anymore. I can't drink if I don't want to use 'cause being drunk is a big trigger for me. My boyfriends birthday on the 16th this month. He wants to have a party at our place. I really don't want a drinking party here. I'm the one who would have to clean it up and I'd have nowhere to go to be away from temptation.

Also, I'm worried about New Year's Eve. I don't want to do coke.

[zoomer]

Hey welcome! slow down some OK. You are what they call projecting. You do not know what tomorrow will bring until it comes. O you can predict, but the best thing is that you can change the out come one easy step at a time. If you do not drink, you can think in an approprate way. Ha, I had one of those men who got high without thinking of the out come. I was homeless until I took things in my hands and did not depend on him. You can't plain and smiple and there is nothing you can do about it! It's hard I know because you want to believe the promises, but 99 % of the time they just do not come true. For your little one, go out and buy one gift a week and he will have 4 by Christmas. Do you have family that can buy your little one gifts. Keep posting and I'm sure that more people will have more ideas.
Zoomer

[Blazinglory]

Hello Ladies,

My first post here. I was reading about fears of staying clean through the Holidays. I consider myself "fortunate" through the years of recovery. The Holidays have never presented a problem in my recovery...I used everyday when I was out there; Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Monday, July 19th, etc. was just another day in active addiction. In recovery we're taught to live each day to the fullest, no matter what...the bottom line, we stay clean. I can no longer play the blame game if I use...no one has ever twisted my arm and made me do anything...a sponsor early on in recovery made it very clear about old using buddies or a boyfriend that uses, "If you lay down with dogs you're going to get fleas." Recovery is an inside job and my responsibility.

My life is full of awesome people in the program...THE WINNERS. Letting go of everything in active addiction; people, places and things has brought so many blessings and miracles. Being clean is a blessing from a loving & compassionate HP...what I choose to do with those blessings is my gift back to God.

Simple program for complicated people??? Yep, it sure is. All I know today that the only promise I have ever received from NA if I stay clean is freedom from active addiction...I will get out of life what I put into it...don't give up five minutes before the miracle happens!!!

Keep coming back ~ Keep the Miracle Alive!!!

(((hugs)))

[Paulie]

Blazinglory -

Welcome - you said it so well.

My mom used to say "you are what your friends are' and today I understand what that means.

I had fleas for years, but no more!!! LOL!

Again, welcome and keep posting, this is agreat place for fellowship and friendship both.