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narf · 11-03-2002, 04:24 PM

all Hello,
My name is fran, i was in, am in, recovery for 16 years and relapsed about 6 years ago. I was chatting with a friend who told me about the site Women In
Recovery. I was so happy! Its so difficult to talk with just anyone about my recovery I hope that I will be welcomed and I hope that there is help for this. I have been ok for 6 years but Iam maintainted on methadone. Its the only way for me right now, im not a youngster either im 54 years of age. i just wanted to introduce myself to everyone.

God bless,
your sister
fran

JT · 11-03-2002, 04:50 PM

You have my welcome!

I am an Anon and in recovery for about 10 years. In this forum we kind of intermingle...the Anons and the A's....and we...the more evolved sex... seem to get along just fine! I just passed the half century mark myself.

Keep coming back...we have a very colorful and fun group!

Hugs,
JT

narf · 11-03-2002, 05:18 PM

Thank you so much. There are sites that do not condone MMT but i truly believe that without God's help and this medicine I would probably be dead. Then how could we teach the other sex that we are the more evovled?

fran

Stephanie · 11-03-2002, 05:35 PM

Hi Fran,

Welcome, I'm glad you found the web site. People here are very supportive and helpful I too relapsed after some significant clean time and it is very hard to get back. Most do not. I am so glad that you made it. We are two of the lucky ones.

Keep posting and congratulations on getting your sobriety backl!

Love and hugs,

Searching

Paulie · 11-05-2002, 01:59 PM

Hey Narf -

Welcome to the forum, sorry I was a little late getting by to welcome you.

This is a great place for fellowship and support, I am glad you found us. Please keep posting and reading the treads around here. There is some great stuff about this disease of addiciton that we share over on the NA forum also.

Take care and keep posting, we love new friends!!!

**Ann** · 11-05-2002, 02:10 PM

Welcome Narf

I am an anon as well, my son is an addict, but we are not as concerned with what road brought us here, because we are now all on the same road to recovery.

Congratulations with your recovery, and I am happy you joined us. Without medication, my husband would be dead too, he is diabetic. Any medication you take is between your doctor and you and I am grateful that you came.

Peacefulpie · 11-06-2002, 07:59 PM

Welcome Fran,

I am Den, alcoholic... Just wanted to say hi and welcome you to the boards.
I look forward to getting to know you through our posting's.
Be well.:shades2:

narf · 11-11-2002, 04:51 PM

hello to all
first let me thank every one for the warm welcome. I'm so glad a friend told me about this site. thank you all.

my main objective for this post is the incredible amount of loneliness i have been feeling lately. I realize that recovery in and of itself is hard, this is the second time for me. The first time however, i never felt so alone. I work, i go home, i work i go home. I just don't want to mingle with people right now. It's not deep depression, its plain and simple being alone to much. Do any of you ever feel this way? When and if you do how do you handle it. I too have a son that is an addict and is doing ok, but he's ok because he has to be. I don't really want to elucidate on that yet, but my children are my life, sometimes i feel like they are the only things i ever did right. I'm feeling sorry for myself and I want to know if anyone else goes through this, and how do you pull yourself out of it? Any advice would be helpful and appreciated.

thanks in advance,
narf/fran

shelleybellie29 · 11-11-2002, 06:52 PM

Hi narf,
Welcome! I relate to how you feel about the lonliness. I think almost everyone who posts here will relate. One good thing is that you are talking about it. Now its time to do something to get out of it. When i feel lonley i just try and do things i enjoy. Going out with friends, reading, writing, or any kind of hobbie. For me i know i have to stay busy and connected to my women friends. If it is just to sit at their house and drink coffee (which i drink alot of

Do you have a network? A good strong network can take away some of that lonliness you are feeling. Just a thought.

Good luck and keep posting!!

God Bless,
Shelley

narf · 11-11-2002, 07:00 PM

Shellie
Thats my biggest problem, there is no one. I have a very good friend in New Jersey, Indiana, Vermont. No one here and thats why I feel the way I do. I need someone to talk to besides a computer. My family still has not forgiven me for being an addict, a sickness that can't be cured.. I blame society for that. I was an advocate for rights for addicts, but went as far as I could and it was time for me to quit. Sometimes I think the lonely feeling will eat me alive.

any help i would appreciate

Your sister in recovery
narf

shelleybellie29 · 11-11-2002, 07:07 PM

Narf,
The best way to meet some friends is to go to an NA/AA meeting. Try going to the NA/AA website and find a meeting in your area. Get as many phone numbers as you can and use them. I understand it is hard getting yourself there but believe me its worth it. Try it it cant hurt right? Whats the worst that can happen u feel uncomfortable and u meet a few new friends to hang out with.

God Bless,
Shelley

Juls · 11-12-2002, 09:23 PM

Narf,

I agree that going to meetings is a good way to meet new people. That is how I met some new recovery friends. However, you might want to be careful about who you tell that you are on Methadone. It is a controversial area, and there are people who think that you can't be in recovery if you are on anything. I don't think that way. Maybe there is a group in your area for people who are on methadone.

If you are getting you methadone from a clinic, perhaps they will have information about that.

I'm not trying to turn you off meetings, and if others see it differently I hope they will speak up.

Good luck, I hope you meet some people soon. I know how that loneliness is. I get that way, but I also have the problem of not wanting to leave my house and interact with others. I have to force myself to, and I'm almost always glad I did, but making that first step can be really hard for me.

gem1angel · 11-13-2002, 03:52 AM

Hi narf, this is a great site for support and help.

Just wanted to say without methadone i would never of been able to come off heroin, i know what you mean that without MMT you would be dead, i would also.

I,ve recently come off Meth on a reuction plan its been 2 mths and almost 2 weeks and i,m still finding it pretty hard, but when i feel down it helps to come onto this site, i,ve never been to an NA meeting or anything, right now this site ios just what i need!

Take care

Gem xx

narf · 11-13-2002, 06:05 PM

Angel
I found in my experience that at NA meetings they do not accept people that are on MMT. Without Methadone I would not be typing this post and thats a fact. The day i decided to quit i found myself in a motel with my husband, but i could not remember how we got there, i was 900 dollars in the hole and a week had gone by. Now, I will not sit around and listen to stories like this at these meetings. This is what they do here. Im sure there are real recovery meetings somewhere, but on the internet is the only place i have found them I tried to get into the chat room but i forget my stupid password!!!! Even tho i try to use the same one for everything, I forgot it. I'm no youngster either, i'm 54 and feel good, work everyday and trying to get my son on the right track, whether it be NA OR THE GOOD LORD OUR GOD, its up to him. But I will be there for him. I've got to pull myself out of this slump first before i can help him. and i will. because God is with me

your sister in recovery

fran/narf:okay:

11-03-2002, 04:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
narf Paused Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: pittsburgh, penna Posts: 14	New to this site all Hello, My name is fran, i was in, am in, recovery for 16 years and relapsed about 6 years ago. I was chatting with a friend who told me about the site Women In Recovery. I was so happy! Its so difficult to talk with just anyone about my recovery I hope that I will be welcomed and I hope that there is help for this. I have been ok for 6 years but Iam maintainted on methadone. Its the only way for me right now, im not a youngster either im 54 years of age. i just wanted to introduce myself to everyone. God bless, your sister fran

11-03-2002, 04:50 PM	#2 (permalink)
JT Supply Manager Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Cleaverville Posts: 2,903	You have my welcome! I am an Anon and in recovery for about 10 years. In this forum we kind of intermingle...the Anons and the A's....and we...the more evolved sex... seem to get along just fine! I just passed the half century mark myself. Keep coming back...we have a very colorful and fun group! Hugs, JT __________________ The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind~Wayne Dyer

11-03-2002, 05:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
Stephanie Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: The Basement Posts: 724	Hi Fran, Welcome, I'm glad you found the web site. People here are very supportive and helpful I too relapsed after some significant clean time and it is very hard to get back. Most do not. I am so glad that you made it. We are two of the lucky ones. Keep posting and congratulations on getting your sobriety backl! Love and hugs, Searching __________________ It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out â€“ it's the grain of sand in your shoe. Robert Service

11-05-2002, 01:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,785	Hey Narf - Welcome to the forum, sorry I was a little late getting by to welcome you. This is a great place for fellowship and support, I am glad you found us. Please keep posting and reading the treads around here. There is some great stuff about this disease of addiciton that we share over on the NA forum also. Take care and keep posting, we love new friends!!! __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

11-05-2002, 02:10 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 25,201	Welcome Narf I am an anon as well, my son is an addict, but we are not as concerned with what road brought us here, because we are now all on the same road to recovery. Congratulations with your recovery, and I am happy you joined us. Without medication, my husband would be dead too, he is diabetic. Any medication you take is between your doctor and you and I am grateful that you came. __________________ “Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~Winnie the Pooh~

11-03-2002, 05:18 PM	#3 (permalink)
narf Paused Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: pittsburgh, penna Posts: 14	Thank you so much. There are sites that do not condone MMT but i truly believe that without God's help and this medicine I would probably be dead. Then how could we teach the other sex that we are the more evovled? fran

11-06-2002, 07:59 PM	#7 (permalink)
Peacefulpie Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: toto I dont think we're in kansas anymore Posts: 354	welcome Fran Welcome Fran, I am Den, alcoholic... Just wanted to say hi and welcome you to the boards. I look forward to getting to know you through our posting's. Be well.:shades2: __________________ Take the time to live!!! Life is too short. Dance naked.!!! Alway's Den

11-11-2002, 04:51 PM	#8 (permalink)
narf Paused Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: pittsburgh, penna Posts: 14	is being lonely part of recovery? hello to all first let me thank every one for the warm welcome. I'm so glad a friend told me about this site. thank you all. my main objective for this post is the incredible amount of loneliness i have been feeling lately. I realize that recovery in and of itself is hard, this is the second time for me. The first time however, i never felt so alone. I work, i go home, i work i go home. I just don't want to mingle with people right now. It's not deep depression, its plain and simple being alone to much. Do any of you ever feel this way? When and if you do how do you handle it. I too have a son that is an addict and is doing ok, but he's ok because he has to be. I don't really want to elucidate on that yet, but my children are my life, sometimes i feel like they are the only things i ever did right. I'm feeling sorry for myself and I want to know if anyone else goes through this, and how do you pull yourself out of it? Any advice would be helpful and appreciated. thanks in advance, narf/fran

11-11-2002, 06:52 PM	#9 (permalink)
shelleybellie29 Paused Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: New Jersey Posts: 12	Hi narf, Welcome! I relate to how you feel about the lonliness. I think almost everyone who posts here will relate. One good thing is that you are talking about it. Now its time to do something to get out of it. When i feel lonley i just try and do things i enjoy. Going out with friends, reading, writing, or any kind of hobbie. For me i know i have to stay busy and connected to my women friends. If it is just to sit at their house and drink coffee (which i drink alot of Do you have a network? A good strong network can take away some of that lonliness you are feeling. Just a thought. Good luck and keep posting!! God Bless, Shelley

11-11-2002, 07:00 PM	#10 (permalink)
narf Paused Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: pittsburgh, penna Posts: 14	to shellie Shellie Thats my biggest problem, there is no one. I have a very good friend in New Jersey, Indiana, Vermont. No one here and thats why I feel the way I do. I need someone to talk to besides a computer. My family still has not forgiven me for being an addict, a sickness that can't be cured.. I blame society for that. I was an advocate for rights for addicts, but went as far as I could and it was time for me to quit. Sometimes I think the lonely feeling will eat me alive. any help i would appreciate Your sister in recovery narf

11-11-2002, 07:07 PM	#11 (permalink)
shelleybellie29 Paused Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: New Jersey Posts: 12	Narf, The best way to meet some friends is to go to an NA/AA meeting. Try going to the NA/AA website and find a meeting in your area. Get as many phone numbers as you can and use them. I understand it is hard getting yourself there but believe me its worth it. Try it it cant hurt right? Whats the worst that can happen u feel uncomfortable and u meet a few new friends to hang out with. God Bless, Shelley

11-12-2002, 09:23 PM	#12 (permalink)
Juls Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: California, USA Posts: 1,095	Narf, I agree that going to meetings is a good way to meet new people. That is how I met some new recovery friends. However, you might want to be careful about who you tell that you are on Methadone. It is a controversial area, and there are people who think that you can't be in recovery if you are on anything. I don't think that way. Maybe there is a group in your area for people who are on methadone. If you are getting you methadone from a clinic, perhaps they will have information about that. I'm not trying to turn you off meetings, and if others see it differently I hope they will speak up. Good luck, I hope you meet some people soon. I know how that loneliness is. I get that way, but I also have the problem of not wanting to leave my house and interact with others. I have to force myself to, and I'm almost always glad I did, but making that first step can be really hard for me.

11-13-2002, 03:52 AM	#13 (permalink)
gem1angel Paused Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: UK Posts: 1	to narf Hi narf, this is a great site for support and help. Just wanted to say without methadone i would never of been able to come off heroin, i know what you mean that without MMT you would be dead, i would also. I,ve recently come off Meth on a reuction plan its been 2 mths and almost 2 weeks and i,m still finding it pretty hard, but when i feel down it helps to come onto this site, i,ve never been to an NA meeting or anything, right now this site ios just what i need! Take care Gem xx

11-13-2002, 06:05 PM	#14 (permalink)
narf Paused Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: pittsburgh, penna Posts: 14	jem1 Angel I found in my experience that at NA meetings they do not accept people that are on MMT. Without Methadone I would not be typing this post and thats a fact. The day i decided to quit i found myself in a motel with my husband, but i could not remember how we got there, i was 900 dollars in the hole and a week had gone by. Now, I will not sit around and listen to stories like this at these meetings. This is what they do here. Im sure there are real recovery meetings somewhere, but on the internet is the only place i have found them I tried to get into the chat room but i forget my stupid password!!!! Even tho i try to use the same one for everything, I forgot it. I'm no youngster either, i'm 54 and feel good, work everyday and trying to get my son on the right track, whether it be NA OR THE GOOD LORD OUR GOD, its up to him. But I will be there for him. I've got to pull myself out of this slump first before i can help him. and i will. because God is with me your sister in recovery fran/narf:okay:

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