Are there any SAHMs here?

[Jamila]

Just wondering how you deal with your days as a sober mom? I know I would love to get to meetings during the day especially b/c I am so lonesome with a small child. I recently got some speaker cds and those are good. I am also working on another 4th step which is very intensive, so, during naps I have that to do, as well as cleaning the house. pretty exciting, huh?

[ToriGirl]

I lost my code key...

what does a SAHM mean? Cause I don' t think it means "single alcoholic hot mom"

[Anna]

Hi Libbi,

I think whenever we are alone it is a hard time. I always drank alone, always and when my husband would travel on business, it was a big trigger for me. That was the hardest hurdle to get over. Hang in there and keep visiting SR. There's always something inspirational to read here.

Love, Anna

[ToriGirl]

Oh ..wow..I am a SAHM then.

And it is really hard to recover when you are a SAHM...cause you always have to have on a happy face and do activities with the baby..even if you don't feel like it.

And there are no brakes...it's full time 24/7. Sometimes you the only place to escape is the bathroom. Yes, I know the bathroom floor well.

I am sad to admit..that I have actually had my lunch in the bathroom just to get some peace and quiet.

Moms really do make the ultimate sacrifices.

[hja1407]

HI to everyone!!! I am a SAHM also and believe me it is VERy hard to stay sober sometimes. I have a 3.5 year old autistic son an 18 month old daughter and a 3 month old daughter. There are days when I run outside just to breathe t seems. The only thing that I have found to work is put them in their rooms and walk away and call someone. Even child protective services recommended this. Just because you get stressed out DOES NOT mean that you are a bad parent just that you are normal. Hang in there you will make it. Just take it one day at a time. If that doesn't work then try one hour or even 15 minutes.
Heather

[Rho]

You found this SR come as often and for as long as you need to.. I found this room and I am so glad I did becasue nights like tonight i can come in here read and share and VENT when needed. I feel bad to bother other people with my pothedic life but it helps, it helps to read that other people have it the same, worse or better then you. It helps to meet people that have a long, short what ever length of clean time. It just helps to have the POSITIVE SUPPORT and that is what you need, what we all need.

Shoot I got to get up at 5:30am to get ready fro work, and well it is 2:36am here now. Just have a lot on my mind, and have a year & 4 months of clean time to F it up, plus a cute little boy (2-3/4's) & a awesome daughter who is 13 that are more important then getting high. I need to offerthem a healthy positive life. Go to meetings when U can how old is the child/or children get a sitter or bring them to a meeting.

I'll say a prayer for you, but when U can't make it to a face to face meeting come here.

Hugs to ya
Rho

[LucyUK]

Hi there,

I'm coming to this post a little late, sorry! But I too am a SAHM to a 1 & a 2 (nearly 3) year old it's fun eh?! I'm only 2.5 months sober (this time - had 5 months before going back out for 3 months) and I'm just starting to find my groove wrt recovery things in the daytime. The kids aren't in too much of a routine but I have now made it my priority to do recovery things when they are sleeping or eating. So far, I've prayed, read my 3 daily meditation books, spoken to another AA friend for 20 mins and read a story out of the big book. I've been up for nearly 3 hours so that's not bad going!!! I'm also on step 4 but I'm finding it hard to do in the daytime as I often need to stop-start with the kids around and I find step 4 too hard to concentrate on. So, I'm saving that for the weekend when hubby can have the kids for a while.

I also keep a feelings/thoughts daily journal which for me is a bit like sharing with my HP, it helps to get my feelings on to paper.

The 3 things I do daily are pray, read meditations, and journal. I can fit these in around the kids but only if I prioritise it which is the hard bit to get into the habit of.

Good luck finding what works for you.

[Austin21]

Hi, I am going through the same thing as you did. My husband travels extensively and every time it is a big trigger for me. I am able to stay sober for weeks at a time when he is here and then he leaves I feel bereft and lonely and I think "oh why not, who cares" it's like I don't even care about myself sometimes. And I do have a nice life, why am I trying to sabotage it? Also, has anyone here done anything with women for sobriety?
Thanks!

[Andygirl]

Are there any open meetings in your area that would be cool with your kiddo? I know we have some around here like that.

Or maybe you could get a sitter for a few hours a couple of times a week. I think I'd have to do that to keep my sanity.