sober but standing still

[militaryparent]

Hi All,I have 3 yrs. soberity but feel as though I am not moving forward.I go to work,come home ,feed the cats,get my mail and basically do nothing. I used to have a "fun" life,filled w/ many friends.I have changed in so many areas of my life.I think I am afraid to move forward.In my head ,I know what I need to do....I have to change jobs,get some insurance,be more fulfilled.I need to get in action.I'm not sure what my fears stem from.I'm even become fearful of being away from my house. I think it is because while I am at home I am in my world. I've isolated from so much. I have even cut back on my meetings.I know how important they are.I've become negative and judgemental. I feel as though I don't have the strength to listen to people talk....even in everyday conversations. I know thyat all of this is not a good sign,I just don't know how to change it. Any advise?

[Justme57]

Hi millitary

I think you know the answer , you have said you have stopped meetings , I guess you have also stopped ringing other Sober members too, if I was you , I would get my butt to a meeting ASAP, and if you dont want to , or cant go on your own,ring another sober member and share your fears with him and ask him to come with you .

Nothing changes without action on our part , one step at a time

Best luck
HUGX
Lee

[Roxann]

Welcome MP. I agree with Lee, get yourself to a meeting. Congrats on your 3 years of sobriety. You can't move forward if you don't take a step. I think you also need to get in touch with your Higher Power. Take it one step at a time, but you have to start moving. No one else can do it for you..

Keep posting here, you are in a good place. ((HUGS)) and prayers.

[51anna]

Welcome MP,

I'm glad you found us! You are taking a big step by recognizing that you need to make some more changes to your life and to move forward on your journey. I hope you keep visiting.

Anna

[namommy]

It's already been said, Get to a meeting.

[Paulie]

Wow that we me a few years ago.

Coming here and acknowledging it is the first step.

Now how about that meeting???

[Rowan]

You sound like you're stuck exactly where I am - I asked for help and I got the
same answers - and I know they are 100% right. I once asked someone how I
could get motivated to get to a meeting - and I was told to take action first -
motivation would come later. Ha that made me so mad. But they were right.
We all worked hard to get where we are today - lets not give our seats up so
easily! Take care and please keep coming back.
Love Rowan

[Chy]

I think forcing yourself back to meetings may be a good start. I also think mabe a check up is order. Depression is very common this time in sobriety and it could be caused by many variables.

That ol' fake it till you make it still applies to me some weeks in my recovery.