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missbliss · 01-10-2005, 05:39 PM

Is there anyone else that deals with alcohol in the house that belongs to someone else?
My husband does not have a problem with drinking and enjoys a drink every once in a while. I dont want to be anal about it and tell him that he cant have it in the house. How should I deal with this?

***Anna*** · 01-10-2005, 05:55 PM

In my case my husband drank once in a while as well, but I seem to have put him off alcohol completely during my drinking days so we no longer have alcohol in the house. And, I am glad of that because there are times, in the middle of the night, unable to sleep and feeling anxious, that it would be a test for me. It's nice not to have to deal with that. Actually, we no longer even serve alcohol to family or friends who visit - it's just a non-issue in our house.

If you're trying to quit I think it would be best to not be around your husband if he is drinking. Maybe you could be in another room or doing something else. If it bothers you that alcohol is in the house, that's kind of tough because you're right you can't really tell him he can't keep alcohol at home. Maybe if you talk to him and explain how you feel as you're beginning sobriety, that would help.

Love, Anna

jems girl · 01-10-2005, 07:51 PM

I'm just finally getting it through my thick skull how fortunate I am....my hubby is quitting with me - he doesn't have a problem in anyway - it is me with the problem. There is no way there can be alcohol in the house for me....we have tried it and I just can't stay away - doesn't matter what it is. If you can have it in the house and stay away from it, that is fantastic. I just know I am completely powerless to it. (In fact, there is a bottle of rum somewhere in the house and I asked hubby to hide it - I didn't want to dump it, in the event family comes and wants a drink....I just can't know where it is, or else I will drain it). I haven't gone looking for it, either!

missbliss · 01-10-2005, 08:34 PM

ughh my hubby came though a few mins ago and saw me on the forum and he thinks that I am totally blowing things out of proportion. He thinks I dont have a problem. But I know that I do. A person who does not have a problem does not have cravings and does not drink 4 or more times out of the week imo.
I am on rx meds now so I think that should help w/ my not going after that drink "I hope" I have never mixed rx meds before..

tobstah · 01-11-2005, 07:08 AM

I think he's in denial...

But as for alchohol being in the house.. Im always around alchohol because I live with my parents who always have a glass of wine on the table. At first it was hard, but now I dont even think of it. Unless im having a really bad night. But it enforces my decision each time I either move an empty bottle into the recycling, or stare at a half full glass.. Maybe this is going to be hard in early sobriety, so you should take precautions.. like ask your husband to maybe put it away out of sight somewhere.. and when he drinks, maybe you could go occupy yourself in another room... and if it gets really tough for you, call a member. I hope all works out well!!

jems girl · 01-11-2005, 09:38 AM

I come here. I log on whenever I am having a tough time. Reading everyone's struggles and successes is what is getting me through these first few days, (and it got me through 30 days last year). Miss - maybe you can get away from the alcohol and go to the computer in another room? I read somewhere else on the forum that making yourself busy during the worst times of the day is one of the ways to get through it.

01-10-2005, 05:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
missbliss Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: ga Posts: 35	alcohol in the house Is there anyone else that deals with alcohol in the house that belongs to someone else? My husband does not have a problem with drinking and enjoys a drink every once in a while. I dont want to be anal about it and tell him that he cant have it in the house. How should I deal with this?

01-10-2005, 05:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 22,832	In my case my husband drank once in a while as well, but I seem to have put him off alcohol completely during my drinking days so we no longer have alcohol in the house. And, I am glad of that because there are times, in the middle of the night, unable to sleep and feeling anxious, that it would be a test for me. It's nice not to have to deal with that. Actually, we no longer even serve alcohol to family or friends who visit - it's just a non-issue in our house. If you're trying to quit I think it would be best to not be around your husband if he is drinking. Maybe you could be in another room or doing something else. If it bothers you that alcohol is in the house, that's kind of tough because you're right you can't really tell him he can't keep alcohol at home. Maybe if you talk to him and explain how you feel as you're beginning sobriety, that would help. Love, Anna __________________ And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. John Denver

01-11-2005, 07:08 AM	#5 (permalink)
tobstah tha toastah Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: montreal, quebec Posts: 205	I think he's in denial... But as for alchohol being in the house.. Im always around alchohol because I live with my parents who always have a glass of wine on the table. At first it was hard, but now I dont even think of it. Unless im having a really bad night. But it enforces my decision each time I either move an empty bottle into the recycling, or stare at a half full glass.. Maybe this is going to be hard in early sobriety, so you should take precautions.. like ask your husband to maybe put it away out of sight somewhere.. and when he drinks, maybe you could go occupy yourself in another room... and if it gets really tough for you, call a member. I hope all works out well!! __________________ The stars are not afraid to flicker out like fireflies. And you? If you weep because the sun has gone down, your tears will blind you to the stars.

01-11-2005, 09:38 AM	#6 (permalink)
jems girl Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: freezing in Canada! Posts: 20	When I crave alcohol... I come here. I log on whenever I am having a tough time. Reading everyone's struggles and successes is what is getting me through these first few days, (and it got me through 30 days last year). Miss - maybe you can get away from the alcohol and go to the computer in another room? I read somewhere else on the forum that making yourself busy during the worst times of the day is one of the ways to get through it.

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01-10-2005, 07:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
jems girl Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: freezing in Canada! Posts: 20	I'm just finally getting it through my thick skull how fortunate I am....my hubby is quitting with me - he doesn't have a problem in anyway - it is me with the problem. There is no way there can be alcohol in the house for me....we have tried it and I just can't stay away - doesn't matter what it is. If you can have it in the house and stay away from it, that is fantastic. I just know I am completely powerless to it. (In fact, there is a bottle of rum somewhere in the house and I asked hubby to hide it - I didn't want to dump it, in the event family comes and wants a drink....I just can't know where it is, or else I will drain it). I haven't gone looking for it, either!

01-10-2005, 08:34 PM	#4 (permalink)
missbliss Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: ga Posts: 35	ughh my hubby came though a few mins ago and saw me on the forum and he thinks that I am totally blowing things out of proportion. He thinks I dont have a problem. But I know that I do. A person who does not have a problem does not have cravings and does not drink 4 or more times out of the week imo. I am on rx meds now so I think that should help w/ my not going after that drink "I hope" I have never mixed rx meds before..

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