I need to tell someone

[wokachick]

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[51anna]

Hi Wokachick,

I don't know whose 'fault' this was, but I would definitely say that you should stay away from your sister's boyfriend. I would try to not blame yourself, but learn from this experience. This guy is bad news, you know that, so spending time with him is not going to be a positive experience for you.

Anna

[splendra]

wokachick-

I agree with Anna this guy is bad news. If I were you I would stay away from him at all cost. Hopefully your sis will be able to see him for what he is very soon....I hope you can be there for her if she comes to you for help cause she will eventually realize she needs it.i hope....

[wokachick]

Originally Posted by splendra

wokachick-

I agree with Anna this guy is bad news. If I were you I would stay away from him at all cost. Hopefully your sis will be able to see him for what he is very soon....I hope you can be there for her if she comes to you for help cause she will eventually realize she needs it.i hope....

I hope that she will PERMENENTLY leave this person. She leaves him all the time although he sweet talks her into going back. In my heart I think she is scared of him and what he is capable of. What should I do to help her

[namommy]

I think you are both to blame. Also I would like to point out that you CHOSE to get so drunk you were willing to compromise the relationship you have with your sister. You allowed alcohol to control you. You compromised yourself, and allowed someone you dislike to cross personal boundaries, that would not have happened if substances weren't involved. Before pointing out his obvious addictions, you also need to take a look at your own. As well as thinking about helping your sister, you need to take a look at what you can do to help yourself.

I am sorry if this sounds mean, but remember, whenever we point the finger at someone else, we have 3 pointing right back at us.

[wokachick]

Thank you for your honest reply, I find that the truth really does hurt, and I do need to except that iam also at fault

[namommy]

I don't know if I am doing wrong, unless someone points it out to me. If no one points out my mistakes, then I can't learn from them.

I am glad you are strong enough to come back and post, instead of running away. That takes alot, and says alot about your character. I hope you ALL find the help you need.

Keep coming back and posting here, it is a wonderful place.

[splendra]

Wokachick-

I am concerned for your sis too it sounds like she is in a really bad situation.....Now that you have been properly repermanded by namommy the question comes up how are you going to help your sis? We have been your confessor so do not confess this to your sis....I think you could tell her that you are very concerned for her and that you feel she is involved with someone who is dangerous!!!!!

Are you going to seek help with your substance abuse? If you are invite your sis to go into recovery with you....Become a real presences in her life. Make her b/f know you are not playing his game and that you are there only for your sister...... My best wishes go out to you and my prayers for you as well.