need a woman's advice

[ohsotired]

hey all... i haven't posted in a really long time- the last time i picked up was 10-28-04- i am staying with sober people- living communally. i'm very lucky- the only thing is, i am the only woman here. i've been here for about 2 months- almost, the main landlord and i live in the house, and everyone else lives in trailers in the back. it is safe here- no one messes with me or my stuff, and i work for my keep- and i work hard... i rake and tarp leaves, i clean the house, i even went up on the roof to help one of the guys set screws! the problem is, since i picked up i don't go anywhere without supervision... so i don't spend anytime with any women- except at the meetings i go to... my sponsor thinks i am in a good environment that will toughen me up- but, my god, how tough am i supposed to get?!

to make it worse, my boyfriend has become close to these guys as well, so everytime he comes to see me, he ends up hanging with these people... which is great, for recovery purposes, but i would like to spend some quality time with him, to be treated like a woman- i tried to tell him, but i guess i sounded whiney- cause he caught an attitude...

i feel like i'm losing my feminity, like i'm turning into one of the guys, they have a cute little nickname for me, and they aren't mean to me, but they're guys- they're tough and they don't talk sweet, you know? i feel like using, just so i can escape this place... but i know doing that will make me far worse off. i've talked it through with my sponsor, and i still don't really feel better... i guess i was writing in the women in recovery section to reclaim my role as a woman!!

thanks girls for any feedback or advice

an addict named nicole

[51anna]

Hi Nicole,

Well, that does sound like a lot of time spent in male company! I'm glad you came here because there are NO men in the WIR forum and we talk about everything here. I wonder if you need to give some thought as to whether or not that place is the best for you because it concerns me that you say you think you might use just to escape this place.

I hope you stick around SR and hang in there.

Love, Anna

[KelKel]

:hello2

Check out these links:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ad.php?t=35882 (Thurday Evening Womens Meeting!)

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ad.php?t=35910 (16-Steps of Discovery and Empowerment)

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ad.php?t=38409 (The Purpose of our Womens Meeting...)


Are there any women's only meetingsor support groups in your area?

There are many beautiful women here and we are here for you...

[namommy]

Try to find out if there are any female recovery houses in your area. If not, maybe suggest that one be opened near you. We have several, and some are owned by men, but only women live there.

Please hang in there, don't use to escape, it won't work. It just takes prisoners.