You still have a place here even if you slip - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

bubblze30 · 10-30-2004, 12:13 PM

I wanted to post a thread letting all who are out there know that if you slip you can always come back here. I would rather see you in here when you have used then around getting more. All those who think if they slip they are to embarresed to come back or feel like a disappointment don't you are welcome her with opens arms from me. I for so long when I used would not attend that meeting again or maybe this room. I would be to embarrassed thats why I felt it important to write this thread. If ever anyone slips or relapses please feel free to come in here and I will welcome you with open arms. never be embarrassed or insecure. I once was there and don't want anyone to feel the way I felt. Remeber relapse is a part of recovery not a requirement but sh** happens.

boop64132 · 10-30-2004, 01:49 PM

What a wonderful post!

I second it!

wastedtime4me · 10-30-2004, 10:21 PM

I Agree~~~you Should Never Look Down On Someone Unless You Are Trying To Help Them Up~we Are Not Here To Judge Or Condemn Anyone Only To Offer Help In Time Of Need ~~

namommy · 10-31-2004, 07:46 AM

Very well said Bubblze. We are all the same here. None of us has the right to judge anyone for anything. You keep coming back, and posting, and we will be here to help.

Chy · 10-31-2004, 07:56 AM

Yup! What she said!

Paulie · 10-31-2004, 09:12 AM

Yep - what they said!

We are ALL here trying to stay in the solution, just one day at a time.

Passion · 11-01-2004, 09:49 AM

Keeping our secrets hidden, keep us using! The more we talk about
our ups and downs, the better we get!

ButterflyChaser · 11-01-2004, 10:23 AM

Yup...very VERY well said! ((((((Bubblze))))

wastedtime4me · 11-01-2004, 06:18 PM

I Am Having Very Strong Urges Tonight..please Pray For Me!!!!
I Have Been Trying So Hard To Think Positive~~then Something Else Happens In My Life To Bring Me Down~
I Am Trying So Very Hard To Let Go Of The Things I Can Not Change~
I Know Smoking A Joint Wont Change Anything ..
I Know It Is Only Gonna Cause More Distance Between Me And My Kids If They Were To Find Out~~god Give Me Strength To Hold On Tonight!!!!!

Tippy · 11-02-2004, 07:21 AM

Maybe I was led in here for the first time in order to see this post.
I feel like such a $#!t for falling off, yet again.
I just run this cycle of use-wthdraw-go straight for awhile-use-withdraw...etc.
And I hate myself a little more each time.
I am shakey and my nose won't stop running. I feel like a truck hit me (I've never been hit by a truck but I imagine this is pretty close.) I can't let my daughter down. Today is Parent's Day and I must go.
How do I get straight and stay straight? Intellectually I know these answers, but in reality, I can't make it work.
Why am I so weak? Is it self-destruction? Why are we users.
I suppose the good thing about withdrawal is it makes me introspective. And not only do I have diarrhea of the behind, I have it of the mouth also. Sorry to run on.
(I think this is my fourth fall off the wagon.)

Paulie · 11-02-2004, 08:42 AM

I am glad you made it back, some don't you know. Well for me I have to work a daily program of recovery. I use my HP, meetings, the steps, my sponsor and support of others in recovery. That is what works for me, others don't use 12 step and they stay sober, it is not the only way. But if you haven't given it a try yet...what do you have to lose.

This time do something different than you have done before. You said this is your fourth fall off the wagon, so today do something to stay sober that you haven't tried before. Don't say never....just take it one day, one hour at atime. That is what we all do here, we are all just trying to stay sober each day.

I am glad you are here and we will support you in any way that we can.

namommy · 11-02-2004, 06:14 PM

Tippy

Welcome. I've been there, I used to have the same pattern of use and withdrawl that you have described. Finally, I just got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I detoxed cold turkey, and even though I felt like I wanted to die, I just kept telling myself "I CAN do this." I also go to NA meetings and work a 12 step program with a sponsor. Give it a try. What have you got to lose besides a bad habit?

wastedtime4me · 11-02-2004, 07:39 PM

Tippy
How are you ?How did parents day go?
It wil get better..I know i for one am glad i didnt use and am still clean and sober~`

bubblze30 · 11-03-2004, 06:22 AM

Welcome all new comers and recent relapsers. It does not have to keep you out there. Yes we may fall but we can stand up brush ourselves off and try try again. I think each time we don't let the urges win we are stronger for the next urges.

I am popping back in just to let all you women know I am here if anyone every needs to talk. I don't judge but I do love...

Hang in there everyone. all we have is today and when we look at it it doesn't seem as bad as saying forever. Good day all.

10-30-2004, 12:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,360	You still have a place here even if you slip I wanted to post a thread letting all who are out there know that if you slip you can always come back here. I would rather see you in here when you have used then around getting more. All those who think if they slip they are to embarresed to come back or feel like a disappointment don't you are welcome her with opens arms from me. I for so long when I used would not attend that meeting again or maybe this room. I would be to embarrassed thats why I felt it important to write this thread. If ever anyone slips or relapses please feel free to come in here and I will welcome you with open arms. never be embarrassed or insecure. I once was there and don't want anyone to feel the way I felt. Remeber relapse is a part of recovery not a requirement but sh** happens. __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

10-30-2004, 10:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
wastedtime4me ~FEELS SO ALIVE~ Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: In A sTaTe Of HaPPiNeSS Posts: 643	I Agree~~~you Should Never Look Down On Someone Unless You Are Trying To Help Them Up~we Are Not Here To Judge Or Condemn Anyone Only To Offer Help In Time Of Need ~~ __________________ ~WaStEdTiMe4Me~ Last edited by wastedtime4me; 10-30-2004 at 11:44 PM.

10-31-2004, 07:46 AM	#4 (permalink)
namommy Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Never, Never land Posts: 2,711	Very well said Bubblze. We are all the same here. None of us has the right to judge anyone for anything. You keep coming back, and posting, and we will be here to help. __________________ I came into this program to save my a** and found out it was attached to my soul. --Anonymous

10-31-2004, 09:12 AM	#6 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,518	Yep - what they said! We are ALL here trying to stay in the solution, just one day at a time. __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

11-01-2004, 09:49 AM	#7 (permalink)
Passion Passion Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Antioch, Ca. Posts: 31	Great Post! Keeping our secrets hidden, keep us using! The more we talk about our ups and downs, the better we get!

10-30-2004, 01:49 PM	#2 (permalink)
boop64132 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Kansas City,Mo Posts: 478	What a wonderful post! I second it!

10-31-2004, 07:56 AM	#5 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	Yup! What she said!

11-01-2004, 10:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,023	Yup...very VERY well said! ((((((Bubblze)))) __________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~

11-01-2004, 06:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
wastedtime4me ~FEELS SO ALIVE~ Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: In A sTaTe Of HaPPiNeSS Posts: 643	I Am Having Very Strong Urges Tonight..please Pray For Me!!!! I Have Been Trying So Hard To Think Positive~~then Something Else Happens In My Life To Bring Me Down~ I Am Trying So Very Hard To Let Go Of The Things I Can Not Change~ I Know Smoking A Joint Wont Change Anything .. I Know It Is Only Gonna Cause More Distance Between Me And My Kids If They Were To Find Out~~god Give Me Strength To Hold On Tonight!!!!! __________________ ~WaStEdTiMe4Me~

11-02-2004, 07:21 AM	#10 (permalink)
Tippy Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Louisiana Posts: 15	Maybe I was led in here for the first time in order to see this post. I feel like such a $#!t for falling off, yet again. I just run this cycle of use-wthdraw-go straight for awhile-use-withdraw...etc. And I hate myself a little more each time. I am shakey and my nose won't stop running. I feel like a truck hit me (I've never been hit by a truck but I imagine this is pretty close.) I can't let my daughter down. Today is Parent's Day and I must go. How do I get straight and stay straight? Intellectually I know these answers, but in reality, I can't make it work. Why am I so weak? Is it self-destruction? Why are we users. I suppose the good thing about withdrawal is it makes me introspective. And not only do I have diarrhea of the behind, I have it of the mouth also. Sorry to run on. (I think this is my fourth fall off the wagon.)

11-02-2004, 08:42 AM	#11 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,518	I am glad you made it back, some don't you know. Well for me I have to work a daily program of recovery. I use my HP, meetings, the steps, my sponsor and support of others in recovery. That is what works for me, others don't use 12 step and they stay sober, it is not the only way. But if you haven't given it a try yet...what do you have to lose. This time do something different than you have done before. You said this is your fourth fall off the wagon, so today do something to stay sober that you haven't tried before. Don't say never....just take it one day, one hour at atime. That is what we all do here, we are all just trying to stay sober each day. I am glad you are here and we will support you in any way that we can. __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

11-02-2004, 06:14 PM	#12 (permalink)
namommy Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Never, Never land Posts: 2,711	Tippy Welcome. I've been there, I used to have the same pattern of use and withdrawl that you have described. Finally, I just got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I detoxed cold turkey, and even though I felt like I wanted to die, I just kept telling myself "I CAN do this." I also go to NA meetings and work a 12 step program with a sponsor. Give it a try. What have you got to lose besides a bad habit? __________________ I came into this program to save my a** and found out it was attached to my soul. --Anonymous

11-02-2004, 07:39 PM	#13 (permalink)
wastedtime4me ~FEELS SO ALIVE~ Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: In A sTaTe Of HaPPiNeSS Posts: 643	Tippy How are you ?How did parents day go? It wil get better..I know i for one am glad i didnt use and am still clean and sober~` __________________ ~WaStEdTiMe4Me~

11-03-2004, 06:22 AM	#14 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,360	Welcome all new comers and recent relapsers. It does not have to keep you out there. Yes we may fall but we can stand up brush ourselves off and try try again. I think each time we don't let the urges win we are stronger for the next urges. I am popping back in just to let all you women know I am here if anyone every needs to talk. I don't judge but I do love... Hang in there everyone. all we have is today and when we look at it it doesn't seem as bad as saying forever. Good day all. __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

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