The more I give, the more I have. - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Paulie · 10-22-2004, 11:27 AM

This simple statement is so important for me to remember on a daily basis.

A symptom of my disease is isolation. The more I isolate, the less I give. The less I give of myself to others, the less I have. I not only receive love/caring/recovery/friendship from others, but I feel all those things when I give it too.

Wow sounds kinda deep huh? LOL, serioulsy, I have been isolating ALOT lately and it has drained my spirituality, my patience, my concern for others.

I need to give it a voice, so I can let go of it.

Thanks for letting me share.

**51anna** · 10-22-2004, 11:35 AM

You're so right Paulie!

I've been isolating a LOT in the last week or so too. I have a very sick kitten, have been staying with her as much as possible and I feel so empty right now. I don't feel like I have anything to give to anyone and so of course, the less I receive.

Love, Anna

Paulie · 10-22-2004, 11:58 AM

I understand. That is why we have to talk about it.

Hug that kitty for me Anna, that is just so heartbreaking.

KEEGANSDAD · 10-22-2004, 01:05 PM

I agree !

namommy · 10-22-2004, 07:19 PM

Paulie,

I can relate to that. When I was sick and isolating all the time, I thought I had nothing worth giving, and in turn stopped myself from recieving. It is important to put a voice to it. Now you can do something about it. My old sponsor used to say 'once you are aware, there are no more excuses' (I really hated that sometimes).

Anna, I hope your kitty doesn't have anything serious. Take good care of her/him.

wastedtime4me · 10-22-2004, 10:47 PM

I have had a very rough time lately emotionaly and physically but spiritually i feel wonderfull!!Oh dont get me wrong i am not in pleasantville..LOL
I have my ups and downs but since i have been watching my great nieces{AGES 3 AND 5} my heart has been filled joy daily!!They have alot of heartache in their life right now~I know they love me very much and they love coming to my house~There have been many days when they cling to my leg and say they want to live with me~I had them sleep over one night.I have their older sister here with us tonite..She is 8 and most aware of whats going on..Their parents are seperated and on the verge of divorce.They are living with their dad and grandparents .Their mom had tried to commit suicide 4 times i nthe past month~In giving to them not material things but time and love i have recieved back 10 fold!!!!! I feel really good about being here for them~I am not spending my days in bed or getting stoned and for that i am grateful~~My 13 yr old daughter has also been learning some patience since they have been coming here~I told her i know its different they are here every evening after school now except fridays..but she doesnt have to sit all evening with them..Just take a little bit of time out of your evening to spend with them and they are happy..In turn she feels good about putting a bit of happiness in their hearts each day as well~~Simple statement yes..Yet so powerful~~

ButterflyChaser · 10-23-2004, 09:31 AM

(((((((((((((((((Paulie)))))))))))))))

Thanks for sharing with us! :ilu <---just wanted you to know that!

Dawn10 · 10-23-2004, 01:53 PM

Thanks for sharing Paulie, I needed to see that. ( thus my little butt kick logo above.) I have been isolating lately, too. Just didn't really want to admit it. Oh, I go to work and church and stuff I HAVE to do, but I haven't made the effort to do something for me and for others.
That will change.
Anna, hope your kitty is better soon.

dragonlady · 10-23-2004, 02:57 PM

isn't it amazing how you can isolate in a room full of people! thats what i'm going through-trying to dig my way out of isolation and depression-thanx for being here

Chy · 10-23-2004, 03:15 PM

I didn't have to read any further then the title to know it to be true Paulie. On those bad days it's a good reminder! *hugs*

soberS.Thomas · 10-30-2004, 03:19 PM

hey Paulie:

You are so right. I haven t been isolating, but just haen t been able to help anyone lately. I love talking recovery with people, it helps me so much. It helps me realize how far I have come. It feels good to help others. I love giving it away. I m so grateful that this is available to give it away, I ve been on a couple of times today, and I feel good.

jThanks for sharing,
Jenn

wastedtime4me · 10-30-2004, 11:46 PM

If i am feeling bad i can throw myself int ohelping someone else and itusually helps me to get outta myself real quick~~

10-22-2004, 11:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,518	The more I give, the more I have. This simple statement is so important for me to remember on a daily basis. A symptom of my disease is isolation. The more I isolate, the less I give. The less I give of myself to others, the less I have. I not only receive love/caring/recovery/friendship from others, but I feel all those things when I give it too. Wow sounds kinda deep huh? LOL, serioulsy, I have been isolating ALOT lately and it has drained my spirituality, my patience, my concern for others. I need to give it a voice, so I can let go of it. Thanks for letting me share. __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

10-22-2004, 11:35 AM	#2 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,028	You're so right Paulie! I've been isolating a LOT in the last week or so too. I have a very sick kitten, have been staying with her as much as possible and I feel so empty right now. I don't feel like I have anything to give to anyone and so of course, the less I receive. Love, Anna __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

10-22-2004, 11:58 AM	#3 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,518	I understand. That is why we have to talk about it. Hug that kitty for me Anna, that is just so heartbreaking. __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

10-22-2004, 07:19 PM	#5 (permalink)
namommy Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Never, Never land Posts: 2,711	Paulie, I can relate to that. When I was sick and isolating all the time, I thought I had nothing worth giving, and in turn stopped myself from recieving. It is important to put a voice to it. Now you can do something about it. My old sponsor used to say 'once you are aware, there are no more excuses' (I really hated that sometimes). Anna, I hope your kitty doesn't have anything serious. Take good care of her/him. __________________ I came into this program to save my a** and found out it was attached to my soul. --Anonymous

10-22-2004, 10:47 PM	#6 (permalink)
wastedtime4me ~FEELS SO ALIVE~ Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: In A sTaTe Of HaPPiNeSS Posts: 643	I have had a very rough time lately emotionaly and physically but spiritually i feel wonderfull!!Oh dont get me wrong i am not in pleasantville..LOL I have my ups and downs but since i have been watching my great nieces{AGES 3 AND 5} my heart has been filled joy daily!!They have alot of heartache in their life right now~I know they love me very much and they love coming to my house~There have been many days when they cling to my leg and say they want to live with me~I had them sleep over one night.I have their older sister here with us tonite..She is 8 and most aware of whats going on..Their parents are seperated and on the verge of divorce.They are living with their dad and grandparents .Their mom had tried to commit suicide 4 times i nthe past month~In giving to them not material things but time and love i have recieved back 10 fold!!!!! I feel really good about being here for them~I am not spending my days in bed or getting stoned and for that i am grateful~~My 13 yr old daughter has also been learning some patience since they have been coming here~I told her i know its different they are here every evening after school now except fridays..but she doesnt have to sit all evening with them..Just take a little bit of time out of your evening to spend with them and they are happy..In turn she feels good about putting a bit of happiness in their hearts each day as well~~Simple statement yes..Yet so powerful~~ __________________ ~WaStEdTiMe4Me~

10-22-2004, 01:05 PM	#4 (permalink)
KEEGANSDAD Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Greenfield, MA Posts: 63	I agree !

10-23-2004, 09:31 AM	#7 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,023	(((((((((((((((((Paulie))))))))))))))) Thanks for sharing with us! :ilu <---just wanted you to know that! __________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~

10-23-2004, 01:53 PM	#8 (permalink)
Dawn10 Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Venice, Florida Posts: 423	Thanks for sharing Paulie, I needed to see that. ( thus my little butt kick logo above.) I have been isolating lately, too. Just didn't really want to admit it. Oh, I go to work and church and stuff I HAVE to do, but I haven't made the effort to do something for me and for others. That will change. Anna, hope your kitty is better soon. __________________ Dawn

10-23-2004, 02:57 PM	#9 (permalink)
dragonlady Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: colmesneil, texas Posts: 120	isn't it amazing how you can isolate in a room full of people! thats what i'm going through-trying to dig my way out of isolation and depression-thanx for being here __________________ "CAN'T FIND THE ANSWER'S, BEEN CRAWLING ON MY KNEES-LOOKING FOR ANYTHING TO KEEP ME FROM DROWNING" Godsmack

10-23-2004, 03:15 PM	#10 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	I didn't have to read any further then the title to know it to be true Paulie. On those bad days it's a good reminder! hugs

10-30-2004, 03:19 PM	#11 (permalink)
soberS.Thomas Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: St. Thomas, Ontario Posts: 8	hey Paulie: You are so right. I haven t been isolating, but just haen t been able to help anyone lately. I love talking recovery with people, it helps me so much. It helps me realize how far I have come. It feels good to help others. I love giving it away. I m so grateful that this is available to give it away, I ve been on a couple of times today, and I feel good. jThanks for sharing, Jenn

10-30-2004, 11:46 PM	#12 (permalink)
wastedtime4me ~FEELS SO ALIVE~ Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: In A sTaTe Of HaPPiNeSS Posts: 643	If i am feeling bad i can throw myself int ohelping someone else and itusually helps me to get outta myself real quick~~ __________________ ~WaStEdTiMe4Me~

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