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**Rowan** · 10-15-2004, 10:45 AM

Hello Ladies
I sure am glad to be here. I am hoping to have my home PC working soon - I have really come to rely on this site as a crucial part of my recovery. I hope that everyone is well. I read Lisa's post and am so glad she's physically safe for now, but really worried that she has become so dispassionate about the whole affair. It was moving to see the amount of unconditional love and support that was offered to her. I pray that she gets another chance at life, and that she doesn't stay the next time.
Anyway, on to my question. Remember when I posted that I gave up my cat Tucker for peeing and then found out it was Tilley? Well actually it was both, but whatever. Some of you gals roasted me for not being a responsible pet owner and ouch that smarted but I gave it some thought and decided to try to help retrain my cat as necessary. I have been letting her outside periodically and she really seems to enjoy that. The peeing has stopped. HOWEVER. Three days ago my daughter finds a piece of cat pooh on the stairway. Hmm I think maybe it fell off her dear little arse. But the next night, I find another piece, on my ottoman in the basement. Suddenly her arse isn't looking so dear. But last night took the cake when my boyfriend pointed to the carpet and said what's that? Tilley has been .. er. .. skidding, shall we say, on the carpet with a pooh-covered bum! So! Ya still think she has a urinary tract infection? I won't put her down .. I couldn't do that .. I know of a very good adoption agency for pets that have been abandoned .. so I think I will call them and inquire. It's sad, but this is getting gross. Please feel free to offer your own cat experiences or roast me some more I can take it! Bring it on! LOL
Much love
Rowan

ohconnie · 10-15-2004, 10:59 AM

Have you taken her to the vet? Perhaps it's a simple medical thing like worms or something. She has an itchy butt! It's worth a try.

**51anna** · 10-15-2004, 11:05 AM

I'm sorry Rowan, I still do not support your plan. My cat had the exact same problem, messing on the floor or whatever and skidding on the carpet. She did that for a reason and it wasn't to annoy me. She needed a change in diet, what we had been giving her wasn't agreeing with her any longer. My friends cat did the same thing as a reaction to stress. She dealt with it by confining the cat to a specific area and it's natural for a cat to NOT mess in the area in which they 'live'. She gradually increased the space to the whole house and it worked pretty well.

I'm sorry, but I feel that you have to do everything possible before you abandon a pet. It's just not something that you can take on when things are fine and then give up when there's a problem.

Again, I'm sorry, but absolutely no support from me. Your cat is trying to tell you something and it's not that he wants to be given away or die.

Love, Anna

**51anna** · 10-15-2004, 11:12 AM

Rowan,

I should add that I have a sick 10 month old kitten now. We found out a few weeks ago that she has colitis and she has been bleeding from her butt. It's not pleasant and we don't know what will happen with her yet. She's been on two courses of antibiotics and we're hoping that will control it. It can't be cured. The only thing that would cause me to put her down would be if she was in pain and I was keeping her alive for myself only. I'll put diapers on her if I have to.

Love, Anna

**Rowan** · 10-15-2004, 01:40 PM

Anna,
You are without a doubt 100% right. And I feel badly about this; suddenly I am reminded of my beloved cat O.J. when I was a girl. He suddenly disappeared and
Mom told us he ran away. It wasn't until years later that we found out she had
given him to a friend who owned a farm - the cat was eventually killed by a car or got lost, I can't remember. I was so mad at my Mom, and I didn't support her "How would you like a cat to be peeing in your house?" response. Now here I am, the Mom, and contemplating doing the same thing.
I'm taking her to the vet this weekend. That's a promise.
Wow. There's perspective for ya.
Rowan

**Rowan** · 10-15-2004, 01:41 PM

.. and I'm so sorry that your little kitten is so sick, Anna. He/she is in good hands ..
God Bless

**51anna** · 10-15-2004, 01:52 PM

Woo Hoo Rowan,

Way to go!! I hope you get some good advice.

Yeah, looking at the big picture helps so many situations. I always wanted a pet as a child, desparately wanted a pet and my mother always said it was too much trouble and she couldn't be bothered. That's one of the many things I disliked about my mother, but that's another story!

Keep us updated.

Love, Anna

bubblze30 · 10-16-2004, 09:51 AM

Does she have long hair if so I would trim the hair around that area at least stopping the pooh from sticking to the hair. There are some meds that don't cost very m,uch for her urinary track infection Sometime just getting the food helps. Yes they have food for cats with that problem. Its good to hear the cat is in good hands. Is this the same cat you were talking about or is it two different cats. Ok Im lost now after reading your second post.

ButterflyChaser · 10-16-2004, 12:38 PM

Rowan....you are to funny! lol 1st of all...I love ya, and I extremely LOVE cats!!! let me ask u this...is your cat a long haired cat??? if so, get her shaved!!! I had a persian once & I had to get him shaved especially around the bum bum area cut it poop would get stuck there, & he couldn't get it off! also, my cat Tony, was pooping on my bed guess he was mad at me cuz I wouldn't let him out, but now I'm letting him out on the porch & boy NO MORE POOP!

think he was just telling me that he was mad at me for not letting him outside!! if you can, try not to give him up, call your local vet, tell them what's going on, I'm sure they'll suggest something for you& your cat!
I wish you botht the best of luck!! Me, I wouldn't give up the cat, I'm sure there is something you can do, ((((((((rowan & tilly)))))))))))))))))

wastedtime4me · 10-16-2004, 02:03 PM

I cant give any better advice than whats already been given.Just want to wish ya luck with your witty and hope you can keep him/her~~

10-15-2004, 10:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
Rowan Social Network Moderator Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 8,913	So what do I do now, huh? Hello Ladies I sure am glad to be here. I am hoping to have my home PC working soon - I have really come to rely on this site as a crucial part of my recovery. I hope that everyone is well. I read Lisa's post and am so glad she's physically safe for now, but really worried that she has become so dispassionate about the whole affair. It was moving to see the amount of unconditional love and support that was offered to her. I pray that she gets another chance at life, and that she doesn't stay the next time. Anyway, on to my question. Remember when I posted that I gave up my cat Tucker for peeing and then found out it was Tilley? Well actually it was both, but whatever. Some of you gals roasted me for not being a responsible pet owner and ouch that smarted but I gave it some thought and decided to try to help retrain my cat as necessary. I have been letting her outside periodically and she really seems to enjoy that. The peeing has stopped. HOWEVER. Three days ago my daughter finds a piece of cat pooh on the stairway. Hmm I think maybe it fell off her dear little arse. But the next night, I find another piece, on my ottoman in the basement. Suddenly her arse isn't looking so dear. But last night took the cake when my boyfriend pointed to the carpet and said what's that? Tilley has been .. er. .. skidding, shall we say, on the carpet with a pooh-covered bum! So! Ya still think she has a urinary tract infection? I won't put her down .. I couldn't do that .. I know of a very good adoption agency for pets that have been abandoned .. so I think I will call them and inquire. It's sad, but this is getting gross. Please feel free to offer your own cat experiences or roast me some more I can take it! Bring it on! LOL Much love Rowan

10-15-2004, 10:59 AM	#2 (permalink)
ohconnie Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: California Posts: 28	Have you taken her to the vet? Perhaps it's a simple medical thing like worms or something. She has an itchy butt! It's worth a try. __________________ Courage is doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared. Connie

10-15-2004, 11:05 AM	#3 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,027	I'm sorry Rowan, I still do not support your plan. My cat had the exact same problem, messing on the floor or whatever and skidding on the carpet. She did that for a reason and it wasn't to annoy me. She needed a change in diet, what we had been giving her wasn't agreeing with her any longer. My friends cat did the same thing as a reaction to stress. She dealt with it by confining the cat to a specific area and it's natural for a cat to NOT mess in the area in which they 'live'. She gradually increased the space to the whole house and it worked pretty well. I'm sorry, but I feel that you have to do everything possible before you abandon a pet. It's just not something that you can take on when things are fine and then give up when there's a problem. Again, I'm sorry, but absolutely no support from me. Your cat is trying to tell you something and it's not that he wants to be given away or die. Love, Anna __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

10-15-2004, 11:12 AM	#4 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,027	Rowan, I should add that I have a sick 10 month old kitten now. We found out a few weeks ago that she has colitis and she has been bleeding from her butt. It's not pleasant and we don't know what will happen with her yet. She's been on two courses of antibiotics and we're hoping that will control it. It can't be cured. The only thing that would cause me to put her down would be if she was in pain and I was keeping her alive for myself only. I'll put diapers on her if I have to. Love, Anna __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

10-15-2004, 01:52 PM	#7 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,027	Woo Hoo Rowan, Way to go!! I hope you get some good advice. Yeah, looking at the big picture helps so many situations. I always wanted a pet as a child, desparately wanted a pet and my mother always said it was too much trouble and she couldn't be bothered. That's one of the many things I disliked about my mother, but that's another story! Keep us updated. Love, Anna __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

10-15-2004, 01:40 PM	#5 (permalink)
Rowan Social Network Moderator Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 8,913	Anna, You are without a doubt 100% right. And I feel badly about this; suddenly I am reminded of my beloved cat O.J. when I was a girl. He suddenly disappeared and Mom told us he ran away. It wasn't until years later that we found out she had given him to a friend who owned a farm - the cat was eventually killed by a car or got lost, I can't remember. I was so mad at my Mom, and I didn't support her "How would you like a cat to be peeing in your house?" response. Now here I am, the Mom, and contemplating doing the same thing. I'm taking her to the vet this weekend. That's a promise. Wow. There's perspective for ya. Rowan

10-15-2004, 01:41 PM	#6 (permalink)
Rowan Social Network Moderator Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 8,913	.. and I'm so sorry that your little kitten is so sick, Anna. He/she is in good hands .. God Bless

10-16-2004, 09:51 AM	#8 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,360	Does she have long hair if so I would trim the hair around that area at least stopping the pooh from sticking to the hair. There are some meds that don't cost very m,uch for her urinary track infection Sometime just getting the food helps. Yes they have food for cats with that problem. Its good to hear the cat is in good hands. Is this the same cat you were talking about or is it two different cats. Ok Im lost now after reading your second post. __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

10-16-2004, 12:38 PM	#9 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,023	Rowan....you are to funny! lol 1st of all...I love ya, and I extremely LOVE cats!!! let me ask u this...is your cat a long haired cat??? if so, get her shaved!!! I had a persian once & I had to get him shaved especially around the bum bum area cut it poop would get stuck there, & he couldn't get it off! also, my cat Tony, was pooping on my bed guess he was mad at me cuz I wouldn't let him out, but now I'm letting him out on the porch & boy NO MORE POOP! think he was just telling me that he was mad at me for not letting him outside!! if you can, try not to give him up, call your local vet, tell them what's going on, I'm sure they'll suggest something for you& your cat! I wish you botht the best of luck!! Me, I wouldn't give up the cat, I'm sure there is something you can do, ((((((((rowan & tilly))))))))))))))))) __________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~

10-16-2004, 02:03 PM	#10 (permalink)
wastedtime4me ~FEELS SO ALIVE~ Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: In A sTaTe Of HaPPiNeSS Posts: 643	I cant give any better advice than whats already been given.Just want to wish ya luck with your witty and hope you can keep him/her~~ __________________ ~WaStEdTiMe4Me~

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