neighbors. UGGH

[namommy]

I have posted before that I used to live in a very isolated area, because all of the other houses here were empty. There are only 6 houses here, and they are all now occupied, it is good that they all have kids in them. My kids now have some friends close by. Anyway, the one house has 2 boys. It is a strange situation. They live with their dad, and the mother is never mentioned. They are 9 and 10 years old and both already in alternative school. (that is a school for kids with behavior problems.) Anyway, the 9 year old is really bad. He always starts fights and curses out the other kids in the neighborhood. I need to say that they are black, which doesn't matter to me, but they use that. He is always calling my kids White Mother F'rs, and my daughter White Ho. Well, tonite my 12 year old son came in and said "Mom, I know I'm not allowed to fight, but please just let me hit him." This kid is already grounded for starting 2 other fights today, and he is yelling out of his bedroom window cursing my kids out again. I went over and talked to the father and the 2 boys were standing there calling us Jerk offs and white MF'rs right in front of the dad. They were even saying the N word. I don't accept this kind of behavior and racism from anyone. I can't believe these people. I am just frustrated and don't know what to do. I think maybe I should let my son just him, but then again if he does they may take it farther.

Oooooh I'm so frustrated I just need to vent.

[nyyfan]

Oh my god - those kids are disgusting! I can't believe that the father just sat there and didn't say ANYTHING when their kids were sitting there swearing! Good for you that your son listens to you and doesn't fight. I think the easy way out is to let him fight - he's got to be the bigger person. I feel so bad for you that you have to deal with those idiots.

[jenniferaz1980]

(((((((NAMOMMY)))))))))))) I am so sorry!

[maslanyjean]

namommy
How awful for you!
dont worry that wont last long there
if they keep it up.
does he own this house?
tell the landlord.
hugs jean

[namommy]

Jean,

Thank you for that reminder, he DOES NOT own the house, and I do know the landlord. I will have to talk to him and his wife the next time I see them.

NY,
You have no idea how right you are when you say he's got to be the bigger person. He is 12 years old and literally the much bigger person. My son is very tall and very stocky. He wants to go out for the football team and be a line backer and he will probably be a very good one. Besides that fact that fighting is wrong, he is very strong and I am afraid he will really hurt someone if he ever does fight.

Besides the fact that my son is built alot like his father and when his father would get into a fight, he would shut out everything around him and just keep beating on the person until they were unconcious (sp) or until someone stopped him. I just don't want to think about my son getting like that.

It's really hard for me because I love kids. Kids are great. But in this case I feel really bad saying that I just do not like these kids. And, I partially blame the parents but I also see the father trying and not having any control.

[wastedtime4me]

It is terrible when things like this happen so close to home..esp when it sounds like you moved there to get away from things like this..6 houses on the whole street...I agree fighting is not the answer!!! It sounds like the parent has already lost control..children fighting will only make it even worse at this point ..as im sure you could imagine..I have been there myself though with crazy thoughts of just letting one of kids whale on a bullie to make them stop..lol..Yet i know logically it isnt the answer!!I wish i had an answer for you..However i dont.I just wanted to let you know i sympathise with you and your family and hope it gets resolved {maybe by calling landlords}..
{{{{{{{{bighugs}}}}}}}}

[bubblze30]

Don't let your son resolve this with more violence. That's how the cycle begins violence with violence. I think it bothers the boy more that your son does nothing that's why it's getting worse. I would talk to the landlord. Some parents just don't care or think they don't have the time. These boys are lost and it's sad they have no real parenting. If they had it would not be like this. the only advice I have is to not let your boy around him. if the kids come out have your boy goto the oposite side where they will not be around. People don't realize the racism when it happens to a white person the white mother f's is racism. I too have a few children in my area like that. Can't really get away I think every neighborhood has one. Just tell your son to ignore him reminding him if he fights with him he's simply lowering himself to his level and that's not a level he wants to be on. Good luck with the landlord the house that has been having problems here the cops get called there alot and they have been threatend with eviction so it is subsiding. Good luck hope things work out for you soon.

[namommy]

WT4M,

6 houses in the whole NEIGHBORHOOD. That's it, we are very small and isolated back here. The next closest neighborhood is a little over a mile in either direction on a very busy 45mph highway. So the kids are all kind of stuck here alone together if that makes sense. I think that is one of the reasons this is even more difficult than a usual neighborhood would have it.

Even though I don't like these kids, I feel bad for them. Something is just not right in that house.

[Paulie]

Something is definately not right in that house. It is very sad. You know that your son kicking his butt is not that answer, even though it may seem appealing at the time .

I would talk to the landlord and see if they can do anything. tell your kids to stay away from them as much as possible.

And pray for those kids, they sure need it.