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10-04-2004, 07:35 AM
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| Lisa  Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Louisiana
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|  Custody problems...driving me nuts!!!
I started a new job last week working 10am till 7pm six days a week. I naively thought that my parents (who have custody) would welcome this schedule since my kids live with them very close to my job, and I could get them off to school in the mornings and get them ready for bed in the evenings. I pictured making them breakfast, running around frantically getting their school books together, snuggling with them in the evening reading books...normal mom stuff instead of just me being a playmate on my days off. Well, my mother says that this would be too disruptive to their routine, and I can only visit them on my day off. So now what the heck do I do? I don't have a formal education, so I'm lucky to have found a job that pays this well and has so many hours. If I switch jobs I can see them more, but it's going to be impossible to save money on top of paying child support. AAAARRRGGG! I feel like I just can't win, sometimes! Sorry, just needed to vent. Lisa |
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10-04-2004, 08:01 AM
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| Member  Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: western canada
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Hey Lisa... Sounds like you have some good things happening in your life.... These can be a portal to even better things.... if we don't start expecting and projecting... Amazing things can happen if we get out of our own way... Trust and pray... |
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10-04-2004, 08:55 AM
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| It is what it is!!!  Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety
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Remember there is a plan, we don't always know what it is, but there is a plan. things happen, just not in our own time. Expections usually set us up for disappointment. If you like the job and it supports you, keep it and see what happens.
__________________  I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR |
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10-04-2004, 09:04 AM
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| Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: cadyville,Ny
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Just keep the faith that God will and does what we can not do ourselves. Hang in there and just keep showing what you are doing and want to do. I am here if you need some advice and my lawyer friend will be here for my wedding on sat she arrives wed and leavees on the 13th so write if you want her advice to see what you can and cant do but remember this Wisdom with no faith is empty wisdom with faith is Courage and F.R.OG. (Fully,relying,on,GOD)
__________________ If that which you seek you find not within yourself you will never find it without. A Beautiful journey starts with a SINGLE STEP. Frog (F)Fullly (R)Rely (O)On (G)God  |
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10-04-2004, 09:51 AM
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| Forum Leader  Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light
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I agree, it's hard for you right now, but the best thing is to believe that things are happening as they should. Just keep doing everything right and the changes you're looking for will come along. Love, Anna
__________________ Anna  "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou |
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10-04-2004, 10:23 AM
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| Meow!  Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
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awwww WOW!! I am sorry you are going thru this!!! I didn't know!! ((((((((((((((Lisa))))))))))))))))) just keep doing good, prove to them you are doing good & u are responsible to do this for your KIDS!!!!! I have no clue why u don't have your kids, but I am sorry, will u ever get them back??? 
__________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~  |
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10-04-2004, 03:03 PM
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| New and Unsure  Join Date: May 2004 Location: phoenix az
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Dont forget we did not become addicted in one day. It is all about rebuiding our lives and if you rush it you may be cheating yourself out of expirences you might need later down the road. (((HUGS)))
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10-05-2004, 07:58 AM
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| Lisa Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Louisiana
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Ok, ya'll are right...I'm taking a deep breath and slowing down. I know I have to work at rebuilding trust, and it won't happen overnight. I just enrolled in a pilates class...maybe that will teach me a little patience. I think I'm also facing a lot of emotions I surpressed with the coke...I've been having nightmares about my kids every night and I have trouble being around my friend's kids again, it's kinda like when I first lost them before I started using. But...enough about that...time to suck it up, go to work, and move forward.
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10-05-2004, 09:06 AM
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| Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: LONDON ONTARIO CANADA
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I f you are paying child support than I would think you could go to court fo more access such as over night during the week given that get off at 7 you would need a baby sitter but if its worth it than do it
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