Need some good strong advice

[boop64132]

OK,I know we have always told each other that someone has to admit they have a drinking problem before they can get help.But this is a situation that Im not sure what to do.
My mom is 66 years old and now has health problems.She has 2 heart blockages and although she isnt a heavy drinker...when she drinks...she really drinks and I am worried about her!

She goes on and on about how proud she is of me sense I stopped.But she is still going to the bar and drinking with her heart problems.
Do I say something?Do I let it go?Im just lost about what to do here.
I mean...she is my Mom.Do I say whats on my mind?And just tell her that Im worried sick about her?

[junem]

Tell her your concern then drop it. Leave the rest to your hiher power and your power of example. Remember to keep focused on your own recovery and what is best for you

[bubblze30]

I would tell her. Tell her your concerns. That you love her and you are nervous with her heart and her drinking. Ask her if shewould think about cutting down or stopping all together. Express your love. I remember when I first got into recovery and my mom was still drinking. She had me buy her a bottle of coffee brandy and I did. I carried guilt with me along time over that. I told her she should not drink so much and I brought up some past stuff I had carried for years and she didn't quit then but it wasn't to much time after that where she stopped drinking and still does not drink today. I don't know if what I said helped or if she was tired of drinking but I am still glad today I addressed my concerns of her drinking. She dosen't follow a program but is staying away from the alcohol and well that's good enough for me for now.

[Sandy Marie]

Yes, I agree by all means tell her. Tell her how much you love her and will miss her if anything happens to her. Then help her get as much information on her condition as possible. Help her to keep doctor's appointments and help her keep up with her medications. If she's on heart medicines, she shouldn't be mixing them with alcohol. She's at a terrible risk for injury if she's drinking heavily at one sitting. She should have a MedicAlert tag on her and her nitro should be kept within reach. Also, have emergency numbers handy at all times. My prayers are with you. You're a loving daughter to assist her.
Sandy
P.S. I hope she's not smoking.

[boop64132]

Thanks Ladies!
Im not looking forward to telling her...but I will.
My Mom of course is from the "old school" Do as I say.And dont tell me what to do! I am the parent! Im sure most of you know what Im saying.
But I would feel bad if something were to happen to her and I didnt at least voice my concern.
And yes...she also smokes! Not good for her condition either!

[ButterflyChaser]

Boop....I would tell her what ever comes to your heart!! If you feel you need or want to tell her...DO IT!! It can't hurt anything~! right? You love her, ya know?

[Sandy Marie]

Boop!!
Please tell her, even if you have to write her by letter. It's hard to deal with elders when they're set in their ways...but maybe this once she'll listen to you. At least you'll plant the seed and maybe she'll come to terms with her health issues sooner than if you said nothing. Prayers.
Sandy

[Rowan]

Why don't you print out this page and show her? Nothing more powerful than the
written word, in my opinion. I think it will speak volumes to her, and show her how
much you care. But that's just me - I have a hard time expressing myself verbally
to my parents. Hope it goes well. You sound like a kind and loving daughter.
Love Rowan

[boop64132]

Thanks everyone!

Im praying about this!

[ButterflyChaser]

I agree with Rowan! Print this page out & show her!!! good luck to you girl! I'm praying for U!!!!
I think Your Mom will Love you even more for this! You are couragous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!