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09-07-2004, 08:24 AM
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| Headed in the right direction.  Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Las Vegas
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Greenbird, Please forgive yourself and start over again. All you need to get through today is the desire to not drink. Holidays are tough, so try to move forward. If you haven't tried AA, you might give that a try. You said, "I started drinking. I don't know why..." and maybe working through a program would help you discover the "WHY." In the meantime, while you are searching for the "why," just tell yourself that you "Can't" for today. Just today. Hang in there, -CSB
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09-07-2004, 09:24 AM
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| Meow!  Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
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((((((((((((((((((greenbird))))))))))))))))))))))) just jeep coming back!! Everything will be ok!!! 
__________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!"  ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~  |
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09-07-2004, 09:30 PM
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Greenbird...how did the day go? Are you OK? As someone very smart once said, we were all on this same bus, and we each had to choose a time to get off. When you do arrive at your bus stop (and it may have been today) I would encourage you to throw yourself totally into your recovery program. Do it honestly and whole heartedly and I think you won't be sorry. I sincerely hope you are all right!
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09-08-2004, 10:05 AM
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| Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
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Ya, how r u today????
__________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~ |
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09-09-2004, 09:02 AM
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{{{{{{{{{{greenbird}}}}}}}}}}}}}} today is a new day...i hope your doin ok..please stop in and let us know how you are..whether you have drank or not..we are here for you!!!!!!!!
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09-09-2004, 10:10 AM
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| Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
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|  where are you greenbird???
__________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~ |
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09-10-2004, 07:48 AM
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Green bird where are you? Yes you starting drinking again but the fight does not have to be over. Get up dust yourself off and continue the fight. What you learn from this slip may very well help you not slip again. Don't let the addiction win. My prayers are with you. Just remember its a day at a time. I only have today and so do you. Don't burden yourself with yesterday. Just start fresh today or tomorrow but let go of yesterday. We are all just trying to stay sober a day at a time heck sometimes an hour or minute even. You can beat this addiction it just takes time. Look to the reason you picked up that drink again and work on that never letting it bring you down again.
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09-10-2004, 02:12 PM
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Greeenbird, Feel free to vent!
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09-10-2004, 02:56 PM
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Today do different than you did yesterday. You know what I mean? What can you do today not to drink, that you did not do a few days ago? We are here to support you, vent, talk about the pressures you have that is what we do we share the good and the bad.
__________________  I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR |
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09-10-2004, 03:08 PM
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Greenbird, I hope you are doing well. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Anna
__________________ Anna  "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou |
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09-11-2004, 10:17 AM
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Well, I am still trying to get back where I was. I don't know what to do about my husband. My employee asked me to advance her wages 4 days ahead of time. I said no! She and her boyfriend had gone out of town for 4 days. They spent alot of money. She tells me she is high maintenance all the time. I am not her man. She said her mother was going to get put out of her apartment. She lives with her mother. That was not my personal problem. My husband went behind my back and signed her a check for the salary. He even paid her for the holiday which at the time I did not tell her I was going to do. Now, what does that make me look like. He does not have any income I pay all the bills and now this. This is the 4th time he has forged my name. I am going to change all my bank accounts numbers now. What the hec. It made me look like a fool. He said I should have been more compasionate and she tells me I am too compasionate. She's playing me!
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09-11-2004, 12:20 PM
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Greenbird, yes, change the account numbers and then make sure the bank knows YOU are the only name on that account. I take it you have directly told your husband not to write checks in your name? You are right, he is undermining your authority. You must feel frustrated. Stick to your guns on this one. If it is YOUR business, you are entitled to run it. Somehow, he has taken away some of tht power. You can also tell your employee that she is not to take a check from him, and if she does, she will be without a job.
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09-11-2004, 07:11 PM
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| Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Above the Clouds
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Carrie, while I agree that Greenbird should do something. Changing the accounts is not one of them. If you have been reading her threads, they have a business together and he is a major player in it. While Greenbird you may not like to hear this, but you are stuck in your addiction and everything seems helter skelter right now. Step back and take inventory of the situation. You have told us that you and your husband have been together for umteen years and why would he go against you? Do you love him still? Is he trying to ruin you or what? Sound like he did what you could not. I sent you an email and I hope it helps, but I've always believed in waiting a year before you make any hasty decisions about life changing issues. Taking your husband off the business account may actually make matters worse than better. Are you going to meetings? You said you were some time ago. I hope you keep going. Carolyn-  |
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09-12-2004, 09:38 AM
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Greenbird, You are looking at the problem, finding a solution and now stick with it and there go one of your stresses. You have the tools and the ittelegence so use it to your advantage. A buisness can not be successful if your always giving. Hang in there follow your insticts and you will be just fine. We are all here if you need to get anything more off your chest. Let us have it and let go. Hang in and things will get better.
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09-12-2004, 09:49 AM
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Flyinglow, How dare you talk to my husband behind my back. I understand what you are saying but you have no business communicating with my husband. There are alot of variables you have no idea of. Stop it. Now I feel like I am going to have to change my code name. This is a waman's forum. What the hec do you think you are doing. This is suppose to lbe confidential. Don't e-mail my husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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09-12-2004, 10:04 AM
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Greenbird, I do not know your husband. I have been watching the pain you're going through and wanted to help. I have been in the same situation. I thought I was so in control and found that I was being controlled by the addiction. My thinking didn't help until I started realizing that I was indeed sick. I am sorry. I would like to continue to help if you'd let me. You have my email. Please don't try to do this alone. It never works. Carolyn-  |
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09-12-2004, 11:01 AM
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Greenbird, You have to understand, while you continue to drink, your hubby is in a position to have to make decisions to continue to run the business. He is probably concerned, you are not able to clearly be objective when making business decisions at the moment and is doing what he thought would help one of your employee's so that they may be of better service to you. If in helping her by advancing her, she is able to rid herself of this burden temporarily, and concentrate better on doing her job for you. When drinking my thought process were distorted as well. I couldn't see the silver lining, and only the negative of my relationships and situations. I didn't have the capacity to make objective decisions, because of my own inner turmoil. Try going back to meetings, seek counseling, but take action in your recovery. |
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09-12-2004, 06:51 PM
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hello greenbird, i found when i was using and trying to work it was a recipe for disaster. i was not understanding things that should have been very easy to comprehend. even when i was in the right things were very blurred for me and i couldnt react in an appropriate way. my using led to me leaving a few jobs and also being fired. i hope you are able to get things worked out. hang in there and dont worry, no one will email your husband or anyone you know. we are just concerned for YOUR wellbeing. hugs, dot
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