unbelievable

[namommy]

Last night I was the speaker at my home group. I was sharing my story and I told of how early in recovery, I had tried to "trick" (prostitute) just for the money, and found out the hard way that tricking and using go hand in hand and I relapsed. So, I realized I couldn't do that.

There was a man at the meeting who I had never seen before, He started sharing after the break, that I was wrong, that girls can 'trick' in recovery, and he knows a woman with 8 years who is a very successful prostitute.

There were 6 newcomer women in the room. I thought I was gonna come out of my chair and CHOKE him. He kept looking at these women and telling them it is OK to do that. What is wrong with some people.

He also got into an argument with the chair person on the floor, but that is a different story.

[wastedtime4me]

some are sicker than others i guess!!!!
i hope someone let the newcomers know..thats not ok..
{{{{{{{{namommy}}}}}}}}}}

[Paulie]

Over the years I have witnessed many people like you describe in meetings. One time a meeting had to be stopped and the person was asked to leave because of the way they were going on and on in detail about the using they had just done the night before. They were higher than a kite and the secretary had to stop it.

I was taught by a few very old timers that when something like that happens, or when someone shares something like you told us about that we have to remember that they are in the rooms for the same reason we are. But then we should also approach any newcomers after the meeting if possible and talk to them, you know reach out and see if they are spinning like we are about what happenend.

Pray for that guy...cause he needs it.

[bubblze30]

As they say some are sicker then others. I do believe that tricking and using do go hand and hand they are both negative things we do when we are desperate or just because we don't like ourselves for me it was to not be sick then it was to get more drugs I know however that I could never do it straight not only because I would just be sick but because it will start the negative wheels spinning eventually bringing me to use. I wouldn't hold to tight on the anger he is sick and dosen't quite get it. The new comers if they take his advice must truely not be ready to be clean. See even though still cloudy in early recovery we have some sence to know better. I truely believe I didn't stop drugs until I wanted to and that ws all. Pray for him and the new comers then let it go knowing at least you have the wisdom to know better not to do it. Then let it go. No use letting him rent space in your head although I understand it is unerving to hear.

[ButterflyChaser]

boy...that guy sure sounds like a real winner!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT!!!!!
some people are sure sicker than others, huh???
(((((((((((((((namommy))))))))))))))))
how long have you been sober? I was just curious , when do you know it's your turn to speak at a meeting? being the speaker and all, I'm just real curious today! lol

[namommy]

BC,

I just celebrated 8 years. I was speaking for my anniversary. In this area, it is common that you speak at your homegroup for your anniversary every year. Basically, we follow the Speaker portion of the Group pamphlet (NA). My homegroups policy is that the speaker should have at least 6 months clean, a sponsor, and a homegroup. Also if someone is speaking on a topic, they should have experience with that topic. I think that is one of the most important. I was at a meeting once and the topic was "Parenting in Recovery" when the speaker started, she shared that she didn't have any kids. HELLO! How can you teach me to be a better parent if you don't have experience. I have also been in homegroups where the clean time for speakers is only 90 days. Each group is different. I have also spoken at 2 conventions and I am speaking at another one this Nov. So I have 2 speaker tapes of myself and will soon add one more.

I've also been taught that when someone asks you to speak, you always say yes, unless you have a previous committment that absolutely cannot be broken. We keep what we have by giving it away.

I hope this helps.

[ButterflyChaser]

That's great!!! That's really great! Sounds like you are not shy at all! I'd probably get stage fight!!!!

[WeDoRecover]

I know better but jacka**es like that still get my goat! I hope someone shared after him and mentioned stuff like spiritual principles, steps, honesty, integrity... You know, recovery stuff. Ugh- that sucks. He's in my prayers. My first sponsor told me that sometimes all you can do is pray that someone doesn't get the hottest seat in hell. Those prayers are reserved for people like him... (Just kidding- kind of...)

I had to tell my story at a meeting last week and it was so traumatic. It was the first time I've shared it since getting clean this time (3 years) and I had to stand at a podium and talk for 45 minutes. I hated it, hated it, hated it. But I also come from the school that says speaking is service and you don't turn it down. Maybe I was so bad that no one will ask me for a long time...

HUGS!

[pdgds333]

He probable is not just a friend to the prostitute in recovery but a client also. Any women who has had to turn tricks in her life could probable see him just for what he is...." a John". The sad part is that we think just because we leave the streets the "trick" doesnt come right into the rooms with us.

Lots of people I know, myself included, have prostituted something the rooms, my spirit for example. I know that it has taken several years to know the true depths that prostitution can delve into. Thank Goddess, I do not have to do that anymore. My mind, body or spirit cannot be bought today.

[namommy]

WDR,

I am sure you did a great job. An honest message is a good message. Give yourself a little credit.