Guess where I was last night! - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

dragonlady · 08-23-2004, 02:24 PM

LOL! The M.F.'s came out to my house and arrested me in front of my 3 yr. old! But it was alright, I had my cigs. and something to read and slept in the "detox" tank of the county jail! No, I didn't need to detox! Once I got home this morn. I was ready to go back! I'm going to kill this S>O>B> I'm married to if I don't commit ONE of us pretty soon!

Paulie · 08-23-2004, 02:30 PM

I don't mean to sound harsh here, but the word consequences comes to mind. Even if we are not currently drinking/using consequences of our actions happen.

I am sorry this happened to you and even more sorry that it happened in front of your 3 yr. old, but what now? what action are you going to take now?

I know I sound like a bitch, but someone has to ask. I mean trust me I have plenty of people in my life that care about me that say 'what now?' to me when I need to hear it.

zoomer · 08-23-2004, 02:37 PM

I have to back Paulie up on this one. It's fun to get angry,but there is a line. It sounds like both you and your husband are playing dirty pool and you both should be ashamed of yourselves! It's OK though, you can start fresh today and say "yes, i have anger issues. I don't like to be around people who get me that angry.(huggys by the way)))))

dragonlady · 08-23-2004, 03:22 PM

CHILL ladies! lol I'm not really mad about going to jail, it was the way they did it, not that matters. I actually enjoyed being away from my husbands mouth for awhile! He's the one that pisses me off! I actually read a good book while there about thanking GOD no matter what was going on and I enjoyed it. It explained alot. But as soon as I got home, I was put to the test! But I'm making it through and I'm fine now.

Paulie · 08-23-2004, 03:27 PM

I have no response to that. I wish you the best.

I will tell you that the feeling of living without chaos is one that you cannot imagine until you live it. I wish that for you and for your 3 yr. old.

CarrieSueBee · 08-23-2004, 08:16 PM

Hey Dragon lady -
Glad you are out of jail. Sounds like a good book to be reading!

My hubby says things that totally annoy me too. He nags at me!!! Like a naggy WIFE or something. I now know the ways he starts it. If I feel like he is picking on me, I just say, "I don't want to fight right now" or "Why are you picking a fight with me?" It seems like he tries to pick a fight every morning. Everything I do is never good enough. But if I call him on it....He is fairly level headed and he usually backs off. It is good to be able to keep my cool.

We fight a little more now that I'm sober...because I'm not feeling guilty all the time and giving in to whatever he wants just to make up for my bad behavior the night before.

Best wishes for your 3 year old. She must have been worried about you and I hope you have a chance to explain it to her in a way that isn't scary. I can't offer any advice on that though, my boy is only 19 months old and it is hard to explain anything to him.

Welcome back Mrs. M! I started loggin on here just as you were getting hitched. Hope all is well in "ever after."

bubblze30 · 08-24-2004, 06:17 AM

DL Glad you were not stuck there any longer. Oh how I remember my trips to jail. Even early in sobriety I had to go. Yes they can be pretty cruel ball busters when they want to be. We all have times in our lives where we just don't get along with our spouse or family. I hope that you can work it out with him or find a better suited atmosphere for the child/children. They suffer the most in these situations. Been there done that. Oh to many times. I enjoy being alone now my daughter does not see the caos, I no longer live in it. Its lonely, dont get me wrong. However my lonliest feeling is a hundred times better then my smallest argument in the past. Hope things work out for you and hope you got the jail thing all straightend up.

ButterflyChaser · 08-24-2004, 12:21 PM

YUCK!!!! Jail!!!! Glad you are home!!
Hopefully you got everything taken care of & you won't be making any more trips to jail anymore!! lol

dragonlady · 08-24-2004, 03:37 PM

Thanks, I wish it was all over but I think I've still got 10-15 checks out.

CarrieSueBee · 08-25-2004, 08:46 AM

:35: Hang in there Dragonlady. We are all rooting for you! You have the power to choose the right path now. We are all supporting you along the way.

bubblze30 · 08-25-2004, 09:10 AM

Have you though about going to the places where you wrote the checks and setting up a payment plan admitting your wrong doing and righting your wrong will be better then hiding until they show up.

dragonlady · 08-26-2004, 10:22 PM

I've payed what I could then set it up with bail-bonds and sheriff to call when the warrants come in and I turn myself in. BB just missed last warrant. After today (last ones turned in today) mine will be upgraded to a felony and one more warrant will beissued. BB said its better(!) this way because then I'll just have one charge instead of 30, same sentence but all I'' pay is ONE fine(what a fine it will be)! Thanx for all your support!

bubblze30 · 08-27-2004, 07:33 AM

Good luck on clearing this all up. We caause a great many of problems in are using. It does take time to clear it up.

08-23-2004, 02:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
dragonlady Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: colmesneil, texas Posts: 120	Guess where I was last night! LOL! The M.F.'s came out to my house and arrested me in front of my 3 yr. old! But it was alright, I had my cigs. and something to read and slept in the "detox" tank of the county jail! No, I didn't need to detox! Once I got home this morn. I was ready to go back! I'm going to kill this S>O>B> I'm married to if I don't commit ONE of us pretty soon! __________________ "CAN'T FIND THE ANSWER'S, BEEN CRAWLING ON MY KNEES-LOOKING FOR ANYTHING TO KEEP ME FROM DROWNING" Godsmack

08-23-2004, 02:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,785	I don't mean to sound harsh here, but the word consequences comes to mind. Even if we are not currently drinking/using consequences of our actions happen. I am sorry this happened to you and even more sorry that it happened in front of your 3 yr. old, but what now? what action are you going to take now? I know I sound like a bitch, but someone has to ask. I mean trust me I have plenty of people in my life that care about me that say 'what now?' to me when I need to hear it. __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

08-23-2004, 03:22 PM	#4 (permalink)
dragonlady Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: colmesneil, texas Posts: 120	CHILL ladies! lol I'm not really mad about going to jail, it was the way they did it, not that matters. I actually enjoyed being away from my husbands mouth for awhile! He's the one that pisses me off! I actually read a good book while there about thanking GOD no matter what was going on and I enjoyed it. It explained alot. But as soon as I got home, I was put to the test! But I'm making it through and I'm fine now. __________________ "CAN'T FIND THE ANSWER'S, BEEN CRAWLING ON MY KNEES-LOOKING FOR ANYTHING TO KEEP ME FROM DROWNING" Godsmack

08-23-2004, 03:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,785	I have no response to that. I wish you the best. I will tell you that the feeling of living without chaos is one that you cannot imagine until you live it. I wish that for you and for your 3 yr. old. __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

08-23-2004, 08:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
CarrieSueBee Headed in the right direction. Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 257	Hey Dragon lady - Glad you are out of jail. Sounds like a good book to be reading! My hubby says things that totally annoy me too. He nags at me!!! Like a naggy WIFE or something. I now know the ways he starts it. If I feel like he is picking on me, I just say, "I don't want to fight right now" or "Why are you picking a fight with me?" It seems like he tries to pick a fight every morning. Everything I do is never good enough. But if I call him on it....He is fairly level headed and he usually backs off. It is good to be able to keep my cool. We fight a little more now that I'm sober...because I'm not feeling guilty all the time and giving in to whatever he wants just to make up for my bad behavior the night before. Best wishes for your 3 year old. She must have been worried about you and I hope you have a chance to explain it to her in a way that isn't scary. I can't offer any advice on that though, my boy is only 19 months old and it is hard to explain anything to him. Welcome back Mrs. M! I started loggin on here just as you were getting hitched. Hope all is well in "ever after." __________________ Each day of your life, as soon as you open your eyes in the morning, you can square away for a happy and successful day. ~ George Matthew Adams

08-23-2004, 02:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
zoomer Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: It's raining again! Posts: 2,495	I have to back Paulie up on this one. It's fun to get angry,but there is a line. It sounds like both you and your husband are playing dirty pool and you both should be ashamed of yourselves! It's OK though, you can start fresh today and say "yes, i have anger issues. I don't like to be around people who get me that angry.(huggys by the way)))))

08-24-2004, 06:17 AM	#7 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,355	DL Glad you were not stuck there any longer. Oh how I remember my trips to jail. Even early in sobriety I had to go. Yes they can be pretty cruel ball busters when they want to be. We all have times in our lives where we just don't get along with our spouse or family. I hope that you can work it out with him or find a better suited atmosphere for the child/children. They suffer the most in these situations. Been there done that. Oh to many times. I enjoy being alone now my daughter does not see the caos, I no longer live in it. Its lonely, dont get me wrong. However my lonliest feeling is a hundred times better then my smallest argument in the past. Hope things work out for you and hope you got the jail thing all straightend up. __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

08-24-2004, 12:21 PM	#8 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,020	YUCK!!!! Jail!!!! Glad you are home!! Hopefully you got everything taken care of & you won't be making any more trips to jail anymore!! lol __________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~

08-24-2004, 03:37 PM	#9 (permalink)
dragonlady Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: colmesneil, texas Posts: 120	Thanks, I wish it was all over but I think I've still got 10-15 checks out. __________________ "CAN'T FIND THE ANSWER'S, BEEN CRAWLING ON MY KNEES-LOOKING FOR ANYTHING TO KEEP ME FROM DROWNING" Godsmack

08-25-2004, 08:46 AM	#10 (permalink)
CarrieSueBee Headed in the right direction. Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 257	:35: Hang in there Dragonlady. We are all rooting for you! You have the power to choose the right path now. We are all supporting you along the way. __________________ Each day of your life, as soon as you open your eyes in the morning, you can square away for a happy and successful day. ~ George Matthew Adams

08-25-2004, 09:10 AM	#11 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,355	Have you though about going to the places where you wrote the checks and setting up a payment plan admitting your wrong doing and righting your wrong will be better then hiding until they show up. __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

08-26-2004, 10:22 PM	#12 (permalink)
dragonlady Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: colmesneil, texas Posts: 120	I've payed what I could then set it up with bail-bonds and sheriff to call when the warrants come in and I turn myself in. BB just missed last warrant. After today (last ones turned in today) mine will be upgraded to a felony and one more warrant will beissued. BB said its better(!) this way because then I'll just have one charge instead of 30, same sentence but all I'' pay is ONE fine(what a fine it will be)! Thanx for all your support! __________________ "CAN'T FIND THE ANSWER'S, BEEN CRAWLING ON MY KNEES-LOOKING FOR ANYTHING TO KEEP ME FROM DROWNING" Godsmack

08-27-2004, 07:33 AM	#13 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,355	Good luck on clearing this all up. We caause a great many of problems in are using. It does take time to clear it up. __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

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