I Will Stand With The Grace Of A Woman

[Boots]

I Will Stand With The Grace Of A Woman

I have learned the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul.

I have learned that love doesn't mean leaning.
And company doesn't mean security.

Kisses aren't contract.
And presents aren't promises.

I will stand with the grace of a woman.
Not the neediness of a child.

[bubblze30]

nice.. I think. Well I am a little hmm about it...LOL.

[Boots]

Hello Everyone,
I hope that this thread wasn't innappropriate.
I should have followed it with some kind of explanation. I didn't mean in to be cold.
I don't want to trudge the road of happy destiny. When I can, I want to stand tall and feel empowered to make the next right move. For a long time, I walked into most situations; school, meetings, social gatherings...with a glance at others, then downcast eyes and slumped shoulders. Someone asked me to try walking into any situation and look at everyone, stand tall and hold my chin up and my shoulders high. It changed how I saw myself and how people saw me. Not out of ego, with humility.
I guess there's a lot that can be read into it. Depending on the situation.
Holding a hand or chaining a soul? I need to walk with someone, not hang on so tight that I don't recognize my own strength. And not to hang on to someone else so tight that they can't be themselves.
Love doesn't mean leaning, company doesn't mean security. We do need to lean on people for their strength. The company of others does give us a time to build our strength and learn. This one is more of a relationship thing. I was too vague.
Kisses aren't contracts, presents aren't promises. Kisses are whatever they are meant to be. Presents are a show of love and affection. In the right context. My baggage?
Stand with the grace of a woman, not the neediness of a child. Children are supposed to be somewhat needy. They look to us for guidance and help through rough times. It's my stuff again...I need to ask for help, but ultimately find the answer in myself.
I meant this for women in unhealthy relationships. Like with a using partner, a controlling partner or feeling unsure of herself as a single woman.
Wrong forum?
Have at me! I welcome any criticism. :Flush:
Boots

[zoomer]

(((((((((((((Boots))))))))))))) no one is going to critisize you. Me frankly I'm as vurnable as a child sometimes and when I'm down on my knees from the wieght of the world I'm needy as a child too. If a man or a woman was ment to stand alone all the time, then whats the point of families,groups,communities ect,ect.... Too much of the Me gerneration I would think and not enough of the we of man (and woman) kind... :band You cannot have a band alone!

[Alice Wonder]

Boots- i am very girlie and prone to excessive fits of glamour on a regular basis! i am also a HUGE tomboy.... i am a woman/person of confidence and strength and i like your post. i absolutely adore men but do not need them to complete me...i only want them for the fun stuff!!!! thanks for sharing. love-alice

[Boots]

Hi,
thanks Zoomer and Alice. And everyone else. After I wrote that, my mom asked to go to the emergency room. She lives with me and was sick for a while. She has a large mass in her left lung. The doctor was very compassionate but, also said that it is unlikely that such a large mass is benign.
I haven't seen her cry in ages. Really sucked. Broke my heart.
I am grateful to have asked her to move in with me. We hadn't gotten along well in a while.
Hugs.
Boots

[Alice Wonder]

big hugs(((())))) for your mom and you, i will put you both in my thoughts and send you light and love. alice

[zoomer]

Good Morning Boots! I just went through 11 years of my mom having breast cancer. They are making great strides for cancer these days and everyday! It was a journy through life that taught me,my family and my mother many things. Your mom is lucky to have you! I'll keep you both in my thoughts. ((((((((((((((huggys)))))))))))

[sibilla86]

(((BOOTS))) I'll keep you and your mom in my prayers
Hugs
Irene

[wastedtime4me]

{{{{{{{{{[boots}}}}}}}}}}]
Keeping you and your mom in my prayers..
My mom had a heart attack almost 2 yrs ago now...
She was so helpless for quite afew days...It just tore me up
to see her that way..Now can be a time to heal all the old emotional wounds of the past!! {{{{{{{{{[bighugs}}}}}}}}}}]

[bubblze30]

No criticism here I am but just an illeterite. I have a hard time understanding som reading and poems. I sometimes need them explained in a way understand better. Thank you for helping me to understand it better. Now I can read it with more of an open mind and actually understand its meaning. I truely believe I can stand with the grace of a women. In the past always depending on friends relationship and such to get me through life. I can stand tall today.