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08-12-2004, 08:21 PM
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| Member  Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: The Mohave Desert
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| 16-Steps of Discovery and Empowerment Hello... I am posting 3 sites here that pertain to our womens meeting held on Thurs. Evening. An Informal Exploration of the 16-Steps of Discovery and Empowerment for Women (Open format) 5:30 PM Pacific/7:30 PM Central/8:30 PM Eastern Chair: KelKel http://www.charlottekasl.com/ http://www.counselormagazine.com/dis...%20OCTOBER.htm http://alcoholism.about.com/gi/dynam...2F16steps.html Please let me know if you have any questions? |
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08-15-2004, 09:22 AM
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I think those were very interesting. I often wonderd in the twelve step program why in was never ending it seemed we would get through all twelve steps and 20 yrs later still be sitting in the same chair saying the same thing. Still clean but running around a circle never moving on. I follow a.a to some extent. Admitting I am an addict and staying clean a day at a time. However I always wondered why everyone seemed to stand stil never moving on. Also people at the meetings saying if you don't follow the steps everyday exactly the way they wrote it you would relapse. I have three yrs this time around been in and out of recovery since age sixteen. However this time I want to move forward I don't want to stand still and let life live around me I want to live it.I think the coins are a great thing in the program that is one of the things that shows growth and moving forward. I guess I just see people with lots of recovery just repeating day after day yes staying sober but not seeming to move on after a period of time. I think this theory of recovery this dr. has makes alot of sence, I mean we need to move forward not just do the same things day after day, week after week. I am sure this will turn into a contravercial thing and thats ok. This time around I haven't made lots of meetings but I do goto support groups everyweek( a womens group on life and recovery) Although I hear my story in the halls and I can relate I want to move forward with mylife. I earned that right by staying clean. Little by slow recovering on the way. The dr. in these web sites makes alot of sence. We must move forward with our lives not just do the twelve step circle but move on to more enpowering things and aspects. No forgetting what we learn on the way but adding to the knowledge every step of the way. Thanks kel for sharing this with me. I found it very educational. I am always up to learning new things.
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08-16-2004, 12:23 PM
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I shared this with my councelor today. I explained what I got out of it. Ya know seeing the same people sitting in the same seat sober but stagnent never moving on. She said it sounds very interesting and she agrees with my observation on the ones who nerver move forward for fear or what ever the reason. I will be giving her the dr.s name. She is also a member of a twelve step program and alanon as well and thinks people should keep what they learn and move forward.
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08-31-2004, 09:33 AM
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| 16 steps for discovery and empowerment We gather together to support each other in healing from addiction. We encourage each person to find their own power, intelligence, and strengths. We are here to support each other, but we do not presume to know what is best for another. We realize that all people unfold in their own way and their own time. We learn from each other and draw strength from seeing the courage of others, yet we keep the focus on ourselves. We listen to each other's pain, but we also bond in power and joy and encourage everyone to take the necessary steps to live with respect and meaning in their lives. We are open to all possibilities for healing and finding our internal wisdom and power. Yes, we can! 1A.We affirm we have the power to take charge of our lives and stop being dependent on substances or other people for our self-esteem and security. 1B. Alternative: We admit we were out of control with/powerless over _________ yet have the power to take charge of our lives and stop being dependent on substances or other people for our self-esteem and security. 2. (This is a new version of this step) We come to believe that we have the ability to develop our inner resources through a process of learning, exploration, daily practice, diligence, self reflection, and supportive relationships with others. 3.We make a decision to become our authentic selves and trust in the healing power of the truth. 4.We examine our beliefs, addictions, and dependent behavior in the context of living in a hierarchal, patriarchal culture. 5.We share with another person all the things inside of us for which we feel shame and guilt. 6.We affirm and enjoy our strengths, talents, and creativity. 7.We become willing to let go of guilt, shame, and any behavior that keeps us from accepting ourselves and others. 8.We make a list of people we have harmed and people who have harmed us, and take steps to clear out negative feelings by making amends and sharing our grievances in a respectful way. 9.We express love and gratitude to others, and increasingly appreciate the wonder of life and the blessings we do have. 10.We continue to trust our reality and daily affirm that we see what we see, we know what we know and we feel what we feel. 11.We promptly acknowledge mistakes and make amends when appropriate, but we do not say we are sorry for things we have not done and we do not cover up, analyze, or take responsibility for the shortcomings of others. 12.We seek out situations, jobs, and people who affirm our intelligence, perceptions, and self-worth and avoid situations or people who are hurtful, harmful, or demeaning to us. 13.We take steps to heal our physical bodies, organize our lives, reduce stress, and have fun. 14. We seek to find our inward calling, and develop the will and wisdom to follow it. 15. We accept that change, loss, death, and re-birth are part of the natural flow of life. 16. We grow in awareness that we are interrelated with all living things, and we contribute to restoring peace and balance on the planet. Charlotte Kasl has a M.A. in Music from The University of Michigan, and a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Ohio University. She was a Licensed Psychologist in Minnesota for fifteen years and is currently a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Montana. She is a Certified Addiction Specialist in the areas of chemical dependency and sexuality and has had a private psychotherapy practice for twenty-five years. She is the author of seven books and numerous articles. |
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09-02-2004, 10:04 AM
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| I would like to continue with step 3 this week, we really just started to get into when our meeting ended last week. Step 3. We make a decision to become our authentic selves and trust in the healing power of the truth. I wanted to share this quote from Ms. Kasl, I think it is essential for us to view our individual recoveries within this light of empowerment. “In seeking words that fit with empowerment, I have used the terms un-covery and dis-covery that were originally coined by Mary Daly, a feminist theologian. To “re-cover� implies covering something over. To be empowered is to uncover the oppression that lives within us and then discover our authentic selves.� –Charlotte Kasl “ In our attempts to survive in our family or culture, we learn to dance between our real self and a false or adaptive self. We learned to please, be wild, sexy, sweet, cool, charming, tough – whatever it took to get attention, care or help us feel safe. This was the best we could do at the time. Yet to become empowered, we need to be an authentic person no matter what situation we are in. We need to be truthful and honest. If we are to be one with the spirit, we must know ourselves. This means allowing ourselves to meet our inner world of thoughts, feelings, and sometimes buried memories. It means we stop taking directions from others, stop faking the smiles, the bravado, the innocence, the power, the charm, the docility, the orgasm, and that we continue to reach deep inside, asking ourselves, what is my truth?� |
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