Enough is Enough!!

[namommy]

I decided tonite that I deserved to relax in a hot tub with aromatherapy bubble bath. I am out of bath salts, so I went to my daughters room to get some of hers. I knocked over a box and the lid fell off, and I saw a pack of cigarettes. When I picked up the box, I found a whole lot more. There were 2 empty cigarette packs, with pot in them. There was residue, 2 homemade pot pipes made from tin foil, visine, and condoms, and lighters.

She is down at her father's house until Thurs., so I have to sit on it until then. The last time we had an issue with my daughter, he decided to go get drunk (like that helps) and then came to my house sounding like a tough love pamphlet. Anyway, it ended with me and him fighting on my front lawn and me punching him in the face several times. I don't want to go there again, so I have to wait until she gets home before I can deal with it.

I really don't need this crap right now, but I am dealt the hand and now I have to play it.

[dragonlady]

Man, I feel for you girl! (((((((((((((((NAMOMMY)))))))))))))))))keep it real!

[bubblze30]

Ouch! I fear my daughter growing up. What will I do. I am always talking to her about drugs and smoking ciggerettes but if ever I found that I just don't know what I would do. Then you have to sit on it for two days to.UGH. I feel your pain. My stonach turned reading it and its not even my child. God please give you the strength you need to get through to your daughter and get her back on track. I will pray for you to get through this as best as possible. The thing is you must stay calm. Fighting will only make the situation all the more hard. So keep your cool. Oh Lord my prayers are with you. We see thes little babies grow into children then into young adolescents then adults. Keep in mind the serenity prayer. I wish I had more advise for you. Keep me posted on how it works out. I may need advise for the future myself.

[Rowan]

Oh Laurie I feel for you. Why oh why don't children come with instruction books?
What's on your side is that you are battling addiction also, and will be able to identify with some of her feelings and behaviours, perhaps. Try your best to be open-minded and to listen to what she has to say. Try to turn this into a positive thing, if you can.
Please let us know how it goes. God Bless.
Love Rowan

[bubblze30]

Rowan I think it would be hard even as an addict to see if my daughter was using. I would think (however I don't know) I had blinders on. Never expecting that of my child. I hope to god I am not like that. I also don't want to paphlet her to death before she hits 11. Thats a problem I have right now. When (I think) its your own child it becomes so hard to believe. So hard to accept.
Namommy did you notice anything different. In her behavior or attitude,The friends she hung out with? Let me know. I sometimes fear the genetic part. I used my mom was a pill popper and alcoholic and granma was also. I don't even want to get into her dads side.EEEK. I pray her knowledge of what I went through will keep her straight.

[zoomer]

(((((((((((((((namommy))))))))))) been there just recently with my 18 year old son. I got tough on him. I told his dad and his dad told him "it's your life". I'm like Ughhhhhhhhhh "thanks dude for the back up". LOL, I did't really say it,but I had long thoughts about the whole thing. I love my son very much and I'm not happy with the position I had to take,but I hate drugs and did't want it in my house. Anyway, my love for my son is always there and he is more than welcome in my home,but he now lives with his dad. I think kids will exsperiment no matter what,so I do not take it personally. I did take it personally that I was forking over money left and right and he was using it to get high. Kind of bothered me ya know!!! I feel that each person needs to find thier own path. You can offer help, you can offer ESH,but they will do what they are going to do. I had to set my boundries of what I wanted in my life and if my son did not like it,theres the door.

[namommy]

Things went well last night.

We sat down and had a good conversation with my daughter. She didn't try to deny anything. No fighting or yelling. She was honest with us about trying pot, she tried it 3 times, 1st did nothing, 2nd time she liked it, 3rd time it made her dizzy, sick, and she threw up. She said she hasn't smoked it since. She has tried beer, but she said it tastes disgusting, and she only took a few sips. She is smoking cigarettes, and I forgot that she did tell me about the condom a long time ago, they were giving them out at school.

We encouraged her to be honest with us in the future, and we are going to initiate converstations that will hopefully encourage all the kids to talk to us about anything.

My husband told my daughter that when we found the pot, he started crying, hit his knees and prayed to God. She started crying and said "Please don't tell me that" he said he had to, just to let her know how much he loves her.

All in all, things went pretty well.

Thanks

[bubblze30]

It all sounds very positive. I hope that she continues to be honest and the communication continues as well. Its very important. I have a question though and don't want you to get upset but, She had a homemade pipe right. I never got into pot but dosen't having a homemade pipe sound more experienced then a three time smoker. I know when I got more into my addiction I started carring around my own tools (if ya know what I mean) however earlier I didn't.

[JennieB]

"...but dosen't having a homemade pipe sound more experienced then a three time smoker." I agree. I too know from first hand experience. I didn't start making apple bongs until I knew how to smoke.
I'm sorry but I think she has tried it more than 3. I am happy that you were able to talk to her about it.

[wastedtime4me]

{{{{{{{{{{namommy}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Thinking of you and your family...

[namommy]

sneaking on one more time before we leave.

I talked to her about the pipe last night, she told me who bought the pot, and who made the pipe. I had already banned her from hanging with the girl a few months ago because of the girls behavior and the fact that the police around here know her. They warned us to not let my daughter hang out with her. All I can do is hope she is telling me the truth about it.

[wastedtime4me]

Your going on a trip namommy right?? Hope you have a good time!!!

[bubblze30]

Hope you get some well deserved and needed rest. Enjoy your vacation. Hope its not a cloudy as it has been up here in mass. With those hurricanes.