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Greenbird · 07-04-2004, 10:49 AM

Hello it's greenBird,

I am so thankful to be sober today I just can't express my gratitude.
I am so much happier I am never want to return to that nightmare.

Greenbird

Rowan · 07-04-2004, 10:50 AM

Greenbird
Thanks for sharing your gratitude and serenity! I needed to read that.

KelKel · 07-04-2004, 12:00 PM

GreenBird
Good to see you...what have you been up to?
Would love to hear what you have been up to and how you are staying sober.
Congratulations on your sobriety

Paulie · 07-04-2004, 12:49 PM

That is wonderful!!!!!

indigo · 07-04-2004, 12:55 PM

Greenbird I am so happy for you.
Indigo

Chy · 07-04-2004, 06:27 PM

I happy for you!!!

Magichappens · 07-05-2004, 11:04 AM

Yay Greenbird!
An attitude of gratitude is a wonderful thing. Hugs, Magic

Greenbird · 07-05-2004, 01:26 PM

This is greenbird,
My husband is on my case everytime I turn around. He keeps telling me I am still sick.
He is posting on the Alanon board. I don't know what these people are telling him but he is saying crazy things. Accusing me of another man, telling me I think I am all that because I'm sober etc. My business is getting ready to boom!!!! Do I stay in this sick relationship. It's been 18 years of me taking care of this man financially. He is a writer and does not want to do anything else. He has an office in my office and I don't really want him there anymore. He is seldom there. Maybe we need to see a
marriage counselor.

Greenbird

ChristineC · 07-05-2004, 02:11 PM

I'm cheering you on in your sobriety.

As for the man thing...........well...........let's just say I'm probably not the woman you want to get advice from. Am I bitter, geeee I don't know

. But in all seriousness I've been in a toxic relationship for over 4 years. And how I feel now......He can kiss my a@@, he contributes NOTHING to the relationship but negativitey, sarcasim, selfishness......Like GET LOST buddy. I'll never get to the top of that mountain with that dancing clown pulling me down everytime I'm making some progress. My ex is not a human being, he's a
human animal and he wants me in his cage with him, where he has control. Well forget that....

zoomer · 07-05-2004, 04:53 PM

(((((((Huggys green B)))))))))

Greenbird · 07-06-2004, 08:01 AM

well , My husband told me he was sorry for his behavior. I reallly think he does not want me to be sober because he can't control me like he use to. But that's too bad. I am determined to stay sober I am determined to stay happy. Regardless of his behavior. I am so grateful to God that I am sober today. My life is so much better.

bubblze30 · 07-06-2004, 11:02 AM

Well it all sounds great. One thing though I have been through is When I got clean I found I was not the least bit attracted to my mate anymore. I was sober and my vision became clearer and I was more aware. With all this I seen someone who I was not at all in commen with. Someone I just did not know. I since left that relationship am feel better for it. You have spent 18 yrs in this relationship. Were you always using? It is a long time to just throw in the towel. Maybe marriage counceling could work. Sometimes when we get clean we get all kinds of things coming up and from god knows where. It often clouds our judgement and we may have still some stinking thinking (as they say) and maybe you need to weigh your pros and cons. Take time to think about this all. They say not to make huge descisions the first yr of recovery so give it some time. He (if controling like you said) needs to work on himself and sometimes we can not tell them because it builds a huge wall of denial. Ask him about going to counsseling maybe he will. Tell him it will help both of you to understand why you used and whats going on with you in early recovery.

It is so good to hear you are doing well. It took me years (just until reacently) to get to this feeling. The feeling everything will be o.k. The feeling of freedom of not being stuck in the chains of drug abuse. I would not trade my happiness for anything ever. Hang on to those good feelings. However definatley talk to him communication is lacked in so many relationships.

ChristineC · 07-06-2004, 11:27 AM

Nice to see you're feeling strong and courageous about YOU and where you want to be. That's great!! Love to read that stuff.

Christine

07-04-2004, 10:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
Greenbird Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: TUKWILA,WA Posts: 54	Happy Hello it's greenBird, I am so thankful to be sober today I just can't express my gratitude. I am so much happier I am never want to return to that nightmare. Greenbird

07-04-2004, 12:49 PM	#4 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,785	That is wonderful!!!!! __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

07-04-2004, 12:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
indigo Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,928	Greenbird I am so happy for you. Indigo __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

07-05-2004, 11:04 AM	#7 (permalink)
Magichappens Free As A Pig! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Let it begin with me Posts: 1,240	Yay Greenbird! An attitude of gratitude is a wonderful thing. Hugs, Magic __________________ Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world. Eleanor Roosevelt There can be no friendship where there is no freedom. William Penn

07-05-2004, 02:11 PM	#9 (permalink)
ChristineC Pretty Is As Pretty Does Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Edmonton Alberta Posts: 82	I'm cheering you on in your sobriety. As for the man thing...........well...........let's just say I'm probably not the woman you want to get advice from. Am I bitter, geeee I don't know . But in all seriousness I've been in a toxic relationship for over 4 years. And how I feel now......He can kiss my a@@, he contributes NOTHING to the relationship but negativitey, sarcasim, selfishness......Like GET LOST buddy. I'll never get to the top of that mountain with that dancing clown pulling me down everytime I'm making some progress. My ex is not a human being, he's a human animal and he wants me in his cage with him, where he has control. Well forget that.... __________________ ~Think Pink~~Think Pink~

07-04-2004, 10:50 AM	#2 (permalink)
Rowan Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 12,138	Greenbird Thanks for sharing your gratitude and serenity! I needed to read that.

07-04-2004, 12:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
KelKel Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: The Mohave Desert Posts: 2,307	GreenBird Good to see you...what have you been up to? Would love to hear what you have been up to and how you are staying sober. Congratulations on your sobriety

07-04-2004, 06:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,867	I happy for you!!!

07-05-2004, 01:26 PM	#8 (permalink)
Greenbird Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: TUKWILA,WA Posts: 54	This is greenbird, My husband is on my case everytime I turn around. He keeps telling me I am still sick. He is posting on the Alanon board. I don't know what these people are telling him but he is saying crazy things. Accusing me of another man, telling me I think I am all that because I'm sober etc. My business is getting ready to boom!!!! Do I stay in this sick relationship. It's been 18 years of me taking care of this man financially. He is a writer and does not want to do anything else. He has an office in my office and I don't really want him there anymore. He is seldom there. Maybe we need to see a marriage counselor. Greenbird

07-05-2004, 04:53 PM	#10 (permalink)
zoomer Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: It's raining again! Posts: 2,495	(((((((Huggys green B)))))))))

07-06-2004, 08:01 AM	#11 (permalink)
Greenbird Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: TUKWILA,WA Posts: 54	well , My husband told me he was sorry for his behavior. I reallly think he does not want me to be sober because he can't control me like he use to. But that's too bad. I am determined to stay sober I am determined to stay happy. Regardless of his behavior. I am so grateful to God that I am sober today. My life is so much better.

07-06-2004, 11:02 AM	#12 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,355	Well it all sounds great. One thing though I have been through is When I got clean I found I was not the least bit attracted to my mate anymore. I was sober and my vision became clearer and I was more aware. With all this I seen someone who I was not at all in commen with. Someone I just did not know. I since left that relationship am feel better for it. You have spent 18 yrs in this relationship. Were you always using? It is a long time to just throw in the towel. Maybe marriage counceling could work. Sometimes when we get clean we get all kinds of things coming up and from god knows where. It often clouds our judgement and we may have still some stinking thinking (as they say) and maybe you need to weigh your pros and cons. Take time to think about this all. They say not to make huge descisions the first yr of recovery so give it some time. He (if controling like you said) needs to work on himself and sometimes we can not tell them because it builds a huge wall of denial. Ask him about going to counsseling maybe he will. Tell him it will help both of you to understand why you used and whats going on with you in early recovery. It is so good to hear you are doing well. It took me years (just until reacently) to get to this feeling. The feeling everything will be o.k. The feeling of freedom of not being stuck in the chains of drug abuse. I would not trade my happiness for anything ever. Hang on to those good feelings. However definatley talk to him communication is lacked in so many relationships. __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

07-06-2004, 11:27 AM	#13 (permalink)
ChristineC Pretty Is As Pretty Does Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Edmonton Alberta Posts: 82	Nice to see you're feeling strong and courageous about YOU and where you want to be. That's great!! Love to read that stuff. Christine __________________ ~Think Pink~~Think Pink~

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