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dotcom · 04-08-2004, 05:37 PM

Help! I feel like I am going 75 mph in the school zone! I am not speeding in the sense of using, but speeding in my thoughts and driving myself to an early grave! Help! Ladies! Where are the breaks on this thing?! I have to get sleep and do things and cannot continue at this pace! Help! :banger Feels like it has been this way since... day one! Help! Road blocks! Nail strips! Its not that I feel like using, I feel like I am not doing enough and the damn addict in my is having a good laugh. Help!

2stop · 04-08-2004, 05:47 PM

I am right there with ya Dotster..I just reread a post of mine..and I know now why my hubby said to change my name to snowball. I think one thing...and I am onto another subject, another worry, another failure, another to do list...til I beg to collapse...but never really do. That energizer bunny ain't got nothing on us! Hah!!! We ought to be on them commercials..retire the bunny rabbit..we can go on like...FOREVER!! Outsell that suckers! LOL.....I am abit manic tonight,,sorry! I am thinking I will light a candle and do some breathing exercise..but I get irritate thinking about siting still, staring at flames and breathing. BOORRRING!! LOL.....With you having pneumonia and being sick and all your body is trying to adjust to your schedule again. man I feel for you. Wish i lived nearby..we'd go paint the town red...or blue..or something. have some relaxing good sober fun ya know? Is theer any music that helps calm your mind. I like the Art of darkness on live365..helps sometimes..also the celtic channels..they are really good too. Hope you get to feeling calmer soon. *hugs* coming your way!

Justme57 · 04-08-2004, 05:53 PM

gee dotster , I cant really help you with this, I have the opposite problem ! Tamster has suggested music , would that help? or praps a walk . The ocean or a lake help calm me , for some reason, a walk by the beach is really calming .

Just know I am thinkin of you

HUGX
Lee

**51anna** · 04-08-2004, 07:14 PM

Hi Dot,

Yeah, that's it. You need to figure out what calms you and use that when things get too hectic. Sometimes it's a place. I've experimented a bit with aromatherapy and find that lavender oil is great for relaxing. You can use it in a bath, put a drop on your pillow at night, or warm it with a candle and scent the room. It really works!

Love, Anna

2stop · 04-08-2004, 09:12 PM

Dotster! How are ya doing tonight?
I sure hope you get some good sleep
and real rest tongiht.
I know it's rough.
I agree with Anna about lavender..it's
wonderful!

Sending angels on your pillow....sweet dreams.

:kisshug:

laurie6781 · 04-08-2004, 09:44 PM

Hey Dot:

How you doing on the "journalling"??? You know it works for a lot of things, including "slowing down."

When you're going 90 miles an hour, and you sit down, pull out the old spiral notebook and start writing, your committee has NO CHOICE, it slows down and shuts up. I don't know why this works, it just does, and it doesn't matter what you are writing, whether it's very important or just gibberish, lol.

Try it, can't hurt. Sure helped this alkie, and still does.

Love and (((((to all))))),

dotcom · 04-08-2004, 10:06 PM

Hugs to all of you gurls,

Thank you for the ideas! Tam, music that helps me... Hendrix! Yes, for some reason listening to Purple Haze makes me feel a little better and gets my head out of the s*** storm of thoughts. Lee, Oh! Good idea, a walk by the ocean sounds very nice. Very relaxing to smell the salt air and see the waves crash. Anna, thanks! I shall buy some lavender oil tomorrow at the store. That even sounds peaceful and relaxing. Thank you for the angels Tam. I sure need em! Laurie, ah yes.. thank you for the reminder. I must start up journaling again. You are so right. I found it would take away the stress and it "took me down a notch".

I greatly appreciate all of your ideas. I hope to get them in action tomorrow, and I will try to listen to Hendrix and journal tonight. I cannot figure why I feel this way. Things are going well all considered. It is just... I dont know. I need to do these things and get a handle on me. HAHA.

hugs and many thanks to you all!

Dotster :elephant

2stop · 04-09-2004, 07:15 AM

(((((((Dotster)))))))) Hang in there lil sistah! I know it's tough..I need to get a handle on myself too, but have been thinking a good manhandling might just work. LOL.....Love ya girl.......((((((((hugs)))))))))

Rock it on!!!

laurie6781 · 04-09-2004, 09:31 AM

Dear Sweet Dot:

Some of it is just plain "normal" roflmao. It's spring sweetie!!!!!!!! The days are getting longer, the temperatures are warming up, and we are coming out of winter hibernation.

And just think........you are actually feeling it!!!!! Instead of being numb.

Isn't it GRAND??????

Enjoy my dear, enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love and (((((to all))))),

dotcom · 04-09-2004, 11:48 AM

(((Tam, Laurie))) Today is a new day... and it is spring! I suppose I never really did stop to smell any roses before. Last spring I was... about 3/4 months clean but was quite a wreck. So this year is all new! LOL Tam! Thank you for all the support and encouragement Tam and Laurie. I will rock on!

Hugs and Big Thanks,

Dot

dublingirl · 04-09-2004, 09:58 PM

Hi, I am at 79 days, my fourth try since 2001.I will tell you what has helped me, because I realize I am also addicted to "doing too much" and when I am not working my 2nd and 3rd steps vigilantly(which everyone struggles with-who the hell wants to give up their "power"? (Smile)I find that journaling and writing out the obsessive worries helps, and then in turn writing a gratitude list.Slowing down takes practice. When I feel overwhelmed, I go into a place i created that has very little stimulus. I also say things like: I give myself permission to stop worrying,or I give myself permission to sleep. If you are having trouble sleeping a bath before bed, and the natural herb melatonin has helped somewhat....Sometimes just accepting that I am obsessing helps. I always seem to be fighting and fighting when I really need to LET GO and send all the worries up to my higher power....Practice and be patient with yourself!

love, Dublin

Chy · 04-09-2004, 10:32 PM

Hey Jess, I was on that rollercoaster last week myself! I had to get with the program and find an outlet and a way to pull the plug on a few things. Letting go asking for help, and following through with suggestions my sponsor made is what worked for me. I think I mentioned once if your plate get's full grab another? Whoa, bad advice. If the plate get's full, grab a smaller one!

dotcom · 04-09-2004, 11:27 PM

Thank you dublin and chy. I will try giving myself permission to slow down. I think that will be one big relief. HAHA. Chy, LOL. I will take your advice and get a smaller plate. I already cut back on things but I am so reluctant to give them up and convince myself that I can do it all. I cannot! Thank you for the reminder.

Hugs and prayers,

Dot

ButterflyChaser · 04-10-2004, 09:54 PM

OMG dot! U sound like me!! I go 90 to nuthin' in a matter of seconds! I have racing thoughts all the time! My words don't come out fast enough for my brain,,and let me tell u I talk pretty darn fast! lol (I'm hyper - active) Bouncy Bouncy Bouncy!! lol and just think...speed was my DOC!!! sometimes the speed would do a 360 on me & I'd be like tired & wanna pass out after doing it! weird huh? ever experience that one before?
but hey I love ya girl!~ ((((((((((((((((((dot)))))))))))))))))) :tongue2:

04-08-2004, 05:37 PM	#1 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,645	How to slow down? Help! I feel like I am going 75 mph in the school zone! I am not speeding in the sense of using, but speeding in my thoughts and driving myself to an early grave! Help! Ladies! Where are the breaks on this thing?! I have to get sleep and do things and cannot continue at this pace! Help! :banger Feels like it has been this way since... day one! Help! Road blocks! Nail strips! Its not that I feel like using, I feel like I am not doing enough and the damn addict in my is having a good laugh. Help! __________________ probably not.

04-08-2004, 05:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	I am right there with ya Dotster..I just reread a post of mine..and I know now why my hubby said to change my name to snowball. I think one thing...and I am onto another subject, another worry, another failure, another to do list...til I beg to collapse...but never really do. That energizer bunny ain't got nothing on us! Hah!!! We ought to be on them commercials..retire the bunny rabbit..we can go on like...FOREVER!! Outsell that suckers! LOL.....I am abit manic tonight,,sorry! I am thinking I will light a candle and do some breathing exercise..but I get irritate thinking about siting still, staring at flames and breathing. BOORRRING!! LOL.....With you having pneumonia and being sick and all your body is trying to adjust to your schedule again. man I feel for you. Wish i lived nearby..we'd go paint the town red...or blue..or something. have some relaxing good sober fun ya know? Is theer any music that helps calm your mind. I like the Art of darkness on live365..helps sometimes..also the celtic channels..they are really good too. Hope you get to feeling calmer soon. hugs coming your way! __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-08-2004, 09:12 PM	#5 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	Dotster! How are ya doing tonight? I sure hope you get some good sleep and real rest tongiht. I know it's rough. I agree with Anna about lavender..it's wonderful! Sending angels on your pillow....sweet dreams. :kisshug: __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-08-2004, 09:44 PM	#6 (permalink)
laurie6781 Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: New Mexico Posts: 1,784	Hey Dot: How you doing on the "journalling"??? You know it works for a lot of things, including "slowing down." When you're going 90 miles an hour, and you sit down, pull out the old spiral notebook and start writing, your committee has NO CHOICE, it slows down and shuts up. I don't know why this works, it just does, and it doesn't matter what you are writing, whether it's very important or just gibberish, lol. Try it, can't hurt. Sure helped this alkie, and still does. Love and (((((to all))))), __________________ God Bless You All As You Trudge The Road Of Happy Destiny (especially when you trudgin thru alligators up to your butt)

04-08-2004, 10:06 PM	#7 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,645	Hugs to all of you gurls, Thank you for the ideas! Tam, music that helps me... Hendrix! Yes, for some reason listening to Purple Haze makes me feel a little better and gets my head out of the s*** storm of thoughts. Lee, Oh! Good idea, a walk by the ocean sounds very nice. Very relaxing to smell the salt air and see the waves crash. Anna, thanks! I shall buy some lavender oil tomorrow at the store. That even sounds peaceful and relaxing. Thank you for the angels Tam. I sure need em! Laurie, ah yes.. thank you for the reminder. I must start up journaling again. You are so right. I found it would take away the stress and it "took me down a notch". I greatly appreciate all of your ideas. I hope to get them in action tomorrow, and I will try to listen to Hendrix and journal tonight. I cannot figure why I feel this way. Things are going well all considered. It is just... I dont know. I need to do these things and get a handle on me. HAHA. hugs and many thanks to you all! Dotster :elephant __________________ probably not.

04-08-2004, 05:53 PM	#3 (permalink)
Justme57 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne victoria Posts: 1,980 Blog Entries: 7	gee dotster , I cant really help you with this, I have the opposite problem ! Tamster has suggested music , would that help? or praps a walk . The ocean or a lake help calm me , for some reason, a walk by the beach is really calming . Just know I am thinkin of you HUGX Lee

04-08-2004, 07:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,026	Hi Dot, Yeah, that's it. You need to figure out what calms you and use that when things get too hectic. Sometimes it's a place. I've experimented a bit with aromatherapy and find that lavender oil is great for relaxing. You can use it in a bath, put a drop on your pillow at night, or warm it with a candle and scent the room. It really works! Love, Anna

04-09-2004, 07:15 AM	#8 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	(((((((Dotster)))))))) Hang in there lil sistah! I know it's tough..I need to get a handle on myself too, but have been thinking a good manhandling might just work. LOL.....Love ya girl.......((((((((hugs))))))))) Rock it on!!! __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-09-2004, 09:31 AM	#9 (permalink)
laurie6781 Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: New Mexico Posts: 1,784	Dear Sweet Dot: Some of it is just plain "normal" roflmao. It's spring sweetie!!!!!!!! The days are getting longer, the temperatures are warming up, and we are coming out of winter hibernation. And just think........you are actually feeling it!!!!! Instead of being numb. Isn't it GRAND?????? Enjoy my dear, enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love and (((((to all))))), __________________ God Bless You All As You Trudge The Road Of Happy Destiny (especially when you trudgin thru alligators up to your butt)

04-09-2004, 11:48 AM	#10 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,645	(((Tam, Laurie))) Today is a new day... and it is spring! I suppose I never really did stop to smell any roses before. Last spring I was... about 3/4 months clean but was quite a wreck. So this year is all new! LOL Tam! Thank you for all the support and encouragement Tam and Laurie. I will rock on! Hugs and Big Thanks, Dot __________________ probably not.

04-09-2004, 09:58 PM	#11 (permalink)
dublingirl Paused Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: brooklyn, new york Posts: 1	I am a New Yorker and know Exactly what you feel! Hi, I am at 79 days, my fourth try since 2001.I will tell you what has helped me, because I realize I am also addicted to "doing too much" and when I am not working my 2nd and 3rd steps vigilantly(which everyone struggles with-who the hell wants to give up their "power"? (Smile)I find that journaling and writing out the obsessive worries helps, and then in turn writing a gratitude list.Slowing down takes practice. When I feel overwhelmed, I go into a place i created that has very little stimulus. I also say things like: I give myself permission to stop worrying,or I give myself permission to sleep. If you are having trouble sleeping a bath before bed, and the natural herb melatonin has helped somewhat....Sometimes just accepting that I am obsessing helps. I always seem to be fighting and fighting when I really need to LET GO and send all the worries up to my higher power....Practice and be patient with yourself! love, Dublin

04-09-2004, 10:32 PM	#12 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	Hey Jess, I was on that rollercoaster last week myself! I had to get with the program and find an outlet and a way to pull the plug on a few things. Letting go asking for help, and following through with suggestions my sponsor made is what worked for me. I think I mentioned once if your plate get's full grab another? Whoa, bad advice. If the plate get's full, grab a smaller one!

04-09-2004, 11:27 PM	#13 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,645	Thank you dublin and chy. I will try giving myself permission to slow down. I think that will be one big relief. HAHA. Chy, LOL. I will take your advice and get a smaller plate. I already cut back on things but I am so reluctant to give them up and convince myself that I can do it all. I cannot! Thank you for the reminder. Hugs and prayers, Dot __________________ probably not.

04-10-2004, 09:54 PM	#14 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,023	OMG dot! U sound like me!! I go 90 to nuthin' in a matter of seconds! I have racing thoughts all the time! My words don't come out fast enough for my brain,,and let me tell u I talk pretty darn fast! lol (I'm hyper - active) Bouncy Bouncy Bouncy!! lol and just think...speed was my DOC!!! sometimes the speed would do a 360 on me & I'd be like tired & wanna pass out after doing it! weird huh? ever experience that one before? but hey I love ya girl!~ ((((((((((((((((((dot)))))))))))))))))) :tongue2: __________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~

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