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Shady · 01-17-2004, 02:10 PM

I am 9 days out of treatment and I guess you could say I am really feeling sorry for myself. They warned me my world was going to be the same and only I would've changed. But I thought my "friends" would be here still.

I'm sure everyone has been where I am. I never expected the isolation or loneliness. I don't know where to turn. I live in a smaller town and have made many mistakes while using. I am having difficulty asking for help. My husband is not on the same page as me in life and I feel that loss too. I realize it takes time and I need to live one day at a time. I've been clean for 48 days. I could use a friend or two if anyone has the time. Thanks

**51anna** · 01-17-2004, 02:15 PM

Hi Shady,

Welcome to SR. You've found a great place to hang out. We are a great bunch of friends and offer each other a lot of support and understanding as often as we can. The friends thing seems to be a fairly common occurrence. Our lives really do change (for the better, mind you!). For me it was not just stopping drinking, it was looking at all the reasons I had begun drinking, how I ended up where I was. That was what changed my life.
We're glad you're here and hope you keep posting.

Love, Anna

Justme57 · 01-17-2004, 02:16 PM

Hi Shady and welcome to SR!

You have come to the right place to find friends ! The people here are a gr8 bunch, very loving and supportive .

CONGRATS on your 48 days, that is an awesome effort

My name is Lee, and I am an Alcoholic, and live in Australia.
Do have a read around, and try out the chat room if you like , enjoy !

HUGX
lee

SkyIsFalling42 · 01-17-2004, 02:33 PM

Shady
Congrats on your decision and resolve for a better life! 48 days is awesome!! You are no longer alone, you have many sisters in recovery here, Welcome!

ButterflyChaser · 01-17-2004, 03:20 PM

Hi Shady!1 Glad u r here! You'll find alot of wonderful friends/friendships here on these boards, and you'll also see that you are NOT alone! I know & feel your pain about NO friends, when it's all said & done...who's really there for you at the end?? NO one but yourself! I know it's a lonely feeling, but if they were your friends while you were using then they are not your friends hon! I'm sorry. Have you gone to NA/AA meetings yet? I'm sure you'll find alot of new friends there, & get a sponser, & also KEEP COMING BACK HERE! wE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU
oH yEAH....congraTS ON YOUR 48 DAYS! WOOOHIOOOO!

boop64132 · 01-17-2004, 05:12 PM

Hi there Shady,
I know how you feel.I too have lost any friends because I gave up the booze.But I would give them up anyday to have my sobriety.
I know it is a lonely feeling...but you have us here at SR.

Hope to get to know you better.
Congrats on the 48 days!!!!

wakowife · 01-17-2004, 06:28 PM

Hi Shady: Welcome, you have accomplished something very valuable, TIME!!!!, all others will follow suit sooner or later, i have a little over a year clean, and sometimes i feel like it's all to much to take. but then i think about how much and how far i have come since i last used. hang in there i can tell you first hand that it's worth it

Bernadette

zoomer · 01-17-2004, 08:46 PM

Welcome to SRF. I too made lots of mistakes and will always make mistakes. What do I do? I just get back out in the world again a little bit at a time and ask for help for some of things I can't decide on to make my life better. No one deserves to feel so alone. (((((((((((Huggys))))))))))

Chy · 01-17-2004, 09:08 PM

Hi Shady and welcome!
This is a great place for support and friendship. It does take time to develop a new routine and find new friends. Do you attend meetings or have a support group?
Just stick with those people, as the old friendships will probably lead you to places you've worked to hard to get away from.

We're here for you.

2stop · 01-17-2004, 09:18 PM

~Shady~ Welcome to SoberRecovery! You have the right place for friendship and support, and am very glad you are here. You don't have to go through this alone. I joined this site last May, and the friendship and true caring and wisdom and hope from people here is so awe inspiring I hope you will continue to post and we will be honored to be your friend! We all are on the same path, and we need each other to keep going, to get comfort, and to give comfort.This addiction business is a tough cruel road to battle, I have fallen off the wagon so to speak myself just this week. Had been doing so well, then I did what addicts do...I used. I am having to look at my commitment to recovery, and what price am I willing to pay to have true peace and freedom. With addiction we forget and truly believe we have no choice...but we do...we really do. I have to start doing what recovering people do...work a program, surrender to the fact that I am an addict, I have to get clean, and then work on the mental part.....and I have to accept help. It is so hard, we all understand here, and we will not judge you, we will love you right where you, just as you are.....because we are all the same, and together we can beat this. Stick around, post anywhere you like, make yourself at home, you're family now.....and we will help and support you any way we can.....

***Big Warm Welcoming Hugs***

01-17-2004, 02:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
Shady Paused Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Glenwood Iowa Posts: 1	Hoping it gets better I am 9 days out of treatment and I guess you could say I am really feeling sorry for myself. They warned me my world was going to be the same and only I would've changed. But I thought my "friends" would be here still. I'm sure everyone has been where I am. I never expected the isolation or loneliness. I don't know where to turn. I live in a smaller town and have made many mistakes while using. I am having difficulty asking for help. My husband is not on the same page as me in life and I feel that loss too. I realize it takes time and I need to live one day at a time. I've been clean for 48 days. I could use a friend or two if anyone has the time. Thanks

01-17-2004, 02:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
Justme57 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne victoria Posts: 1,980 Blog Entries: 7	Hi Shady and welcome to SR! You have come to the right place to find friends ! The people here are a gr8 bunch, very loving and supportive . CONGRATS on your 48 days, that is an awesome effort My name is Lee, and I am an Alcoholic, and live in Australia. Do have a read around, and try out the chat room if you like , enjoy ! HUGX lee __________________

01-17-2004, 02:33 PM	#4 (permalink)
SkyIsFalling42 Big kitty nose hugs Join Date: May 2003 Location: Center of The World Posts: 1,261	Shady Congrats on your decision and resolve for a better life! 48 days is awesome!! You are no longer alone, you have many sisters in recovery here, Welcome! __________________ Love In Spirit, Sky Where my heart is....... http://Writing.Com/authors/skyisfalling02 "Never Give In, Never Give In, Never Give In, Never, Never, Never." ~~Sir Winston Churchill~~

01-17-2004, 03:20 PM	#5 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,023	Hi Shady!1 Glad u r here! You'll find alot of wonderful friends/friendships here on these boards, and you'll also see that you are NOT alone! I know & feel your pain about NO friends, when it's all said & done...who's really there for you at the end?? NO one but yourself! I know it's a lonely feeling, but if they were your friends while you were using then they are not your friends hon! I'm sorry. Have you gone to NA/AA meetings yet? I'm sure you'll find alot of new friends there, & get a sponser, & also KEEP COMING BACK HERE! wE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU oH yEAH....congraTS ON YOUR 48 DAYS! WOOOHIOOOO! __________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~

01-17-2004, 09:18 PM	#10 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	~Shady~ Welcome to SoberRecovery! You have the right place for friendship and support, and am very glad you are here. You don't have to go through this alone. I joined this site last May, and the friendship and true caring and wisdom and hope from people here is so awe inspiring I hope you will continue to post and we will be honored to be your friend! We all are on the same path, and we need each other to keep going, to get comfort, and to give comfort.This addiction business is a tough cruel road to battle, I have fallen off the wagon so to speak myself just this week. Had been doing so well, then I did what addicts do...I used. I am having to look at my commitment to recovery, and what price am I willing to pay to have true peace and freedom. With addiction we forget and truly believe we have no choice...but we do...we really do. I have to start doing what recovering people do...work a program, surrender to the fact that I am an addict, I have to get clean, and then work on the mental part.....and I have to accept help. It is so hard, we all understand here, and we will not judge you, we will love you right where you, just as you are.....because we are all the same, and together we can beat this. Stick around, post anywhere you like, make yourself at home, you're family now.....and we will help and support you any way we can..... *Big Warm Welcoming Hugs* __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

01-17-2004, 02:15 PM	#2 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,026	Hi Shady, Welcome to SR. You've found a great place to hang out. We are a great bunch of friends and offer each other a lot of support and understanding as often as we can. The friends thing seems to be a fairly common occurrence. Our lives really do change (for the better, mind you!). For me it was not just stopping drinking, it was looking at all the reasons I had begun drinking, how I ended up where I was. That was what changed my life. We're glad you're here and hope you keep posting. Love, Anna

01-17-2004, 05:12 PM	#6 (permalink)
boop64132 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Kansas City,Mo Posts: 478	Hi there Shady, I know how you feel.I too have lost any friends because I gave up the booze.But I would give them up anyday to have my sobriety. I know it is a lonely feeling...but you have us here at SR. Hope to get to know you better. Congrats on the 48 days!!!!

01-17-2004, 06:28 PM	#7 (permalink)
wakowife Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ozone Park, New York Posts: 281	Hi Shady: Welcome, you have accomplished something very valuable, TIME!!!!, all others will follow suit sooner or later, i have a little over a year clean, and sometimes i feel like it's all to much to take. but then i think about how much and how far i have come since i last used. hang in there i can tell you first hand that it's worth it Bernadette

01-17-2004, 08:46 PM	#8 (permalink)
zoomer Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: It's raining again! Posts: 2,353	Welcome to SRF. I too made lots of mistakes and will always make mistakes. What do I do? I just get back out in the world again a little bit at a time and ask for help for some of things I can't decide on to make my life better. No one deserves to feel so alone. (((((((((((Huggys))))))))))

01-17-2004, 09:08 PM	#9 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	Hi Shady and welcome! This is a great place for support and friendship. It does take time to develop a new routine and find new friends. Do you attend meetings or have a support group? Just stick with those people, as the old friendships will probably lead you to places you've worked to hard to get away from. We're here for you.

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