What happens now? - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Nicole97 · 12-07-2003, 01:28 PM

I'm a 19 year old little girl. I recently came to my mom with my problem: I'm an addict. Immediately I started counseling, and from my counselor's suggestions, I ended up here. My first and only question is WHAT DO I DO NOW? For the past year and a half, I would just use. If i was confused about something, I'd use. If I was happy, I'd use. If I was sad, I'd use. Now I'm not using, and I'm not quite sure what to do with all this free time I have. I can no longer associate with whom I once considered friends, and I really have no extra curricular activities. I haven't started going to meetings yet, perhaps because as humans we fear the unknown and I have no idea what to expect from a meeting. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Justme57 · 12-07-2003, 01:33 PM

Hi Nicole and welcome to SR!

I am an Alcoholic , myself, so am not able to offer you advice re substance abuse , but i am very pleased to meet you , and look forward to getting to know you .

You will find a wealth of information here on your problem, pull up a chair and have a read of the forums .

I am very sure that people much wiser than I will soon be along to steer you in the right direction

HUGX from downunder

Lee

Chy · 12-07-2003, 01:46 PM

Hi Nichole.. I promise there is nothing to fear by going to meetings. You'll be so glad you've found new friends who are walking in your shoe's been where you have been and understand your feelings.

The fellowship of AA/NA promises a new life with friendship, support and understanding. Give it a shot!

BTW.. Congrats on reaching out for help, being honest with your mom and seeking a solution! Awesome!

True Blue · 12-07-2003, 01:50 PM

Wow! You are 19 years old and able to admit you are a addict. Be so proud of yourself. I am 43 years old and used most of my life. Happy, sad even my childrens birthday party's, you name It I used. Try going to a meeting in your area. For me they have been a great help. Hey, today you have 5 days clean, keep up the good work. You are doing it. You and my daughter share the same birthday. girl, I could be your mom. LOL

**51anna** · 12-07-2003, 01:59 PM

Hi Nicole, welcome and you should be proud to have taken such a brave step. I'm an alcoholic as well, but the issue is the same. When I was drinking I became more and more isolated and gave up everything I liked to do. It took over my life. I was afraid to stop for fear that there would be nothing left in my life. But, surprisingly to me, my life opened up before me. You are right I believe, that you cannot associate with old friends who used. Do you work, go to school, do volunteer work? It's time for you to be able to move ahead with education, career, etc. Your life awaits.

Hugs and love,
Anna

Nicole97 · 12-07-2003, 02:54 PM

Thank you all for your encouraging words and kind thoughts. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in this journey. 5 days doesn't sound like a lot, but it's killing me. Knowing I have support from complete strangers who know exactly what I'm going through is inspirational. God Bless each of you!
Nicole

Paulie · 12-08-2003, 08:36 AM

Nicole -

I would also like to welcome you to SR and congratulate you on your new found sobriety.

I understand the fear of meetings and not knowing what to do now that you stopped using. I remember feeling that way too. There is more to life than using, it may not seem like it now, but the longer you stay clean the more you will understand that.

Take it just one day at a time. And keep coming back.

zoomer · 12-08-2003, 08:41 AM

(((((((((((((Nicole))))))))))))). I think that there is a girl your age here named dotcom. She is very sweet. You should be proud that you opened up to your mom and i'm sure she is proud of you! SRF is always open and you can post your thoughts any time!

12-07-2003, 01:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
Nicole97 Paused Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Pascagoula, MS Posts: 2	What happens now? I'm a 19 year old little girl. I recently came to my mom with my problem: I'm an addict. Immediately I started counseling, and from my counselor's suggestions, I ended up here. My first and only question is WHAT DO I DO NOW? For the past year and a half, I would just use. If i was confused about something, I'd use. If I was happy, I'd use. If I was sad, I'd use. Now I'm not using, and I'm not quite sure what to do with all this free time I have. I can no longer associate with whom I once considered friends, and I really have no extra curricular activities. I haven't started going to meetings yet, perhaps because as humans we fear the unknown and I have no idea what to expect from a meeting. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

12-07-2003, 01:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
Justme57 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne victoria Posts: 1,980 Blog Entries: 7	Hi Nicole and welcome to SR! I am an Alcoholic , myself, so am not able to offer you advice re substance abuse , but i am very pleased to meet you , and look forward to getting to know you . You will find a wealth of information here on your problem, pull up a chair and have a read of the forums . I am very sure that people much wiser than I will soon be along to steer you in the right direction HUGX from downunder Lee __________________

12-07-2003, 01:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
True Blue Pray For Our Troops Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,143	Wow! You are 19 years old and able to admit you are a addict. Be so proud of yourself. I am 43 years old and used most of my life. Happy, sad even my childrens birthday party's, you name It I used. Try going to a meeting in your area. For me they have been a great help. Hey, today you have 5 days clean, keep up the good work. You are doing it. You and my daughter share the same birthday. girl, I could be your mom. LOL __________________ Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success; for who so hopes strongly has within him the gift of miracles." Samuel Smiles

12-08-2003, 08:36 AM	#7 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,518	Nicole - I would also like to welcome you to SR and congratulate you on your new found sobriety. I understand the fear of meetings and not knowing what to do now that you stopped using. I remember feeling that way too. There is more to life than using, it may not seem like it now, but the longer you stay clean the more you will understand that. Take it just one day at a time. And keep coming back. __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

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12-07-2003, 01:46 PM	#3 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	Hi Nichole.. I promise there is nothing to fear by going to meetings. You'll be so glad you've found new friends who are walking in your shoe's been where you have been and understand your feelings. The fellowship of AA/NA promises a new life with friendship, support and understanding. Give it a shot! BTW.. Congrats on reaching out for help, being honest with your mom and seeking a solution! Awesome!

12-07-2003, 01:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,027	Hi Nicole, welcome and you should be proud to have taken such a brave step. I'm an alcoholic as well, but the issue is the same. When I was drinking I became more and more isolated and gave up everything I liked to do. It took over my life. I was afraid to stop for fear that there would be nothing left in my life. But, surprisingly to me, my life opened up before me. You are right I believe, that you cannot associate with old friends who used. Do you work, go to school, do volunteer work? It's time for you to be able to move ahead with education, career, etc. Your life awaits. Hugs and love, Anna

12-07-2003, 02:54 PM	#6 (permalink)
Nicole97 Paused Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Pascagoula, MS Posts: 2	Thank you all for your encouraging words and kind thoughts. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in this journey. 5 days doesn't sound like a lot, but it's killing me. Knowing I have support from complete strangers who know exactly what I'm going through is inspirational. God Bless each of you! Nicole

12-08-2003, 08:41 AM	#8 (permalink)
zoomer Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: It's raining again! Posts: 2,353	(((((((((((((Nicole))))))))))))). I think that there is a girl your age here named dotcom. She is very sweet. You should be proud that you opened up to your mom and i'm sure she is proud of you! SRF is always open and you can post your thoughts any time!

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