family business driving me insane

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please help me. im so angry right now i could spit. i work two jobs, one a fam business, the other i do the same thing at a diff place.

my father and his secretary continue to drop hints and tell my mom how i take too many breaks and i dont get my box cleared out....well, let me tell you! that secretary of his spends two hours reading the pennysaver and talking to her husband on the phone.

then i get confronted for eating while im working. personally, i think shes jealous of me because we are only a few years apart and she is married to an uneducated slob and has too many kids and too many bills. and my dad...well, he just treats me like im four years old.

sometimes i get so sick and tired of being treated like im in kindergarten! i get respect at my other job. darn skippy. i organized the heck out of that place.

well, thanx for listening. i hope i dont end up begging to be checked into a mental hospital anytime soon. i tried that once, and they thought i was overexaggerating. i wish i was...lol

[FOGBGONE]

Dot. Hello! I am praying for you ok. I have really bad anxiety and get overly emotional. I hate myself for it but I know that is me and I am working on it but you cannot let people take your positive energy and we have to stand up for ourselves even if it is not what the other person wants to hear. They may be angry or walk away but at least you did your part! We all deserve to be treated fairly and with upmost respect! I hope you the best. Stay strong and speak out!!! Bye bye

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thanks fogbgone


my dad just came home and i was angry. he pulled his usual behavior, but this time im walking away feeling semisane! apparently all the work i did over the past 6 months was actually done by his secretary...lol. your words really helped me. i can relate to being overly emotional. its so draining sometimes. i should just let it go. i feel good about the way i handled it even though it shouldnt have been so draining. once again this board and the people on it came to the rescue! thanx fogbgone.

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[FOGBGONE]

You are sooo very welcome!! Glad I could help. Anytime.

[Paulie]

He dot -

Practice makes better. I too get over emotional easily, I have to practice every day keeping my side of the street clean. And when I know it my heart that it is clean...what others say dont' bother me as much.

working for family is hard, my SO and I run our own business and sometimes........ahhhhhhhhh - belive me I understand.

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thank you for your support fogbgone and paulie

i hope to work on cleaning my side of the street soon...its getting real messy over here! on the up side, i have been really letting go of some of my codependencey today. instead of worrying that my dad is going to tell the secretary i told him what she said, im realizing that it was the truth so i have nothing to be worried about. i let one thing go today! and inside i feel wonderful. but yes, my side of the street is filthy. but its a lot cleaner than it was when i was using....that sounded like an excuse to me, did it to you? i need to buckle down and keep at it!

thanx again

[Paulie]

LOL - hey I think it is a good think when I start to recognize when I am making excuses...remember practice makes better.