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12-02-2003, 06:52 AM
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| Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: It's raining again!
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| girl talk (turning off the flame)
Girls, never in my life have I been in less control over my um drool over a guy! LOL, nothing is happing,but lord I don't know what came over me! It's so embarrassing to actually have the "hots" over a guy. I don't know if it's the age thing of turning 40 or what!!! It's nothing emotional and I really find nothing intelectualy stimulating about this guy,but (O'god) I look at his body and drool!!! It's over now I think because i don't have that feverish thinking about him,but what an alful thing to go through! It's like iv been sick or something and my hormones have a mind of their own. I think I might be going through the change early and will have to wear blinders around guys with nice bodys because I don't ever what to go through that again! This is kind of a wierd subject,but being I have noone realy to talk to about this, I thought I'd throw it out there. It's usally a guy thing to get all hot and bothered, I never thought women went through it too!
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12-02-2003, 08:40 AM
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Well Zoomer - First post I read this morning...hmmmm, what a way to wake up LOL! I know you love your husband and your family and that is what is important. Is it back to look, I don't think so really. You can't tell me that men don't look, I know that they do. I know my SO does, not disrespectfully in front of me but I know when he sees a beautiful woman walking down the street he looks. Is he thinking he wants to have sex with her? I hope not and I don't think so. but looking is okay. You have been through alot in these past months. Just stay focused on what is important in your life. Look but don't touch - LOL!
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12-02-2003, 08:46 AM
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Hey Zoomer, I always have uncontrolable urges to be with a man. Yet, for my experience I hold back when I can because I can't control my emotions once I sleep with them. My old behaviors come back to haunt me and I realize I still have behaviors I need to work on. I don't have these behaviors around my close in recovery girlfriends but always around a guy. Be careful!!! I'm not the one to talk because I could also say just jump in the sack with him; use protection and have fun. Just don't get emotional.
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12-02-2003, 09:32 AM
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LOL, you guys! I think in the past I was afraid to lust after a guy because of what I went through as a kid,so it's always been that "it was emotions" for me and a turn on for the guy. If I was feeling frisky it was because i had a drink or some in me. It's like repressed lust all my life. Paulie, i have no intentions of sleeping with this guy although I did think about it. LOL!!! Pam, I would love to have fun,but the cost is too high! Like I said before, it's my hormons or something that makes me feel like I'm in heat like a dog! I'v never felt pure lust before and I don't like it at all! It makes me feel like I have a fever and I actually want to jump on the guy. I'm over it really,but what a powerful thing to feel. No wonder guys take a cold shower at times!
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12-02-2003, 10:29 AM
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I almost posted that to you....Go take a cold shower!!! LMAO - I should have!!!!
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12-02-2003, 10:57 AM
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I'm like you Zoomer, as a young girl I didn't have the hormonal drive my friends did, my mother begged me to bring a boyfriend home..but damn after some the characters I had already been hurt by...it was not a priority. .....But now, I am 31, and I have to say I get a bit fantasy prone...and like to look. I would never ever cheat, not in million years. My husband is a flirt and it drives me bonkers......I have never been very flirtatious, but the past few months as I have sobered up...feelings are abounding, and good looking guys(with great personalities!) get me to fantasizing...it's harmless as long as it's just fun, and not serious...if it starts to get serious...well....run for the cold shower and shower til it passes..and you're too dang cold to even THINK of sex or intimacy..besides of snuggling alone under a blanket and having a nice safe dream! LOL....**hugs**
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12-02-2003, 11:29 AM
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*ROTFLMAO* Zoooooolomer!! OMG.. you have me laughing so hard.... my students think I've finally lost it!! I have a great appreciation for a good looking man as well... some day's I wan't to slap a Mel Gibson, George Clooney or Sean Connery Cut Out on hubbies face.. and well ... you figure out the rest! I heard the 40's were the hottest for us and ... nothing to do with hot flashes! *LOL* |
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12-02-2003, 03:16 PM
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Zoomer, you're such a hoot! And, I guess since your husband is a lucky man today, you found the right way to deal with your feelings!! You know what they say, 'life begins at 40'. Hugs and love, Anna |
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12-02-2003, 03:21 PM
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hi zoomer this post was a good one. im 19 and man oh man...trying to abstain. hopefully ill find the love of my life by the time im 27, because i dont think i can hang on much longer! lol, im just kidding...no im not...anyways. im single and that makes it much easier to abstain. and im not attracted to younger guys, just older ones...but NEVER married guys. or even guys in a relationship. even though im still afraid of men, my hormones sure arent! dotcom
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12-02-2003, 04:05 PM
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Zoomer - ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!
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12-02-2003, 06:41 PM
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I always thought women went through the sexual peak at age 30,so i guess my husband has something to look forward to when I get into my 50s! You would think though that after 6 kids and many of men that I have slept with in my younger age that there would be no more left for me to discover! It's like I got a wake up call from my hormones saying "hello,wake up it's time to play"! Dot com what I tell my older sons is to make sure they wear a rain coat if they are going to go into the storm. Even girls have to insist on the guys wearing protection even if your on the pill. Too many nasty things out there to mess with. Also, i don't think lust is a real feeling,but a basic instinked like hunger. It was like I was primal or something and havent had nothing to eat in years. ha, it's a pitty though that I wanted what was on another plate instead of what was in front of me,but had to eat it any way LOL!!!
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12-03-2003, 04:10 PM
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very right about the raincoat. needless to say, during my addiction i never bothered. but since ive been tested for hiv and came out negative im being VERY careful. but sometimes when theres a full moon...lol
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12-04-2003, 05:26 PM
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Zoomer! Was thinking of you and laughing today as I had a doctor's appointment with a new doctor for my hands. OH MY GOSH.. talk about a fine speciman of a man!!! *LOL* He was so fine in his black Armani suite and manicured hands. I nearly forgot why I was there and was so tongue tied when he examined me! It ought to be a law for a doctor to be so good looking! Thanks for the laugh! ...ohhh gee.. what did he say was wrong?  |
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12-05-2003, 04:13 AM
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Hey I am no expert here(on men) though I have three lusty sons even though one has the mental age of three he still likes a good looking girl/stroke woman, his actual age is almost 22 so he has the hormones!!! Also I am a lesbian, I have been with my partner for almost 19years, it gets wierder..........we also live with a German woman aged 37 and it is sexual, fun and love, we are all faithful to each other but does'nt EVERYONE look and lust? I hope so it shows we are still alive and kicking. aLSO HAVING fRAGILE X i am in the percentage of women who got early menopause.....It started at 28 years and now I am 48years I don't lose my drive don't want to or intend to and now Iintend to use it sober hey-ho (is that the right term) Keep looking and keep loving your man girl. I've found they look better (women of course) when I am sober and I don't see four of them when it's only one....hehehe (safe) love and hugs if you'll permit me Tchoa bizz Anniex
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12-06-2003, 03:18 PM
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LOL Zoomer I like how you use words, don't know what I am unleashing now I am sober maybe I'll get to work off those extra kilo's. Thanks for the other message. Tchao Annie
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12-06-2003, 04:56 PM
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howdy all, especially zoomer, i must admit i had seen this thread for a while and thought, i must go and have a look in there one day, wasnt sure what the title meant haha. well i have been wetting my pants here this morning reading all the comments haha what a hoot you all are. i remember as a younger girl lookign at old people (in their 40's) and thinking yuck about them having sex etc, now i am 43 and my kids think that of me haha. we brought their cradle out of the shed the other day, so it wouldnt get damaged and put it in the family room. well the kids nearly had a fit, they thought i was pregnant. the 10 year old rolled his eyes and said 'grosse', the 15 year old said, 'double grosse - i will have to move out" haha ( like that was all it was going to take haha) anyway as a 43 yr old i am still attracted to others, i like the look of a good body male or female. ( i am flexible annie haha) and i must say that sober sex is interesting haha, we learn something new everyday haha. thanks for the laughs, keep looking and i guess if it is still 'ticking' we are still breathing therefore still living hugs kath
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12-06-2003, 07:19 PM
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LOL Spirit,but I thought all kids knew they were from the stork! Annie,your just too much right 52! Me, I'm strait,but I can just picture you all having the best slumber party ever LOL!!! I mean it's like a cow with six utters going on there getting jiggy! (not impying none of you are fat)! What a hoot!
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12-06-2003, 07:30 PM
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howdy, you girls may be interested to know (but then you may prefer not to know) that our conversation inspired me to go and wake hubby and remind him why it might be a good idea to be a good boy and do as he is told haha. love it when they are half asleep - less chat hahahahhaha guess i'll get him helping with the garden today now hahaha udders not utters haha ah i remember them well kath
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